Post # 1
My dad was diagnosed with cancer (completely out of the blue) less than two weeks before our wedding. (I wrote about it here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/need-help-please-and-an-update-on-bad-news-good-people-and-evil-doctor). Although he started chemo immediately and was hospitalized for a week, he didn’t want us to postpone the wedding, but it was clear that he would not be able to make it (the wedding was going to be about 4 hours from my parents’ house). So we decided to move the wedding to my parents’ city and hold it 2 days before the scheduled date. My fiance’s family (and many of our friends) couldn’t make it to the new location, so we went ahead and basically repeated the ceremony on the originally-scheduled date in the originally-scheduled location. We’d already paid for that ceremony and reception, so we called it a “2-day renewal of vows/” Everyone was very understanding and all of our friends and family managed to make it to at least one wedding. We were only able to pull off the first wedding (with only 3 days’ notice) thanks to my parents’ fantastic friends and neighbors. My mom’s book club and stock club organized among themselves to find a location (one of their backyards), contribute flowers, set-up everything, and so on. It was unbelievably generous and thoughtful of everyone involved. None of these people had been invited to the original wedding (we had to keep it under 50 people, and we both have large families), yet they all offered their time and support.
Anyway, here’s my question–how can I thank these people? Most of them came to the wedding, and I will definitely send them individual thank you cards for all their help, but I’d like to do something else as well. In all, around a dozen people were involved, most of whom are in either my mom’s book club, stock club, or both. I was thinking of sending something to their next meetings, but I don’t know what. (I thought of flowers, but I’m not sure who would take them home after the meeting, plus they all have amazing gardens, which I know because many of them contributed home-grown flowers to the wedding). The big problem is that we are both grad students and on a very limited budget (which is why we could only invite 50 people to the original wedding). Any thoughts, hive? Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
WHy don’t you make them some baked goodies/baskets either for the group meeting/individuals with personal notes for each person.
Post # 4
Going along sending something to their meeting, how about a small snack at their next get together. I’m thinking cookies or a selection of cakes or even just sweet breads and coffee/tea with a heartfelt thank you.
Post # 5
Hi amnystik and babyboo, thanks for the great suggestions! I should have mentioned that I live about 6 hours away from my parents, so although treats would be awesome, I won’t be around to make them. I am going home to visit next weekend, but they won’t have any meetings while I’m there.
Post # 6
Could you bake things while you are at home and then freeze them? That way your mom could just defrost before the meeting and bring them with her on your behalf?
Post # 7
Why don’t you do an Edible Arrangement. I think they ship anywhere and if you break the cost down between 12 people, it would be a lot cheaper than getting them each an individual gift.
Post # 8
I think that individual notes (even saying that you have no idea how you can really express how grateful you are) are the best think you can do for them. An edible arrangement or something nice for the group as a whole would be nice, but I think you can also visit the group in person and say thank you thank you thank you again the next time you’re home.
And I hope your dad is doing alright with his chemo!
Post # 9
Could you have your mom bring in some goodies from a local bakery to their next meeting and have her express your thanks for all their help? Or, contact a local bakery and see if they deliver. I know several around us do. I also think an Edible Arrangement is a good idea. Another idea is a cookie or candy bouquet. If you google either of those, a lot of different options came up. My mom sent my bf and I a candy bouquet when we passed the bar exam and it was a great treat.
either way, congrats on your wedding and you are lucky to have such wonderful people in your life to help you out like that! I hope your father is doing well.
Post # 10
I think hand written notes of appreciation will be more than adequate. It is so rare these days to get a letter(what with email, tweets, facebook etc) that I think I would value that way more than any cookie.
I’m sure they all understand that you have a lot on your plate and live 6 hours away.
You could even make a point of writing them again in a few months- enclose a pic and let them know that you appreciate the wedding they pulled together for you.