(Closed) guy wants to pick ring himself…girl is SUPER picky. Help!

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
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343 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@mexicalijennie:  This is what we did…..

Im very much the type of girl that knows what she wants. To the point of being almost OCD as well. When my fiancé and I got together he explained to me he didn’t want to get married again. (And I was perfectly fine with his decision and never asked for him to change his mind) One day he sat me down and we had an adult conversation about our relationship and what we both wanted. We decided at that point that marriage was what we BOTH wanted! At that point we decided we were engaged. We started talking about rings. We both have well paying jobs and are financially stable. I suggested that I should pay for half of my set. (He didn’t want a ring) This gave me the flexibility to pick exactly what I wanted. (And I got a bigger diamond). It took me several weeks to find “the one” and am very happy booking at it everyday!!! It isn’t about being on bending knee or a small jewelry box. It is about making adult decisions together. Good luck

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

I don’t get why the title is worded like that as if you’re talking about someone else, but what if he proposed with the center stone & you chose the setting?

Post # 19
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1119 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Have you tried just explaining to him the types of settings, along with which of the 4Cs are important to you, and what size stone you want? Just tell him specifics that you like and he can build an idea in his head. There’s a difference between saying “I really like 1-1.5ct stones with a pave band” and printing out photos and saying “get me this or I won’t be happy”.

Post # 20
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141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@mexicalijennie:  I actually disagree with most of the ladies who have commented thus far. I have chosen my own ring to the point where I am going to be the one ordering it and my boyfriend is planning on proposing to me with the ring I love when he feels “ready.”  I don’t think it will take away from the proposal at all and I get the perfect ring which my bf agreed upon.  It’s not for everyone but hey, whatever floats your boat.  Maybe people will think I’m being a princess but I do have to wear it every single day, show it off after the proposal, and I have an awesome bf who is letting me have my cake and eat it too.  Maybe yours will come around if you have your heart set one one exact ring 😉 hehe

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@librarygirl85:  +1 DH and I did exactly this, we shopped together and I fell in love with two rings- so he picked from those. Perfect situation! 

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee

My SO and I are planning on him proposing with a diamond band and then we will design the engagement ring together.

That way he proposes with a ring – which I want – he is able to make the proposal a surprise – which he wants – and we get to design the engagement ring together – which I want and he likes the idea of.

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