(Closed) Had a long discussion about engagement. Eases my mind. .a bit

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2118 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@katiecat08:  Sounds like he’s just teasing you and trying to throw you off. I would try to not worry about it so much. I’m in an opposite situation, my SO has told me a little too much about my proposal (without me asking). In other words, I won’t be completely surprised. If your SO wants to surprise you, let him. I’m sure all the waiting will be more than worth it in the end 🙂 

Post # 4
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To @katiecat08:  Well that sounds like good news…

In so much as you have exchanged some sort of LIFE PLAN… and you know his timeline.

Are you onboard with waiting that long ?

Sorry I don’t know you that well from WBee, so I am not familiar with your story (how old are you, how long have you been dating, waiting, etc)


Post # 5
40 posts

Ahh yes this sounds all to familiar, I just had a conversation with my SO because I was feeling the same way as you. weve been together a little over 6 years and I havn’t been in a rush because I know we will be together always, but about a month ago it started ” the waiting be itch” I just want to take the next step for our relationship making that commitment to each other. Our conversation was short ha ha I said I know we have talked about marriage ive been thinking about things a lot lately … He says “I know” with a big smile (because he has seen me on here ha ha) and i say I am ready whenever you are and he replays “me too” … I just sighed and laughed and we both said I love you at the same time…. That was it…. Good grief no hints no nothing! … Sorry I can’t help you, but I hope your day comes soon. It’s silly to think about because if your always going to be together what’s the rush … but it gets to a point where you just want to take that step And have that commitment and say those vows… And the waiting is exciting yet drives you crazy but like most former waiting bees say … it’s worth it 🙂 

Post # 6
421 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Rebar

@katiecat08:  omg that’s great news!!! At least he is keeping it a secret. My SO just like @lovelee1:  has also told me a little too much about the proposal. He can’t keep a secret for the life of him. even though i can speculate the day…I am not 100% sure…absolutely be excited…I am so sure he is trying to make super special..!!!

Post # 7
2037 posts
Buzzing bee

@katiecat08:  Just try to hang in there.  Have you followed Mr. Bee’s back up plan yet?  Something about living my own life and loving myself…has really changed something in my SO and I’ve went from ‘not knowing’ anything to my SO sharing with me this past weekend that in two years will will be married and either have a baby or trying for one.

Good Luck!

Post # 8
797 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Honestly, he sounds like he’s being a little mean about it.  I get that it’s all in good fun, but to get enjoyment out of something that is driving you crazy and upsetting you on a regular basis does not sound nice.  I’m not bashing him, I promise!  But if it is really upsetting you, I would want him to understand how much and why.  I’ve seen a lot of bees come on here and after telling their boyfriend’s exactly how they really feel about waiting or not knowing when/if it’ll happen they find out that their boyfriend had absolutely no idea they felt that way.  He can do it the “right way” without driving you crazy.  A time line of a year leaves a lot of wiggle room for surprises!

Good luck 🙂

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