Guy Shopping for Engagement Ring

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Could you show us what rings she posted on her Pinterest? I’d say stick to something very similar, if she’s posting it there as a hint to you anyway!!!

Post # 33
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980 posts
Busy bee

Karl Fleming :  If you decide on moissanite, check out Moissaniteco.com. They have wonderful settings and you can email to customize the ring how you would like. They also just came out with the new Forever One emeralds and are colorless and bright white if that is something you are looking for as well. Here are some similar rings you posted up above.

https://www.moissaniteco.com/emerald-moissanite-petite-halo-engagement-ring-p-19368.html

https://www.moissaniteco.com/emerald-cut-moissanite-engagement-ring-p-19319.html

 

 

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

You’ve done a great job gathering intel. Nice work. You have clarity on shape and cut. I think moissanite in a platinum or palladium setting is a great choice given that it won’t react to chemical like gold can.

This is what she pinned. https://www.instagram.com/p/BM8a2MklhTN/?taken-by=moissaniteco

BUT…the setting that she pinned have the melee (tiny diamonds) pave set (how the diamonds are held/look is called pave). Pave setting is lovely and very popular right now, but more fragile than other ways to hold diamonds. It will also be a PITA to keep clean — any tiny diamonds will be a PITA to keep clean. Really. My advice is to keep to larger stones that are more open and can be cleaned. Will she thank you for choosing a setting that is practicle, but not exactly what she wanted? You know your girl. I always choose practical, but not all do.

From a gemological perspective, moissanite and diamonds are very close in hardness (which is a test of scratchability), likliness to chip, and most other important elements.  Chart about 1/2 way down this page. http://www.doamore.com/diamonds-vs-moissanite/ . In gemstones with her work, I would not recommend one. Sapphires/rubies actually scratch pretty easily. With exposure to a metric ton of glitter and sand and paper (if my 7 year old’s art is any clue), I fear that they will not survive. For her specific needs, stick with moissanite or diamond.  

More options (some with a bit of bling, cause that is what she pinned!):

 

If you go with a solitaire that allows a flush wedding band, she can always easily add more rings to stack and bling things up. She could vary what she wears based on that day’s art goals.  You can never go wrong with a solitaire. It is simple and classic and if you get one that allows a flush band, it will give her flexibility.

 

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

p.s. On her love of rustic, hand made (aka athropologie, etc.). I love handmade jewelry. The styles by both of your inspiration links is rustic and self-consciously hand-made looking. My advice? Stick with a classic and elegant solitaire that will allow a flush band. She can add rustic bands to ‘roughen up’ the edges of the style. But, the main Engagement Ring retains its timeless quality that will age with her and any present trend or fashion. 

Salt and pepper, black, grey, or other atypical looking diamonds? I love them. If she has self-confidence for days and truly does not follow trends or care what people think (including family), than go for it!  She is in a high person-contact field. Kids saw whatever comes in their heads and adults are not much better. How is she going to feel the 1000th time she is asked why the diamond is so cloudy, not clear, looks unfinished, etc.? I would tend to stick with a classic ering and use the wedding band to add some more personal flair.  I’m not suggesting conformity to the DeBeers model, simply suggesting that you think about how she would respond to non-conformity in this one item of her life.  

 

Post # 37
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Karl Fleming :  it’s timeless and classic, she will love it 😊

Post # 38
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Helper bee

Karl Fleming :  I have a ring from Brilliant Earth – I LOVE them. Their customer service is amazing, and my ring might be smaller than those owned by my friends and family, it is made with such amazing craftsmanship and the diamonds sparkle like I can’t even tell you. Plus the ethics behind that company are amazing. When I took my ring to get appraised the gentleman said that it was the finest work he’s seen in a while. The diamond you chose is gorgeous and I am sure she’ll love it! 

My fiance tells me now how he accidentally bought the wrong diamond and called them a week before delivery praying it wasn’t too late and they swapped it out for the one he wanted with no problem. We will be going through them for EVERYTHING. 

ALSO, if financially possible, consider the insurance company they partner with, Lavalier. I had an accident with my ring and had to get a prong retipped which was pretty expensive because my ring is platinum too, and I had a check from them within a week covering the full repair. If she’s tough on her jewelry, it might be worth it to insure. I think it cost my fiancé a hundred dollars or so for the year, and that’s with no deductable. It’s already paid for itself three times over. 

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Karl Fleming :  Lovely combination of classic & unique. Best wishes.

Post # 40
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Helper bee
Post # 41
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I think it’s perfect! Really good job, she will LOVE it! 

Post # 44
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

LOVE the Brilliant Earth ring you posted! It’s elegant and simple and perfect! 

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Karl Fleming :  don’t forget that she can get a wedding band to add visual interest. Say she really loves pave, she can get a pave band. Or, you can go all out on an engagement ring and get something pave with a halo (like she pinned), and she can choose to only wear her wedding band while at work. A lot of nurses do! 

I talked up moissanite a lot with my fiancé before we got engaged. Yes, I would have LOVED a diamond, but due to budget I didn’t want to pressure him with the $. I think the whole story of moissanite is cool, no that you can say you have a rock from the stars (which is a stretch but romantic nonetheless). 

When he proposed he used his mom’s original ring which was a diamond that was in a setting I disliked. But for the 15 mins I thought he had chosen it, I was in love with the ring because *he chose it*. I think you’re going the right direction, so I want to encourage you to not get too worried about the process and enjoy picking out the ring. And I hope you tell us what you chose 😀

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