Post # 1
Hi bees – the Fiance and I had a fight last night, it was very emotional and we dealt with some very personal things from our past that have never really been fully discussed and needed to be. Both of us were crying and there was some yelling, but we did kiss and make up. The only thing is that I am still reeling in guilt and I want to do something for him that shows him how much I care and how much I love him. I know he is not mad at me anymore, but I do think he is still a little bit hurt. I was thinking maybe cooking him dinner tonight. Does anyone have any suggestions for me? Thanks in advance
Post # 3
dinner is always good, so what about bringing home a nice cake for you two to share?
Post # 4
I bought my FH flowers the other day, we had a blue.. hes never recieved flowers before but he appreciated the gesture.. its the small things that count.
A note in his car or something? somewhere where he will notice?
Post # 5
I would roast a chicken– guys always love that, and it makes the house smell really good. Just get a small/medium chicken, rub it with seasoning and lemons and maybe stuff it with some garlic and lemons and an onion, and then pop it in the oven (tons of recipes online if you want to do something more creative). Then make some yummy mashed or roasted potatoes and some of his favorite veggie side dishes. Plus dessert!
Or is he more of a steak man? Get a nice juicy steak and rub it with some spices, then throw it on the grill. Easy! Also, soft music in the background and candles on the table make a big difference in the ambiance.
I think the important thing is not to rehash last night, or bring up the issues again, but just start it off by saying that you wanted to cook him a nice dinner to thank him for communicating openly with you and that even though it was a rough night, it makes you feel good for the future that you can talk things out together, and keep building a stronger relationship.
Post # 6
My Fiance loves a little note on his car. When I walk the dog at night, I will slip in in there.
Post # 7
I think it has to be something personal to the two of you. dinner sounds nice but even getting take-out from his favorite place? or sending him a mid-day i-love-you email. sometimes i hide notes where I know my Fiance will find them like in his lunch, briefcase, or wallet. just something that will make him smile. 🙂
Post # 8
Thank you bees for your suggestions! I think I will do a few things…I like the note in the car idea (thanks ccranetobe) because we used to always leave each other notes on our cars in the parking lot at school (we would find the others car in a sea of cars to leave a note) so I think it will be a good way to bring back some good feelings. I think I will also cook him dinner – not sure whether it will be chicken or steak (but thank you jhphi) because I dont eat chicken and if I make a chicken I dont want it to go to waste! If I had a little more money right now I would probably send him an edible arrangement but Im trying to save. I will let you guys know what I decide on for sure!
Post # 9
Oh, if you don’t eat chicken then I’d definitely chose something else! You want to be able to enjoy it too.
If he likes cooking, maybe you could pick something where you both could be involved with the cooking/prepping process. It could be a playful, fun, bonding experience to sort of lighten the mood and ease the tension. Hard to feel awkward together when the ingredients are flying everywhere! My husband and I love cooking together, and it’s really fun when we’re both in the kitchen chopping, sauteeing, etc. Even something as simple and casual as making some quick steak fajitas or some homemade pizzas (with storebought bases but choose-your-own toppings) is fun– I’ll be in there chopping away at the vegetables, and he’ll be cooking the onions, meat, etc.
If he has a sweet tooth, definitely plan something yummy for dessert. If my husband was trying to win me over with food, he’d just have to bring home ice cream and all would be forgiven haha.