- 5 years ago
I know my darling girlfriend frequents this site, so I have to be vague on some of my details.
After months of searching for the perfect ring for her, I finally found it and ordered it and cannot wait for it to come in so I can finally propose! I thought I had decided how I was going to propose but I am worried after reading some of the posts on how ladies have been disappointed with their proposals.
To add to my worries, my girlfriend was engaged before, and her ex proposed in a very romantic and clever way. I had a very similar idea for my proposal and ran it by one of her friends, who told me that she was proposed to by her ex that way. So not only do I have to find a different way to propose, but my proposal will no dobut be compared to her previous proposal.
I am sad to see that so many ladies did not like their proposals. I want to assure you, that from a guy’s point of view, just because the guy doesn’t put months into planning, it doesn’t mean that it is any less heartfelt. I am completely nervewracked thinking about this and the idea of putting myself out there asking my girlfriend to be my wife will probably be the biggest, most intimidating question I will ever ask someone. Having a job interview with Bill Gates himself would be less intimidating.
To my point, what do I need to do to make her proposal memorable?
Since my original idea was kaboshed, I was thinking of taking her to a place that was special to us. She knows a proposal is coming sometime but I want to surprise her with the time and place. The only thing she has requested is that it not be in public where a lot of people would be watching. I had considered proposing to her at a ball game but now I won’t.
Or, instead of taking her to a place we’ve been to, do I take her somewhere completely new and that would make it obviously a special place for us?
I don’t have the money to wisk her off to Paris. Well, I do, but we’re saving up for a house and that would put a big dent in my savings. I guess what I’m asking is do I have to do something BIG?
Do I have to have someone there to photograph the moment itself?
Do I have to have a bouquet of flowers hidden to give afterwards?
Should I have a party immediately planned for us to go to so everyone can congratulate us?
I didn’t realize until I started reading some of the posts on this site that women are extremely interested in the details of the actual proposal. Guys (at least none that I know of) don’t ask another guy how they proposal. When my friends told me that they proposed, I didn’t ask how they did it, just offered congrats.
I just want to give my darling something memorable without being “that guy”, the guy that puts on a huge PDA.
I hope some of this is making sense because I am overwhelmed. It was hard enough picking out a ring!
I would love to hear from you ladies.