(Closed) Guys don't hint do they??

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

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louiseey :  Of course men hint too!! Fiance hints at stuff all the time.

Maybe you should try starting a conversation about it? It seems like he’s eager to live with you, but you’re giving him the impression you aren’t that bothered 🙁

xx

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I can’t understand why you don’t just ask him.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

Driving around town looking at rentals is past a hint lol

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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louiseey :   They’re all different — you obviously have a hinter:-) 

I would be a little concerned that he didn’t ask you up front and is now getting angsty p/a though. Or did he ask and you just didn’t hear him? Talk to him! 

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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ways men are different from women:  (Generally speaking only): thicker skin (physically), larger brain, stronger muscle and bone density, different sexual organs, even their blood is different (I forget how exactly).

Ways men are the same as women:  Everything else. 

Newsflash:  Men are HUMAN.  Subject to the same insecurities and fears that women are.

YES, the guy is fearing being rejected by you should he ask you to move in with him, because of your obtuse behavior and your not picking up on any of his hints about it.  Get a clue already.  Lol.

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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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louiseey :  Ha! Yup, sounds like your man is making it actually quite clear he wants to live with you  – time to have a discussion about it!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

Guys do hint. He’s hinting, very obviously, that he wants to live with you. Not all men are super literal. Personally I don’t have much patience for hints regardless of whether it’s a man or woman giving them to me, so if it were me in this situation I’d be like “Ok, spit it out, because if you want me to move in with you you’re going to have to actually say those words out loud so that we can discuss it like rational adults.”

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Honey bee

You’re dense.  And also prone to stereotyping.  It doesn’t matter if GUYS communicate by hinting or not – try paying attention to what this one particular individual says and how he (singular) communicates.  Not everyone communicates the same way and it is not determined by genitalia. 

For what it’s worth, i don’t read it as hinting, which usually comes off as passive aggressive (like when some women think leaving pictures of engagement rings lying around hoping their SO will get the hint instead of actually having a discussion about their future), so much as trying to feel out the situation and start the dialogue and you shut it down every time.  Like instead of saying “oh yeah that’s nice” because you haven’t discussed living together,  use that as the segue to have the conversation about living together and reply with “is that for both of us? Do you see us living together or have a timeframe?”  That could have been his way of trying to start the conversation,  because no matter how “literal” some one is, it doesn’t mean they can’t be afraid of rejection and want to get a sense that their feelings are reciprocated before diving in to heavy commitment discussions.  You pretty much smacked him down every single time and he was way beyond “hinting”.  You’ll have to figure out for yourself of you really are that dense or subconsciously not ready for that kind of commitment and that’s why you’ve been responding the way you have.

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Bumble bee

That is way passed a hint….lol

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Talk to him. Sounds like you both avoid direct conversation 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

My husband doesn’t hint. He’s the most literal creature alive.

You boyfriend clearly does. Think hard, are you ready to move in together? If you are, bring it up. Personally I think that hints from anyone are stupid…just communicate, damn it. But if you’re really not sure about the idea, I wouldn’t bring it up until you have a firm answer in your head. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee

Why is he looking at rentals?  Does he need to move?  Is his lease about to expire?  Do you ever ask him why he’s looking at rentals?  More to the point, do you actually want to live with him?

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