Guilty about the cost of your ring set/ help with choosing a wedding band

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Worker bee

If you can afford it,buy the wedding ring.  Incorporate it into the wedding ceremony and enjoy

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Just get the ring you want ๐Ÿ™‚ 

My entire set has cost Fiance almost $10,000 and we’re normally pretty budget savvy and frugal but homie, this is your WEDDING RING. 

You won’t regret having something you absolutely love

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

If it makes you feel better think about how much it will cost per wear. If you plan to have this permanently it is a very low cost per day!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

If you can afford it, I say go for the ring you want. You will be much happier that way!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I’d just get the wedding ring from the same jeweller. More peace of mind: You already love her work & the rings will be a true set etc. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

If you can afford it, go for it. My engagement ring and band will be equivalent to about 50% of our wedding budget (we aren’t including the rings in the budget). Yes, it’s a lot, but I’ll be wearing them everyday for the rest of my life.

You’re going to be wearing your rings everyday for the rest of your life – it’s better to get what you want now (as long as it isn’t putting you into debt) than buying several sets over your lifetime. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Engagement rings and wedding bands are expensive! That’s to be expected. Not sure what it’s like in UK but in North America the average price for an ering is said to be $5,000. It doesn’t sound like you’ve spent an outrageous amount of money at all. And if you can afford it, go for it! It’s worth the money IMO just because of what it represents. Don’t feel guilty. Just enjoy it. It’s a once in a life time thing. You found love! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I say go for it, its on your finger for the rest of your life, the wedding ring is just as important if not more, so why scrimp on it…I happily sport close to $17k on my wedding finger….why not !!!!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

If you want it, get it. 

My set cost around $20K. I chose my wedding band and I  wanted it designed where my bf designed my engagement ring. My bf designed and CHose the ring. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Gorse Hill, Surrey, UK

If it helps, I’m in the UK and my ering  cost £850 and wedding band was £650. I thought that was more than enough money to be wearing, even though there are other lovely rings out there that cost twice as much and we could have afforded, I just couldn’t wrap my head around blowing that much  money.  I got another wedding band in 9ct gold for  £250 that is more traditional that I wear as a stand alone and I don’t worry about it so much. eventually you will forget the cost side of things and just enjoy seeing them on your finger ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Agree with the other bees! If you can afford it, get the ring you want. That’s the ring you will look down and smile at for the rest of your life! 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

If you can afford the cost, I would get the ring you want, from the jeweller you trust. I balked a bit when I realised what the combined cost of my wedding and engagement rings was going to be (less then 2 thousand euros, but still a fair chunk of change), but then we decided to just bite the bullet as my husband and I both wanted rings that we would enjoy wearing for the rest of our lives.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I just went through this with my fiance. My engagement ring was upwards of $6,000 and when we went to look at bands, my fiance had pure sticker shock looking at prices. I think he thought women’s bands were going to be just as much as men’s bands – $200-$300. But most of them are $1,000 or more. I, too, felt guilty but you’re just not going to get much if you set the bar low.

We looked at a few, took about a week to talk it over, and we compromised a bit. My engagement ring is 18K rose gold and my jeweler said I could get the 14K version of the band I wanted for under $1,000. The 18K band is over $1,000 and she told me that the difference wouldn’t be noticeable. She ordered me a sample of the 14K to try on against my engagement ring and it looks perfectly fine.

She also cut us a deal where if we put down a deposit of half the day we were there, we didn’t have to pay tax – and my fiance could pay the rest off the ring off little by little before our wedding day. She literally said he could just drop in whenever he wanted between now and then and give as much or as little as he wanted.

So my advice is to see how you could work with the jeweler. Don’t compromise too much because like others have said, this ring is super important, means so much and will be on your finger forever.

 

 

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