Post # 1
My husband and I bought our first house about 2 months ago. We love renovations, so we happily purchased a 100-year-old house that had been divided into two apartments. Now, 2 months later and with 3 months left until our baby arrives, I start to feel a little… well, not stressed, but perhaps overwhelmed in the sense that I find myself doing things that aren’t perhaps so critical instead of what really needs to happen. Like, re-upholstering an old rocking chair instead of working on the nursery, which happens to be a kitchen at this point in time:
As much as I’ve heard that little kids like white noise, I still feel like the fridge will have to move downstairs before baby makes an entrance. Apart from that… I feel totally lost. I know I want to rip out the carpet, and obviously we need to get rid of the cupboards – but should we keep the water and install a small sink for diaper changing purposes (we have a small bathroom, so I can’t fit the changing station there)? I’m thinking it might be super practical, but then again – I see lots of bees saying that they just change baby on their bed. Also, is it absolutely essential to have a nursery up and running by the time the baby arrive, or should we just take it slow and have the baby in our bedroom in case it’s still a work in progress come November? I realise there will be many different opinions in the matter, but as a first time mum with no previous experience of equipping a nursery I would really appreciate all the feedback I can get!
Post # 2
We didn’t have a nursery for Dear Daughter until she was over 6 months old. Her current room was still a guest room all that time. Her bassinet and changing table were kept in our enormous master bedroom closet, and that worked perfectly for us! Most diaper changes just happened downstairs in the laundry room — put a contoured changing pad on top of the dryer and presto, the perfect diaper change station.
You definitely don’t need to turn that kitchen into a nursery before baby is born, especially if the thought of it is stressing you out. Baby won’t care, and it will probably be months before you really want baby out of your room anyway. BUT, in terms of free time to get it done, you’ve probably got more of that now than you will once baby arrives, so there’s that to consider. Good luck!
Post # 3
I 2nd everything that iarebridezilla says. You don’t need a nursery right away. My DS only saw his nursery for diaper changes during the first 4 months, and that was only because I like to put the poopy ones in the diaper genie instead of the regular trash.
However, once you have a newborn, you most likely won’t have the time or motivation to sort through paint swatches and cutesy artwork on Etsy. You may get a giant nesting urge at the end of your pregnancy too, and that’s the perfect time to pour your energy into nursery design.
One more detail I would add is that I would definitely NOT keep the water on in the nursery. It might be convenient when you’re changing a newborn, but when your newborn becomes a toddler and you put him/her down for a nap only to find their bedroom flooded 10 minutes later, you’re going to wish they didn’t have such easy access to a water source.
Post # 4
eocenia: I think what I would think about is the nursery goint go turn into the older kid room? Most parents I know don’t need water right there to change their child, and I would be worried about a two year old playing with the water or sticking things down the pipes when you aren’t looking.
Post # 5
iarebridezilla: Good point about wanting the baby close. I think I’m just a little swept away by cute nursery layouts and want to have it ready for that reason. In reality, I think I would have a really hard time sleeping if little one wasn’t in the same room as us. Besides, it would feel a little cruel now when I think about it – husband, kitties and me all cooped up in one room and then baby all alone in the nursery. Nope, I’m not going to stress this after all. It will have to take the time it takes.
ExcitedScaredBee: We would definitely remove the water source before baby is old enough to cause a flood! We decided to buy this house partly due to flooding issues at the place we rented before (sewage flood… so horrible) so I think we’ll pretty much do anything in our power to avoid future ones! That said, from the sound of it our baby will stay in our bedroom until it’s at least closer to 6 months and then I’m thinking it might not be worth the work to do the conversions.
Misswhowedding: You’re right, I’ve changed babies/toddlers before without water next to me and that has worked out just fine.
Post # 6
I was adament about having our nursery finished before Dear Daughter arrived – and it ended up being the right call because I had trouble sleeping in the same room as her (she was a grunty baby!) and we moved her to her crib at one month old. But plenty of people do have baby share a room with them for months so you very well may not need a nursery for some time. Also, a changing table is really not necessary. You will find you change the baby wherever. 🙂
Post # 7
Our baby will arrive in Nov too and we just got the nursery furniture in. I wanted it done because I’m a planner and also the thought of taking care of a newborn and putting a nursery together doesn’t sound fun to me. Our baby will be sleeping in our room for a few months but I’d like to attempt to have him nap in his crib so he starts to get used to it when we transition to the crib all night.
Post # 8
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eocenia: Echoing some of the sentiments of the other posters… you definitely don’t need a finished nursery. My little guy was in our room for the first 4 months (easier to breastfeed if he was right there vs walking up the stairs to his ‘room’). To be honest we barely used the room until he was closer to 6 months and even then nurseries are sort of like hotel rooms… you’re only in them to sleep so all those cute decorations are sort of wasted. I’d think about the areas where you are more likely to be during the day (living/family room/kitchen) and create baskets for each with things you’ll need on hand that you’ll need; magazines, remotes, bottles of water, easy snacks like granola bars etc, diapers/wipes/ and multiple changing pads (because a changing table for the most part won’t be used… you’ll just end up changing the baby where ever is most convenient.)
I will say that putting together his ‘toddler/big boy’ room was a 1000 times more fun than the nursery. You’ll still have the opportunity to put a fun/designed stamp on the room in the future!
Post # 9
My parents apparently placed my brother and I in our own rooms from the first night we were home. They set the baby monitors up and slept in their own room. That being said a lot of my friends were onyl moved to their own rooms at a few months so totally depends on you and the child.
Post # 10
Thanks to everyone that commented on my original question – we’ve since then revised our plans and decided to stay downstairs at least for the first few months after baby has arrived. That means that I don’t have to deal with stairs if I’m not feeling great and that we have more time to do things properly upstairs and not stress the renovations (really want to avoid shortcuts due to time constrain). Since we’re staying downstairs we’ll be sleeping in what will eventually be our sitting room. This room will fit out queen size bed, bedside tables and the baby’s crib – but not a changing table. So I’ve been trying to come up with creative solutions and now I want to shout out a big thanks to iarebridezilla: , your closet comment made me realize that we did have the means to construct what I think might be the worlds smallest baby room. 🙂
It’s not done yet (need to put up the little white shelves and some more storage), but thanks for making me think inside the closet!
Post # 11
eocenia: I guess sometimes you need to remember to think [puts on a pair of sunglasses] inside the box? 😉
I’m glad you were able to find a solution! And a relatively low-stress one at that. Just keep plugging away slowly at getting that kitchen turned into a nursery, and it will be done in plenty of time for baby to actually move in.
Post # 12
iarebridezilla: Totally low stress, just had to clear out the gunk that was in there and paint it. Best thing is that we don’t have to get a changing table that we can’t use for much else once baby doesn’t need it.
And we’ll definitely keep working on the proper nursery, as baby will eventually outgrow the closet. 🙂