(Closed) Had a bridal shower yesterday…and only 4 people came!

posted 11 years ago in Parties
Post # 17
1076 posts
Bumble bee

@iheartnerds: I am with you.  very surprised by a weekday shower. 

OP is this normal where you are from?  Maybe you can have a weekend shower.

Post # 18
2570 posts
Sugar bee

Ditto everyone else. Dont take it personally.

I dont think a single one of my friends would be able to make a 530 shower. They dont get off a lot of them till 530 or 6, plust traffic and commuting.  And its a weekday so other stuff happens such as late meetings, kids things if they have them (sports games, ballet lessons etc)

Post # 19
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Same thing happened to us! Of 25-30 invited, only 7 (incl. me) could make the Saturday afternoon (a lot of them were living in different cities) we had to it (I was out east for that weekend). On the day itself, two people called to say they weren’t coming. So there were only 5 of us there, and one of us was 4 years old. 🙂 It was still fun, but not very “bridal shower-y.” Also, nobody brought presents. I guess they thought they were going to help pay for the outing (which of course we didn’t allow).

My perspective is that when something like that happens, just smile and carry on — it’s not about how much people love you. It’s just circumstance, logistics, and modern times when everyone is busy and lives far apart and follows different traditions. Enjoy those who DID make the time to be there with you! 🙂

Post # 20
778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I agree that the people who were invited and couldnt come should have called to let you know this in advance…

Post # 21
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I had the same thing happen to me.  I was surprised at who did not come, both SIL’s and my husbands best friends significant others who we go out with 1 – 2 timws a month.  But it really showed me who I can count on and who my friends really are.

Post # 22
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

haha, I just had mine….and was SURPRISED at some people…no rsvps, no shows…..it’s amazing to me…..I would never do that! I’m sure the weeknight factor made it even harder for people! 🙁

Post # 23
27 posts
  • Wedding: May 2011


My shower was last Sunday and I gave a list of 40 people to invite and about 20 showed.  I was disappointed.  However I soon found out that the invites didnt go out until 2 weeks prior and my Maid/Matron of Honor didnt include any RSVP/contact information on the invite.  My guests had NO idea who was giving the shower.  And on top of that…. it was supposed to be a surprise however that was printed on the invite either.  No wonder my soon to be Mother-In-Law asked me if I was ready for my Shower on Sunday. I had to laugh and play it off like I didnt hear her and “act” surprised. 


Post # 24
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I thinks its very RUDE to be a NO SHOW, and not even call to say u wont make it …..and then have the nerve to show up at the wedding for FREE food and drinks.. I would be pissed off!! At Least call to say u cant make it.. sheesh

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