(Closed) Guys "Stole groom's phone" at bachelor party: insist on talking?

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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341 posts
Helper bee

@All In:  Hmm, tough. I think it depends how close you are to the guys who stole it. In my situation, I know the guys he know and all his groomsmen, and if it happened to them I would text them and say “Why did you steal it? Makes no sense. Give it back or I’ll be pissed. we’d agreed to talk this weekend” haha. Just seems kinda silly they stole his phone. Maybe just try and have faith that he won’t do anything that you don’t want him to do, whether or not he has his phone. Hope everything gets figured out, I would be just as frustrated in your position 🙁

Post # 5
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1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would go for option 4:  enjoy the next 48 hours and don’t let those ass-faces get to you.  Boys act like such turds when they’re all together (no matter the age).  The best thing you can do to get back at all of them (including your FI) is to not call, text, or anything.  Don’t even mention anything on FB, Twitter, etc.  It will ruin their fun of stealing the phone.  🙂

Post # 6
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41 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My husband’s groomsmen did this and I didn’t care (I am friends with all of them) But then he instantly called me back apologizing and was upset with them. I told him it was fine and we should respect their wishes since they are good guys and were throwing it, but he still sent me the occasional text over the weekend. Bottom line, you’re right he IS a grown man who isn’t under their authority, and he should respect your feelings. Hugs to you! Grab a glass of wine and try not to be too upset if you don’t hear from him.

Post # 9
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9567 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I would be livid too, but that’s me, I agree with you about the bachelor party being a big middle finger at the bride. You are being so lenient already! 

Post # 10
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3683 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

He’s got some asshole friends. If DH had friends who would do that sort of thing and he let them, we’d have a fight the minute he walked back in my door.  

Post # 11
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1509 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Lie to buddy that has the phone and say its an emergency. Then calmly tell FI your aren’t happy about his friends holding his phone hostage. Maybe ask he send one text so you know he’s alive the next day Nd tell him to have fun and enjoy his party! You can have less communication for a couple days, but I’d be pissedwith his friends too. Not cool

Post # 12
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6361 posts
Bee Keeper

I’d probably text them “I get what you’re trying to do, but I’m not the kind of bride who likes that. Please return the phone to him. It’s important to me.”

I don’t put up with nonsense!

If the friend didn’t do so, I’d try not to think about it too much, but you better believe he’d get an earful when he got home, as he’d know better than to assume I wouldn’t care.

After a suitable statement confirming no similar excuses would be attempted in future (e.g., on “boys night outs”), I’d put it behind us and get back to enjoying wedding prep 🙂

Post # 16
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6361 posts
Bee Keeper

By the way, I’d bet that the friend who took the phone away is not married!

He’s probably just trying to give your fiancee a “cool time,” “last chance free of responsibilities” and all that, and being unmarried, really does not “get” women yet…

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