Post # 1
In my quest to lose 40lbs, I bought a gym membership. So far, I’ve used it twice. I hate it! I have no idea what I’m doing, or should be doing. There are always a million people in there. I’ve been at 5:30am and 9pm. It’s always full! None of my friends have a membership, so I have to go alone.
I don’t know why, but I feel like people are looking at me, judging me (I’m the 40yr old fatty). I feel clumbsy and lost.
This morning I went to a spin class. OMG! I thought I was going to die. I couldn’t keep up AT ALL. Basically, I sat there cycling instead of doing what everyone else was doing. Total failure! Not sure why I thought that was a going to be a good idea!
Funny to say, but I feel like I’m not in shape enough to go to the gym.
Post # 3
Bravo for you for going to the gym! I admire you so much. I am sure it’s hard but keep at it.. and try not to think about what other people think. If they are good, kind people, they should be encouraging – not critical.
I watch THE BIGGEST LOSER each week and get so much inspiration from those contestants. They have the courage to allow the whole country to see their bodies. I cheer for them every step of the way.
Keep going. Every little step helps! It will get easier and just getting fit (vs losing weight) helps you look and feel better.
Post # 4
The gym is intimidating!! I’m thin, young, have run 7 marathons and I still get really intimidated at the gym! All I can say is that people really likely aren’t judging you!! Do you judge other people at the gym? I don’t! But I do understand your feelings and i think they are quite common 🙂
Post # 5
I think that’s great that you went to the gym! Don’t give up and don’t worry about other people…I can relate to being intimidated. I like strength training but all the guys hangout around the weights so I’ve been avoiding them. I’ve ignored the guys in the past and just did what I had to do but since I haven’t been to the gym in a while I’m nervous all over again, but I’ll get over it. We can do it!
Post # 6
@itsmle: like other have posted, gym intimidation happens to a lot of people, super fit or not. I would actually suggest either finding a smaller gym that has more of a class-focused style (so you get more one on one guidance) or get a personal training session and ask them to literally take you around the gym, show you how to use the equipment, and help you set up a plan.
i belong to 2 gyms, one is strictly classes and personal training, and the other is a big name gym that I go to when I want to get on a bike or the class times don’t work with my schedule.
Dont forget that you are there for yourself, not anyone else. I can almost 100% assure you that other people there are too tuned into their iPods and workouts to pass judgement. I give people mental props for getting moving, no matter what their size may be in the gym.
Post # 7
The gym didn’t set you up with a routine, like weights and cardio machines you could use? That would help getting used to what your supposed to do. I only get intimidated when on a rare occasion I get sucked into a class of anything … i am terrible. I’ve fallen in a class before … grrr. I stick to what I know, the weights/cardio and keep my ipod on, and I’m in my own world. I’ve even had my Dad come up to me in the gym and it took him actually touching me before I realized it. I believe that everyone is like that at the gym or I’d be intimidated too lol. Hang in there and see if there is someone there that could help you work out a program.
Post # 8
@itsmle: First, congrats for taking the steps towards a healthier you. That is the best decision you can make for yourself.
I too hate going to a generic gym. I am clueless when it comes to targeting areas, reps and how much weight. I am not a personal trainor so why am I expected to know this stuff? Crazy!
I HIGHLY recommend looking into Crossfit/Powerfit or whatever they call it in your area. It is basically personal training based on your goals, needs, fitness level with a push. They often have bootcamps that you can try out and these really kick your body into gear when first starting. Typically a class is no more than 10 people although I have gone when I was the only one there (which is awesome!). It is hard I’m not going to lie and you may hate it at first. Communicate with the instructor and eventually you will find a plan and a rhythm that works for you. I go three times a week and after only about six weeks I’m starting to see the muscle definition and my stomach is shrinking (not fast enough, but we’ll get there). It also motivates me to eat much healthier including more protein than I normally eat.
Best of luck to you and whatever road you decide to take.
Post # 9
I used to have that feeling at the gym as well — I would get there and not know how to use the equipment, and feel lost and silly when I tried! I know this might be pricy, but you could consider getting a personal trainer at the gym, just for a month or two. The trainer can help you figure out what to do and how to do it, and teach you the proper techniques to challenge each muscle and maximize the impact of the exercises. I definitely learned a lot from having a trainer just for a short time, and while I still strongly prefer taking fitness classes, I don’t feel as lost in gyms anymore. 🙂
Post # 10
I agreee with @opheliax: I have ALWAYS had gym phobia. Especially times when I was a little over weight. But I hired a personal trainer for a short while to show me how to work the equipment, etc. and it helped a ton. I still sometimes feel like people are watching me but it doesn’t bother me as much as it used to. For me personally being a major people watcher, I assume everyone else is watching too. Most of them are not. 🙂
I also second taking group classes. I was terrified at first, but much prefer them now. YOu get a feeling of solidarity and realize that everyone is in the same boat.
Post # 11
Any chance you can start workin’ out at home? I have never been to the gym. I always started workin’ out at home. If it’s ‘stickin’ to it’ part that you are worried abt, start takin’ it ONE week at a time. Just try to work out for ONE week. That’s all. Just aim for that. I bet you, once you hit that week, you will feel like you wanna keep going! 🙂
And start with videos that are shorter. Like 30-40 mins max. For example, Jillian Michael’s 30 Day Shred. And instead of doing all the levels for 10 days each, do them for a MONTH each. Just customize that routine for yourself at home.
Post # 12
@itsmle: I know how you feel! I am overweight and I am so intimidated at the gym. I usually just want to go to use the elliptical or treadmill and maybe do some crunches…I still feel like the fit people are judging me. MaybeI will make it my goal to get there tomorrow! Good luck.
Post # 13
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Most people are too caught up in themselves to start judging others, I think. At least that is what I tell myself.
I feel like the gym is a great place to observe to figure things out. It is nice if someone can show you how different machines work or what you should do with the free weights, but if you can’t get a tour or personal trainer or something, watch others. I used to just park it on an eliptical and then see how other people were working out and maybe try to imitate them. Or, the machines are nice because they often have instructions!
A combo of that, just feeling confident and proud of yourself for trying and working out, and also just some trial and error! Just try not to hurt yourself… 🙂
Post # 14
I hear you! First of all, just know that NO ONE is there judging you or staring at you. I know it can feel like that, but trust me when I say no one is paying attention.
Second, I’d ask someone who signed you up when there’s a time you can have someone walk you through the machines so you at least know how to use them to lift weights properly. Sometimes just knowing that you’re not straddling the knee-bar backwards is all the confidence you need to get started. 🙂 Most gyms offer that as a free service to new members!
Post # 15
Thanks for all the replies. I know most people probably aren’t reallly watching me. I just get that awkward feeling like they are, because I have no idea what I’m doing.
But, I’m in a monthly contract, so I’m committed to not waste my money. If nothing else, I can swim laps in the pool. I know how to do that!
Post # 16
To be honest I really don’t judge others BUT I do compare myself to others my size (I’m pretty small and athletic),,, so if you’re heavy I’ll acknowledge you and think “Good for her for wanting to change her life”, then keep looking for someone my size (I’m seriously competitive)