Guy Shopping for Engagement Ring

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 76
6294 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

Bit late to this, but wanted to say that halo styles are not necessarily less durable or harder to look after than solitaire styles. I have a diamond cluster in a halo, with diamond-set shoulders, and a diamond wedding band, and I wear them 24/7. It is not difficult to clean, and I haven’t damaged them/lost any stones. I have been wearing my wedding set for 2.5 years, and my engagement ring for 3.5. I wear them in bed, in the shower, zip lining, scuba diving, swimming, weight lifting, boxing… The list goes on. Itonk take them off for messier things like applying fake tan/body butter/marinating meat/etc, and I would do the same regardless of style. So I really would not worry about cleaning or durability, and would focus on style/design. 

Post # 77
915 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I agree that I do not think the comments he made were sexist. I’m pretty sure his gf would agree with them so that’s between the 2 of them. 

Karl, I agree with a PP that you may want to close the thread because some people get their panties in a bunch over the smallest things. Go with your gut and I know she’s going to love whatever you get for her!

Post # 78
346 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Karl Fleming :  She is leaving it up to you, and I have no doubt you will pick something beautiful and she will love it. Not sure why everyone is going on and on about a halo and sexism lol.

Post # 79
2510 posts
Sugar bee

barbie86 :  I totally agree — I take off any rings I’m wearing regardless of how ornate or simple they are when I’m doing stuff like cooking. I think choosing a lower setting that doesn’t get caught on stuff makes sense for an everyday ring, but other than that I would worry way more about style.

The rings on her pinterest board are clearly favoring sparkly embellished settings (pave or halo) and finger coverage. I’d take that as an indication that she wants something like that. If I pinned something to a board hoping my boyfriend would see it, I’d want him to stick closely to my inspiration photos. I don’t say these things to be harsh, just because sometimes the factors that the guy thinks are important might not be the ones she thinks are important, and the OP clearly really wants to pick something she will love.

Also: unless she has specified that lab created is okay, I’d be pretty wary to go there. Especially for artsy types, the “authentic” has a premium, and it doesn’t have to do with it being the same hardness or chemically the same. I would not be okay with a lab-created stone – and there are plenty of ethical diamond choices. 

Post # 80
2006 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

VintageGirl1020 : I agree with you on both of your observations.Hope fiance doesn’t show up here questioning why a push to stay at the low end budget and why preferences weren’t prioritized.  Not that we’ve seen those posts before hahaha!

Post # 81
587 posts
Busy bee

From looking at the examples from her pintrest, it does look like she prefers rings with a little bit more bling than just a solitare on a plain band.  If you don’t want to get her a halo, I would still seriously consider a ring with side stones down the band.  With side stones they don’t always have to be pave and delicate each with their own claws.  For example you can get princess cut side stoness placed together down the band, kind of bezel set.  I tried to copy a link, but it won’t work 🙁



Post # 82
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

SoonMrsCrocker2 :  I know right ???? My gosh I feel like I’m the only one picking up on this too… I would never pinn a ring I hated lol 

Post # 85
465 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

vikingbride89 :  thanks. I honestly don’t care if people think I was being ridiculous,  but I always appreciate validation when I call somebody on subtle or obvious sexism. I don’t think the OP is a bad guy or sexist in general. I just wanted him to consider how he was coming off 😉

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