(Closed) Prompted proposals and waiting progress

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My birthday is in November as well and have considered that Mr. Beary is going to propose, but I really don’t want to get my hopes up.  I asked him if he needed any hints for birthday gifts for me and he said, “Nope.  It’s not hard to know what a woman wants if you really pay attention to the things she says.”  Well, I was being pushy and we were walking past the jewelery counter in WalMart while we were running errands and I told him, “I’d love a promise ring.”  He said, “I figured.”

Yeahhhh, I was being pushy, but there’s nothing else I TRULY honestly want.  Welp, I’m not sure if he is/was planning on engagement for my birthday or if he’s just planning on getting me a placeholder ring and proposing or perhaps he’s going to get me the promise ring after all, or since I said something maybe I won’t get a ring whatsoever!  LOL!  My point: just let your SO do his thing.  Do not hint at a ring or anything like my loud-mouth did if he does not ask you for specifics for your birthday wishlist.  Chances are if he’s not asking what your little heart’s desire, then he’s planning something! 😉  If he DOES ask, playfully mention, “My birthday wishlist only includes being with you for the rest of my life.”  If he asks, he might be testing the waters to see if you’re ready/if you feel he’s going to propose.  It might turn him away from proposing on the day of your birthday if you mention a shiny huge diamond instead of just being with your soulmate for the rest of your days to come.

Post # 5
927 posts
Busy bee

if he askis you what you want try to be kinda nodescriptive about what you want. a subtle push might not hurt because lets face it guys for the most part dont do subtle 🙂

Post # 6
488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m pretty sure I have mentioned a ring or so a few times (does the diamond ring emoticon on the iphone count? haha!).  Please keep us updated… November isn’t that far away!

Post # 9
4474 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012


I haven’t been proposed to, but my bf wasn’t ready to talk serious commitment til he thought I was going to dump him.  Some guys just need a kick in the butt, unfortunately.  Yeah, it’s not ideal; better for it to come from a loving, drama-free place.

Even if your guy doesn’t propose on your birthday, it sounds like he’s serious about taking the next step.  I wish you luck!

Post # 11
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I went on a 2 week trip to England and Scotland with my sister over the summer.  Before I went, my SO was playing it cool about getting engaged “Maybe sometime in 2012” and clearly not wanting to show his cards.  Then I went away for 2 weeks without phone or skype or anything and a 5 hour time change.  I sent lots of emails, pictures, and even voice recordings from my iphone via Wifi/email. 

The second to last day of my trip, i was able to get him on aim at the same time by telling my facebook friends to call him and get him online.  He was miserable.  He said he was going to propose in May 2012 at a big event at my school… but that he didn’t want to wait anymore, he didn’t want to be apart this long ever again.

So.. my trip prompted him to realize how much he wanted me in his life.  He was going to propose anyway, but the trip moved him to buy the ring last week.  He’s been looking for the perfect stone since August and waiting that little extra time let him to a fantastic deal.

Post # 12
171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

That’s never happened to me, but I’m afraid that’s what it will take. Right now he’s happy and comfortable. Sometimes I think he’ll never do it unless he becomes very uncomfortable and is forced to face his feelings of needing me.

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