Guy Shopping for Engagement Ring

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 62
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37 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2018

 

Karl Fleming :  Hi Karl, from what I’ve just skimmed over reading the PP and about your girl – she seems kinda similar to me! I’m a graphic designer (and arty obvs) and wanted an emerald cut and loved sapphires (but stricly NOT for an engagement ring).

I think the last two links you posted look great! Just be careful with the colour G in emerald cuts can look a bit a yellow as the long facets show colour more. I think I noticed yellow more than others due to my eye for colour which is due to my job! She might like a yellow tone though.

If she’s posting stuff in her pinterest with halos (like I did)  I agree with PP and think thats what she might like more than a solitaire. And will make a smaller diamond look bigger. Also when I was hoping my Fiance was looking at my pinterest (he wasnt haha) I was hoping he saw halo and freaking out that he would get a bezel set (I’m personally not a fan) so chances are she’s posted to pinterest very purposefully. Good job on looking at her pinterest 🙂

I ended up with my dream ring – emerald cut halo in 14k white gold and becuase emerald cuts are the second cheapest (the cheapest being ascher) per carat and the halo – people are very impressed by my ring … here is the link! Because I helped design it i know we paid HALF of what it is valued at from a wholesaler. 

http://gallery.weddingbee.com/photo/my-0-7ct-emerald-cut-diamond-with-delicate-halo/

I hope this helped – i just felt the need to comment becuase she sounds a bit like me haha (And I friggin love my ring)

Post # 63
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37 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Karl Fleming :  Oh i forgot to mention my halo never catches on anything – i have a non halo ring of my grandmother’s that catches a lot though.

Post # 64
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2005 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Karl Fleming :  you may not think a halo is practical but sounds like she wants it. Since she’s the one wearing it, let her have the halo she wants rather than make it about what you think she should have! No jewelry is practical.  You’re under budget by several hundred. A small diamond halo will be a little more but not that much and it would be sooo pretty. More importantly, was it mentioned that it’s what she wants?! Haha

Post # 65
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944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Karl Fleming :  I think your really over thinking things here….. Just because shes an art teacher doesn’t mean she shouldn’t get a halo.. She will be wearing it not you it seems like that’s her style and your totally disregarding it… You asked us for our advice and we’re trying to help you so your girlfriend will be happy with the choice you make… 

Post # 67
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465 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Karl Fleming :  no offense, but that comment came off a bit sexist. You’re the voice of reason? You’re often correct? You want to minimize her responsibility? That comes across as very 1950s “don’t you worry your pretty little head over this” paternalism.

If she wants a halo, get the halo. The diamonds won’t fall out and they may get dirty, but it’s a cleanable ring. I moonlight in the beauty industry but teach during the day. Never have had a problem. And if I did, the ring is insured. It comes across that you don’t want it because you don’t think it is practical. That’s not necessarily fair if that’s what she’s been pinning and pineing over and you want to make her happy by getting her a dream ring. 

Post # 68
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28 posts
Newbee

Karl Fleming :  Just to touch on your point about it needing to be simple bc she’s an art teacher, rings don’t take very long to clean. One with a halo wouldn’t take any longer than a simple solitaire. If she would be cleaning it anyways because she’s working with materials it might take a few extra seconds longer to get the extra stones. Compare that to the potential time, long term that she will love her ring! I’m sure her satisfaction with the ring would definitely be of higher value long term than saving a few seconds throughout her day. If you can tell she truly likes halos more than solitaires, don’t let some extra stones stop you from getting it.

Editing to add, is there something in particular that a halo will hinder her with as an art teacher? The materials getting caught in it? Or the halo getting caught on things?

Post # 69
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Bumble bee

I think it is nice that you are taking into consideration what will be simple and easy to care for, but to touch on what others have pointed out, the ring should be regarded first and foremost as a symbol of love and your relationship. To start out assuming it will be a burden if it is too fussy (for example, having a halo) is not the point. I would much rather spend an extra minute cleaning a ring I loved versus less time over one that I felt “okay” about.

Also, as an artist (you said your SO was an art teacher), I am usually very particular about my taste in jewelry, so if I were you I would stick very closely to one of the things she has put up on her pinterest.

Post # 70
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356 posts
Helper bee

Karl Fleming :  Meganquita :  I didn’t think your comment was sexist at all. I’m often the voice of reason in MY relationship- and he appreciates it just as I suspect Karl’s gf does. Just because the guy happens to be better at something doesn’t mean it stops being true.

If she has multiple styles on her Pinterest, that to me says it’s up to you to choose. So go with what you want. She’s lucky who has a guy who cares so much.

My advice now? You’ve learned a lot about stones and settings. Go make the decision you’ll be happy with before this thread becomes more than it needs to be. 🙂

 

Post # 72
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944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Karl Fleming : Your comment was totally sexist I agree with PP jeez dude i was only trying to help you and no offense if your so confident in knowing what she wants then get it but my personal opinion i think your too focused staying on your lower end of your budget.. Best of luck getting a ring for her 

Post # 73
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1743 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t think his comment was sexist at all. Geez people go crazy on these boards.

Post # 74
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1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Karl Fleming :  canyou get a solitaire in a setting that can easily be converted to a halo? That way if she does want the halo, she can always add it after the fact. 

Just don’t talk her out of the halo if she actually does want it because you are the “voice of reason”. I’m a tad worried her actual preference will be steam rolled by you and what you think is best. My ex husband was like that with my old engagement ring. He got my second choice because HE thought it was better, completely ignoring what my absolute number one choice was. 

Also, if I was an art teacher and getting my hands that messy, I’d take my ring off. So I wouldn’t worry about the cleaning issue. 

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