(Closed) Gyn told me to relax and have fun

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
9682 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@ajillity81:  It sounds like you’re borrowing trouble. You don’t know that you have anything to worry about and I’m sure your doctor knows about the implications of stress on the body. Go into TTC with an open mind, believe that you will get pregnant, and make it a fun process – hopefully it will be! You don’t need to worry until you are given a reason to worry. So many things that women stress over never even happen!

Post # 4
12248 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@ajillity81:  My cousin has PCOS with fibroids, and the doctor said she would probably never be able to conceive. After an agaonizing decision, she decided to start trying with her boyfriend this summer.

They got pregnant first month! She’s obviously being considered a high-risk pregnancy, but I agree with your doctor–go and have fun for your first few months of TTC! You really never know!

Post # 5
1611 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@ajillity81:  My OB/Gyn just told me to start taking prenatals before I started TTC.  Other than that, there was no long discussion.  At the time, I wanted to ask questions, but now that I am KU, I really didn’t need more information than I got.  I think it is just hard to not stress out about it and to not jump to conclusions that you are going to have a hard time.  I think that fact that he wants to rediscuss things after 3 months if you aren’t KU yet is awesome; many won’t talk to you until a year!

Post # 8
2808 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

how long have you been going to your OB/GYN? could you find another one for a second opinion?

i mean, your doctor is probably telling you to relax because stress has the opposite effect on all aspects of life. but if you’re truly unhappy, you could always ask a second opinion. i find it weird that she didn’t answer any of your questions.

Post # 9
2058 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My gyno told me to take pre-natals, eat healthy, and exercise. Check back in if I don’t get KU in a year.  

I was expecting a whole long convo, but it was really short and informal! She didn’t want to do blood tests or anything.  

Post # 10
7651 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@ajillity81:  I have never heard of the cellphone and laptop thing. As long as you are taking a prenatal, maybe eating healthy and exercising a bit, you are doing what you can and your doctor is right that you should just relax and enjoy. 🙂

Post # 11
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Listen to your doctor!!!

Post # 12
1438 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@ajillity81:  I was also worried I would have difficulty as I had my AMH levels and they came in quite low for my age (1.4 ng/ml, should be around 3.4-3.6). So I was worried that my eggs were crappy. My naturopath told me to just have fun with it too. And guess what, I got my BFP the first month trying half-assed. 

Post # 13
326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I agree with PPs in that you should really only be concerned after a while of TTC with no results, but I do find it concerning that she didn’t address any of your questions. It’s like she was dismissing your concerns.

If you felt uncomfortable or like she was dismissing you, I suggest finding a different gyno where you feel respected and all your questions are answered. Its just a matter of finding the right fit; if you’re the kind of person who comes to appointments armed with questions and need them answered for peace of mind, you probably need to find someone who takes you seriously.

Other than that, good luck! 🙂

Post # 14
2090 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@ajillity81:  I’m in the same boat as you. I will be trying next october and I’m already worrying. My best friend has told me to calm down and just enjoy the trying. Unless we have been given a reason to worry, the undue stress vwill no doubt just make things worse!!!

Post # 15
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You’re doctor is right. I am assuming you have never tried for a child before when I say this, but if that’s true then you have no reason to worry that you won’t get pregnant right away.  It is normal for a perfectly healthy woman to take up to 1 year to conceive, so I don’t think it’s too much to just relax and have fun for the first 3 months. You never know what can happen.  

That all being said, if you feel she is not attentive to your needs and was dismissive of your questions, then I’d find a doctor more compatible with you. I do think that many doctors would likely tell you the same thing from the get go. There’s no reason to worry about things that you don’t know if they will even happen yet.

Post # 16
727 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@ajillity81:  Mine said the same – only to also start taking pre-natal vitamins once I go off BC.  She said 80% of couples get pregnant within a year, and if we haven’t by then to go back in.

I agree, stress can probably make it much harder so there’s no sense in the doctor making you worry over nothing.

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