(Closed) Guy wants to marry me and I'm freaking out! Please, please help!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I think it’s pretty obvious that you don’t love him and you should end the relationship. I believe that partners should be able to lift each other up and in your case the guy is just dragging you all the way down. You’re better off single. 

Tell your parents that you want to break up with this guy. I’m sure that they will be overjoyed and lend you the moral support that you need. Are you living with this guy? Move out and move to your parents’ home if possible. Just tell him you want to break it off and then cut off all contact with him. 

All the best! You can do it! 🙂

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Run. Fast. 

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@creativeplannertobee:  i was thinking the same thing…. Don’t feed the trolls. O_o

 

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I couldn’t read it all, but take Nancy Reagan’s advice and JUST SAY NO.

Post # 21
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’d run far away. Normally, I don’t just say that but… yeah, run. Please don’t marry this schmuck.

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

LOL. From your post, I can’t see that this guy has any redeeming quality at all. Wanting a man who has a decent and steady income is not an unreasonably high expectation.

He sounds like a deadbeat who would probably let you be the sole breadwinner while not pulling his own weight in any sense. That, and his disrespectful behavior in other aspects, make him a major loser in my book. You can do much better! Don’t settle for that.

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

This is not love, and this is not a relationship. Certainly not marriage material. It would be so sad if you married this guy, because you may miss out on a life-time of true, pure romantic love 🙂

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Fresh start, you deserve better. It’s good to realize if your expectations are too high, but this doesn’t sound like the case to me. It’s always hard to hurt someones feelings, just realize that it’s IMPOSSIBLE to end this without hurting someone, so just stick to your decision, you will be better off and probably vastly relieved!

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@Aquababes:  Sometimes you just need some outside confirmation.  You have it – now do yourself a favor and dump him and find yourself a real man. 

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

So…. why have you been dating this “guy” for 4.5 years? Leave him.

Post # 30
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

it sounds like you know hes not the one but you still have strong feelings for him and don’t want to just drop him when he needs you (and his parents) to take care of him. If you aren’t ready to drop him on his sorry little tush try talking to him about one or two of the major issues you’ve talked about in your post.

Tell him that you need him to make an effort to befriend your parents within the next month. ask him to send in job applications for his ideal career within this next month and follow up on them. ask him to prove to you that he wants to be a better person. If he says your expectations are too high just point out to him that you arent asking for him and your dad to be drinking buddies or have a weekly golf game together, you just need to see that hes trying. 

If he can’t make the effort to make these small changes for you tell him you’ll dumping him. And if he doesn’t make an effort you need to dump him. block his number, refuse to see him or speak to him for at least 3 months.  Maybe he will have taken your advice to heart in that amount of time and made some changes, or he’ll be dating some tramp or possibly engaged again to someone who doesnt care about his obvious flaws. 

Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I just want to join in on the chorus to give you strength!!!

Love isnt enough to create a happy home or stable marrige. get out NOW!

I realised that last year after nearly 5 years with someone and it was the best thing i ever did for us. It took 4 months for him to get that i wasnt going to change my mind but it was THE BEST!

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