Post # 1
My Fiance pouted for weeks after I recieved my e-ring, and when I surprised him with a quality, tungsten ring (he’s a civil engineering intern, plenty of down and dirty digging pipe etc) he was incredibly pleased. I think men get the short end of the stick on this one. I know a Bee blogged about this recently, but I wanted to discuss it more! We catch alot of crap about it from people who dont know us well enough to know the backstory, like “Oh, I thought you were engaged, why is he wearing a ring already?” Even so far as for people to gravely warn us that its ‘bad luck’ for a man to wear a ring before. Sadly, some people even think I’ve forced it on him as a way to “stake my claim” like I’m a jealous nutcase. (side note: does that make men jealous nutcases for giving US an obvious “im taken” signal?)
Although I originally thought it was kind of strange, I couldnt be happier that he wants to wear something like that before he technically “has to”. He goes out to bars with his guy friends a lot, which I’m perfectly fine with (which I think just reinforces that I’m not some controlling fiance!) and it makes me happy to know that some skank across the bar knows whats up without any awkward look-im-not-interested convo from my totally handsome Fiance.
Sorry for the rambling! ANYWAY.
Did your man want an e-ring, secretly or not so secretly? Did you give him some other gift in exchange?
Post # 3
I haven’t bought it yet, but I’m planning on getting him a nice pocket watch. It’s funny, I was planning this and once, during a wedding discussion, he mentioned he wanted a top hat and cane. He said he wanted to look regal, like somebody who would check the time on a pocket watch 🙂 I’m going to give it to him after he proposes, and he can use it on our wedding day. It’ll be good too, since neither of us will, hopefully, have our phones on us as a time reference.
It’s this one: http://www.amazon.com/Charles-Hubert-Paris-Mechanical-Pocket-Watch/dp/B002NSMFF0/ref=wl_it_dp_o_pC?ie=UTF8&coliid=I745PHI89XG1E&colid=202OQ31I3R4YP
Post # 4
@Mashiara: I don’t understand why some people have given you and your Fiance that kind of response. I think it’s a very sweet gesture on your part. My Fiance has never voiced that he wanted an e-ring because he already has a ring on his finger….a promise ring. When we first started dating, he gave me a beautiful promise ring and I wanted to do the same. I surprised him with tungsten ring and had a message engraved in it for his birthday last year. We both wore our promise rings on our “wedding finger” until we became engaged 7 months later. He still wears his promise ring and loves it.
Post # 5
i got a promise ring from my fiance and afterwards he started saying that he wanted to have something that said he belonged to me. at first i was going to get a pocket watch (he loves watches!), but i decided to save that for our wedding. so i got him a ring for his birthday and he loved it! he wears it all the time. his buddies like to give him a hard time about it (they’re marines, it’s what they do, lol), but they think it’s cool- even if they won’t admit it. the girlfriends/wives of his buddies love it and are always making him show it to people.
Post # 6
@Mrs. Bear Cheese Pie: That is the classiest thing I’ve ever seen! It would also be a perfect gift to engrave!
I too had a promise ring! Question…what have you done with your promise ring? I had mine a year before we got engaged, and it was sterling, so its gotten a little beaten up over the year. Its just been sitting in a box, and I hate to think of it sitting lonely! Unfortunately, the diamond in it is something like…1/8 carat. It wouldnt be cost-effected to pull out the diamond to use in anything else, like I know some people do with their ‘starter ring’ after they upgrade. I was hoping to engrave his ring for his birthday, but its coming up and I cant seem to catch him with the dang thing off for long enough to hide it away somewhere! When you engraved your FI’s, did you tell him you were doing it so he would surrender it, or what?
Post # 7
@Mashiara: I still wear my promise ring on my right hand and I plan on wearing on my wedding day. Like yours, my promise ring has a diamond but nothing compared to my e-ring but I love it so much that I didn’t want to put it away and never wear it again.
As far as the engraving, when I ordered the ring I had the option of engraving it for free and I thought it was a really cute idea so I went ahead with it. I ordered my FI’s find on Zales. He didn’t know about the engraving until I gave it to him. His reaction was priceless. He never expected it 😉
Post # 8
ive posted before about this… i bought my Fiance and myself matching commiment rings when we got engaged, they are engraved tungsten and we both wear them on our right hands.
hes not a ring type man but he actually loves it and he said he plans to wear it after the wedding.
i will also be giving my Fiance a pocket watch for the wedding.he collects them and has all of his deceased fathers. i am buying mini ones for the groomsmen as well.
Post # 9
He didn’t ask for anything, but he’s pretty traditional, so I’m not surprised!
Post # 10
I got my fiance a tungsten bracelet as an engagement gift. It should go nicely with his tungsten wedding band!
Post # 11
mine barely wants to wear the W ring itself.. “metals irrate his skin” he says.
I say, get some itch cream!
anyways.. I think it’s a cute idea 🙂
Post # 12
I love this idea! I brought it up to Fiance and he looked at me like I had 6 heads and responded “what would I do with an engagement ring?”…Uhh, wear it? He’s pretty traditional so I’m not surprised (I got him a big fancy 50” plasma instead of a ring), but I really do love the idea of both partners having a ring!
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We both wore engagement rings. Shortly after we got engaged we went wedding band shopping for Mr. LK. At that time he decided that he, too, wanted an engagement ring. So I bought him a gold Claddagh ring that he chose, and he wore it every day until a few hours before our wedding ceremony. Now he wears his wedding ring every day and his Claddagh sits in my jewelry box while Mr. LK figures out what he wants to do with it.
You have to do what works for the two of you and ignore anyone who has something negative to say about it. It’s their problem, not yours.
Post # 14
I commented on the other thread about this as well – Fiance really wants his own ring. We’ll get him something eventually, because he’s been nagging me non-stop in the meantime.
But I thought I’d post again because I just met a couple this past weekend, and the Fiance in their relationship went out and bought himself a ring after he proposed. After he saw how happy she was with hers, he decided he wanted something fancy for himself so he went ahead and bought it.
I don’t understand the reactions your getting, who cares if he wants a ring!
Post # 15
Funny that you posted this, because on a couple of occasions my fiance has asked if I wanted him to wear a ring. He isn’t the type to mention something unless he likes the idea. So yesterday, I ordered him a titanium ring. I did propose to him, so it’s only fair he has a ring too. 🙂
Post # 16
My FI’s titanium ring came in today. Here’s a pic of our e-rings together. 🙂