Guys weekend issue

posted 2 weeks ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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366 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

This has got to be the 5 th post about this same issue in the last 2 weeks. So bizzare! 

Post # 3
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228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2029

That is terrible that your husband is participating in those kind of activities seeing as he is MARRIED not single.  I would confront him and ask what went on.  If he is the type to cheat on you w/a stripper, you may want to reconsider your marriage.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Oh honey, “strippers” that go to your hotel room are called prostitutes. And he got more than a lap dance.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Leave. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

Private strippers are usually sex workers and A LOT more lax in what is allowed… as long as the price is right.

i like your relation to being at a bar. Imagine if they went up to a girl at the bar and offered her $500 to come back to their hotel, take her clothes off and let them touch her. It sounds sooo skeevy! 

your husband was being shady by texting a stripper. Your husband was being shady trying to cover his friends’ tracks for (likely) cheating on their wives. Your husband is like 99% lying about not getting a lap dance, possibly more. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

I’m sorry, Bee. Dancers in a private room is super shady. I presume they are also much more expensive, for good reason. Your husband is obviously lying to you and will continue to so. You deserve better. Leave.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

michelle99 :  Firstly, strippers are aware that plenty of their clientelle are in relationships.  Your SO’s friends weren’t “using his phone” to avoid using their own, your SO sent those messages himself.  I would bet the house on it. 

6 months is a long time to be stewing on this, obviously it’s not going to go away on its own.  I would suggest counselling if you want to try to work through it, otherwise there is nothing wrong with deciding you can’t get over it, and leaving. 

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Bees above hit the nail on the head. I also advise you to stop all TTC efforts and get an S T D check immediately. I’m very sorry you’re in the situation, bee.

 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2029

michelle99 :  This is shady.  Even of you aren’t married, you are still not single.  Doing sexual acts w/a stripper is not ok even if she gets paid to perform these things.  Him texting her and calling her hot is totally wrong.  This means he has interest beyond the party.  That would offend me if my man (married or not) was texting another woman telling her she is hot.  I’d rethink everything.  You don’t want to be stuck w/his baby while he goes out and does God knows what w/strippers.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

This just further illustrates to me why if you want marriage in your future you shouldn’t settle for baby first. There is a reason you wanna get married before baby. Because the engagements and relationships I have seen fall apart before the wedding are too many to count. Better to be safe than sorry. Hope that wasn’t too painful of a lesson to learn OP. And if you haven’t already, stop trying for a baby with this guy. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

michelle99 :  So a week before you married him you found this out? Oh bee, let’s be honest your not going to leave him no matter if we tell you to or not. It’s been 6 months and your still with him. There has been so many posts like this lately and most of them are not pretty. Your husband was involved with hookers, not strippers. There is a reason why they go to hotel rooms. I hope your not blind by your husband saying that he didn’t get a lap dance. Do you honestly think he would say “yes, honey I am sorry I got a lap dance”? He is not going to tell you everything that happened in that room. You are right your husband cheated. That is disgusting in my eye’s. There is no excuse for it. He could have left the room, period!!! I am so sorry you had to go through this, it’s a terrible feeling. Your going to have to dig deep and figure out how your going to handle this. Because it is going to eat you up if he goes on this boy’s weekend. 

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