Post # 1
I guess im not looking for advice so much as just a rant…Ugh apparently the drama llamas are out in force since last week.
Bees, I am a veteran and my husband is currently an active duty servicemember. Currently we are stationed away from our families and many of our close friends are spread out across the world and facebook is our main means of communications. Well Darling Husband and I are gun enthusiast. We believe in personal protection. We have both had training in gun safety, and in personal protection. Our guns are locked up safely and ammo is kept separate and both of us are licensed and we can carry concealed but we rarely ever do.
For christmas my Darling Husband surprised me with two new weapons. A .40 cal and 9 mm Smith and Wesson. I was over the moon because both of these are guns that I have previously wanted but wouldnt buy for myself. In my joy I posted them on facebook. Some of my friends were really happy for me but then someone posted the comment, “You are part of the gun problem, that is all”…I was kinda shocked…Im a responsible gun owner as is my husband. We enjoy going to the range and should anyone attack my home or family we would be able to defend ourselves. I couldnt understand the comment.
However it turned into a huge debate. People on my facebook started going back and forth. One person came out to ask why we needed more than one gun and should he be worried we were stockpiling? I dont know if he was joking or not. I just dont understand the big deal. Several of my friends are not speaking now because of this issue. I had no idea it would be so crazy. I was just happy to have a new gun.
So back to the girl who posted the comment, I tried to call her and she wouldnt answer her phone
I sent her an email asking her what that was about and why she would say something so callous like that. She and her husband attribute guns and gun violence to the rising racial divide and that by purchasing guns Im supporting that divide. Im like WTF??? I didnt say that to her of course, I said that I certainly respected her views but that was not my views and that I was only sharing the joy of my new christmas gifts with our friends and family far and wide. I told her that if she felt like that she could have said that in private to me and not have posted it on my facebook. Normally I dont have facebook drama…its our main way of communication with our families because we are so far from everyone, however after this im considering limiting facebook and finding an alternative to communicating with our friends and familie
Post # 2
We have friends that are like this. My family has a large number of active service members and veterans so we all love to talk guns and personal protection. My 3 best friends all own guns. My husband and I do not YET but plan on having at least one within the next few months. I totally side with you and think it’s SO rude when people want to press their opinions when they have no ground to stand on with them. Not their place. As my husband would say, you don’t have to comment or like posts on facebook if you don’t agree, just keep on scrolling by.
Post # 3
Yup, you totally have the right to own your guns….but considering everything going on in the world right now (which you know about firsthand!), I’m frankly surprised you’re so surprised at the response you got.
Post # 4
Mrs.MilitaryBee: As a future military wife, I can tell you that I simply stay out of these things because of the reaction of others! You just have to sit back and let people have their opinions if you post things such as guns, racial opinions, or your thoughts on the democratic/republican debate. It sucks that we can’t share our own thoughts without others attacking you or insulting you personally for what you believe in, but that’s just the way it is with social media.
At this point, ya just gotta let it be. There’s nothing really that can be done. Nothing you say will change their minds just like nothing they say will change yours.
Post # 5
Mrs.MilitaryBee: Communication is harder when you are living at a distance from your friends and family. The challenge with using social media to share is that you give everyone an opportunity to comment publically.
In days passed, before social media, people only knew what you told them personally, over the phone or told them in a letter. There was no group of people receiving the information all at once and haviing the ability to instantly comment and share with the whole group.
I am surprised that you would not foresee that not all your Facebook friends would think that receiving two guns for Christmas was a good thing. The “friend” who made the nasty remark, should have kept her opinion to herself, however, you also need to know that you are inviting comments when you post, and not all of them will agree with you.
Post # 6
Whether I or anyone else agrees with your views on guns is really irrelevant, but I would say your mistake was posting it on Facebook. Honestly? No one cares what you got for Christmas. And you had to know that posting photos of guns that you are going to keep in your home would cause some controversy.
Maybe it’s because I’m old, but my first thought is NEVER to post anything on social media. I like my privacy.
Post # 7
Mrs.MilitaryBee: I understand your friends point of view (I have family and friends on both side of the debate) but you have every right to have as many guns as you want. You know, that whole freedom thing. Don’t let her drag you down. Comments like that are just meant to cause drama. Let it be and enjoy your new Xmas presents
Post # 8
saratiara2: I think it just surprised me because we all try so hard to keep our facebooks pleasant. Most of our friends are military since my husband has served for so long and so are my friends. We all have different interest and we have always said that as friends we would be respectful of each other . I certainly dont always agree with everything my friends say or the things they post on their facebook however I respect their right to do so and as mrscross1020 said I can scroll on by. I usually do. Its not worth losing a friendship over.
Post # 9
Kikibear: Normally I dont, but since several family members gave advice to Dh on the purchase they had wanted to see and again we live far away from family and friends.
Post # 10
Mrs.MilitaryBee: That’s fair, but guns are a *very* polarizing issue right now, and one some people feel so strongly about they wouldn’t (or they might even say couldn’t) just scroll by. If I was posting something about abortion, or Syrian refugees I would expect responses from both sides too. Same with guns.
Don’t let it ruin your Christmas.
Post # 11
Even though my Darling Husband has several guns, I can’t imagine a scenario where he’d ever post a photo of them to Facebook. Even though it’s your social media account, you should know that posting something so controversial would trigger a response from those who are opposed to guns. It sucks, but that’s the world we live in. I would either delete the comments or the picture, or just ignore the response and let the people who are mad at you come around in their own time. You’ve tried explaining your reasoning but they aren’t listening, and that’s the most you can do.
(BTW I don’t think you’re wrong for posting the photo!)
Post # 12
That just sounds like facebook to me. Discussions and comments get out of control on far less controversial things.
Post # 13
I know everyone has their opinions. I have my own, but I always make it a point not to push my opinions on anyone else on their facebook pages. If I comment on someone’s post I always make a point either to scroll by if I dont agree or if I like something to be pleasant. The whole, if you cant say anything nice dont say anything at all, really does work with most our friends. It saves alot of drama…we respect each other and it keeps things pleasant…when your away from your family and friends, and when your spouse is gone for months at a time sometimes facebook is your only link to those who are far away and I just like mine to be nice.
Post # 14
I’m not surprised at people’s reactions. I am sure you are a responsible gun owner however, guns have done a lot of damage this year and putting that cannonball in someone’s evil/clumsy/incapable hands lies the problem. I know you are stoked with your present and that’s awesome, not everyone has that same view as you with so many negative connotations towards guns and the damage they cause. You posted it on Facebook which is a free for all…. Next time just control who is seeing your photos to the family you wanted to show.
Post # 15
I don’t know why you’d be surprised by a response like that. They are entitled to their opinions just like you are. I don’t know why you thought such a highly charged issue like this wouldn’t bring some comments? I wouldn’t post to facebook if you don’t want people to respond (good or bad). I don’t think anyone cares you got guns for christmas, but if you post, you should be open to comments. She thinks you’re part of the problem and many others will agree with her and others like yourself will disagree. Let it go and move on.