(Closed) Had a fight, now having some doubts. =(

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 33
Member
1480 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I don’t think the disagreement in itself is a big red flag… it could be if it’s part of a pattern of you expressing your needs/wishes and him not listening, or blatantly disregarding your feelings. But it sounds like this was just a one-off weird little situation where you were both projecting your feelings onto this other couple. That’s nothing to worry about. I think@Miss Beach: puts it really well.

About the argument itself, I totally agree with you! The first thing I thought of when I read your post was omg, the ring Aidan bought Carrie on Sex and the City! My girlfriends and I all agreed that it would be a nightmare to receive a ring that you absolutely hate, and then have to mask your disappointment because you’re supposed to be happy about the proposal. I know it seems terribly superficial to some, but if I’m going to be wearing that ring for the rest of my life is it so much to ask that my Fiance puts a little effort into finding something we both like?

 

Post # 35
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5839 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

@ChrisLuckieBride: I still don’t see how this is enough to question your relationship. Your friend could have told him what you wanted and he could have ignored her but he didn’t. Unless he is constantly ignoring your opinion I don’t understand how a theoretical problem is bothering you so much.

Post # 36
Member
1303 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Do you have any other examples of how he puts his opinions before yours?  This one is just not doing it……so maybe there is something else.  Perhaps if this was consistent behavior on his part then I might advise you to re-evaluate the relationship.  But just for this……nah….

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