Post # 1
I wondered if anyone could explain (perhaps any gypsies themselves) why they all have HUGE wedding dresses. I’ve always wondered what the tradition with this is. Does anyone know. The show on in the UK was so interesting but had me thinking about the size, bling and, in one case, LED lights.
Post # 3
lmao omg i just watched this show last night. im not a gypsy but there was one girl on the show that said that said that the reason why she wanted to have a big dress was that she wanted to feel like a princess on that day because it was going to be the best day of her life. so i guess that means layers and layers of tulle.
Post # 4
@FEFE215: I reallllly want to know how much these dresses cost! They wouldn’t say on the show last night, they said that gypsy’s don’t talk about money and that the seamstress was not allowed to say
Post # 5
When you see what goes into making them they must cost a FORTUNE!! I just wonder what it is about having them custom made and so massive – as all gyspsy girls tend to have the same type of dresses so I wonder if its a tradition. Very intersting anyway 🙂
Post # 6
I think it has something to do with this being the biggest event in these girls’ lives. Everything from the moment they start walking is about becoming a wife. So, if that’s all you have to look forward to, it better be huge and lavish and over the top.
Post # 7
@jjmomma: That’s a really good point. I noticed on the show it’s not something they really explained but it’s perhaps to do with this.
Post # 8
I read somewhere once that the dresses are in the tens of thousands because they are custom and handmade.
It’s just their culture. They are a very patriarchal society and a wedding is truly the biggest day in a girls life. Before and after, they raise kids and keep house and they do not believe in divorce, so there is no second wedding. So, they spare no expense in giving their daughters their every fantasy on their wedding day. They all feel the need to out-do each other, so I guess that’s why
Keep in mind, too, that most of these girls are 15, 16 and 17. When you were a young teen, didn’t you dream of Cinderella and a big ballgown and being a fairytale princess? I believe that the dressmaker said that the most frequent request she gets it to base a dress off of a Disney princess. I guess it’s just that mentality.
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Post # 10
@kimbean: Thanks for that. It was just expanding on what the girls above were saying and it makes sense. I suppose they all need to outdo each other and they are very young when they get married. So it really is just their own beliefs and tradition. It makes for great viewing and I do wonder how painful those dresses must be but your article put it brilliantly “A gypsy bride wears her wedding dress scars like a badge of honour”.
Post # 11
I think it boils down to style… Those gypsy dresses are surely not traditional gypsy dresses… but my 4 year old watches those dresses and thinks they are the best thing in the world. lol. these girls have fairytale style. I think it also has a lot to do with outdoing other brides.. I want mine bigger! I want mine brighter! I want mine with moving butterflies and lights!
Post # 12
What amazes me is how they are so strict with the girls/women as far as they must be virgins when they wed and they cannot go out alone, cannot drink until married ect. but yet they dress and dance very provocatively and start doing so from a very young age. :/ And what’s with the whole “grabbing” thing? No thank you!
Post # 13
Don’t forget about the quinceanera dresses… they are not so much smaller than the gypsy wedding dresses, and they aren’t even wedding dresses at all!
Post # 14
They seem like they would be expensive but then watching the show I’m not so sure.
The one dress maker on the show who they’ve interviewed a lot seems very…simple. I mean her studio isn’t all that nice and she wears regular clothes and just seems like an average dress maker. If she was making dozens of gowns a year that cost tens of thousands of dollars I would think it would all be a bit more upscale–her studio, her lifestyle, etc.
Many of the girls seem very immature and many aren’t well educated and as has been said it’s the biggest day of their lives, what everything has been leading up to and many don’t have anything to look forward to after marriage but years of labor in the sort of conditions displayed on the show. Given all those factors it almost makes sense that a childish looking, tacky dress that’s way over the top would be the way to go.
@inspiredcreations: That’s a good point too! A lot of these girls are really young, and it’s their cultural tradition, it does have a lot of things in common with the quinceanera dresses.
Post # 15
i believe it is because gypsy or travellers like to make a very big deal out of their wedding day the bigger the better, and they do know how to have a good party, the rules of gypsy life imo are very traditional and following what is considered old fashioned values by most, once the wedding day has past these brides are housewives and mothers the man is only allowed to work. i suppose we with a more modern outlook to marriage have hen parties or bacholerettes to celebrate our last night of freedom but for these girls it is more true. once the girls reach a certain age, everything the do is set around finding a husband. it’s just a way of life i’m not judging at all btw, just informing. there is a large gypsy community in the city i live in. although most of the time you wouldn’t realise this, but you know when the local hotel has a gypsy wedding on. not because of trouble or anything, just the wow factor of it all.
Post # 16
I still don’t understand how they afford these weddings. I watch this show and I am always shocked by the stuff i see. I just don’t get it.
Also, I think her dresses are pricy. They mentioned in the article between 15,000-50,000 pds. Most of these dresses weigh 50 pds because of all the crystals on the dresses. That’s not cheap.