(Closed) ‘Guys don’t get involved with wedding planning’

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: How involved is your FI in wedding planning?
    Almost too involved! : (43 votes)
    15 %
    He's involved somewhat, does his fair share : (170 votes)
    61 %
    No involvement whatsoever : (43 votes)
    15 %
    Other (please explain) : (24 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    964 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    If I givebhim a task, he’ll do it… If I keep asking.

    Post # 3
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    2162 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    We’re not engaged yet, so I can’t say 100%, but SO has spoken several times about wanting to be involved in picking specific music, colors, outfits, etc…I’m sure I’ll do more in terms of coordinating and planning, but I know he wants to be involved. He keeps refering to is as “a huge party for celebrating us”. He generally likes everything we do, to be a team effort (minus shoveling snow and raking leaves…he’s all masculine and wants to handle that himself…obviously, this does not bother me!)

    Post # 4
    Member
    1839 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    he is sort of involved. i def wouldnt say that he does even close to half of the researching/caring about details, but i dont expect him to be

     

    Post # 4
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    4675 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I don’t expect too much out of him, but I ask his opinion (most) of the time about everything even if I know that he wouldn’t really care.  I’m also trying to include a little bit of ‘him’ in the wedding so it doesn’t look like it’s all ‘me’.  

    Post # 4
    Member
    7606 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    My Fiance lands somewhere along the “somewhat involved” spectrum but definitely does not “do his fair share”!

    Post # 4
    Member
    359 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Mine is very little involved. Gives some feedback but usually I don’t like what he says. So I just tell him to shut it and show up clean, shaved, and in a tux. My mom tells him the same thing. LOL So far he has managed to agree to things his family has requested for the wedding that I now HAVE TO ALLOW which I never thought was a good idea in the first place.

    Post # 5
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    14658 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’d say pretty much not involved at all.  He came to take a look at the venues, went to the food and cake tasting… and I think that’s about it.  He didnt even care for the registry.

    Post # 6
    Member
    352 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Mine has taken interest in very specific random things but that is just him.  I have done most of the planning and incoporated him in the things that he feels are important.  He specifically has designed our STD’s, invites, programs and I told him he is in charge of the honeymoon and the cake.

    He does what I ask cause he sees how hard I am working on everything else so it has worked out well for us.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1011 posts
    Bumble bee

    MIne had lots of fun with the cuttlebug!  He embossed the rehersal dinner invitations and the thank you notes.  He also addressed all the thank you note envelopes and affixed the envelope liners.  Oh, and he did the website.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1011 posts
    Bumble bee

    MIne had lots of fun with the cuttlebug!  He embossed the rehersal dinner invitations and the thank you notes.  He also addressed all the thank you note envelopes and affixed the envelope liners.  Oh, and he did the website.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1011 posts
    Bumble bee

    Mine had lots of fun with the cuttlebug!  He embossed the rehersal dinner invitations and the thank you notes.  He also addressed all the thank you note envelopes and affixed the envelope liners.  Oh, and he did the website.

    Post # 7
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    394 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Fiance has not been interested in wedding planning whatsoever. He says he had the pressure of picking the ring and proposing, so now it’s my turn to plan the wedding. With that being said, he DID go with me to the ceremony venue, helped me pick a menu, and went to look at wedding bands. He will actually do anything I ask him if I ask him enough times. When I do give him input, he gives ridiculous answers. I don’t know if he does this on purpose to aggrivate me, or he actually wants this. (ie. he wants to wear a Spartan suit to the ceremony)

    Post # 8
    Member
    235 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Mine’s in the involved somewhat to does his fair share spectrum.  He’s come to all the meeting’s he has been able to (even when he doesn’t really have imput on flowers).  There is the stuff he doesn’t care about but a part of it does reflect on him so he cares about food and the place, etc.

    Post # 9
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    140 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I chose ‘Other’ because while he does make some decisions, I don’t think he really is doing his ‘fair share’. I really don’t think he cares about the minor details as much as I do though.

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