(Closed) Had a really terrible day….

posted 8 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think his friend is a jerk who isn’t very funny. He probably was referring to money, that’s the only time I’ve heard that term. Either way he’s rude. Try to not let it get to you- the friend probably puts his foot in his mouth all the time.

Post # 4
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think what it means is choosing some more or less attractive than you are.  But he was right, his friend is a moron and a jerk for saying that.  Your Fiance loves the way you look, don’t let jerks get to you!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I think that marrying down means marrying someone “outside of your class”.  For example, if you are a lawyer you marry someone who is a plumber, etc.  I think it’s awful to say.  I am so sorry that his friend said that and I’m sure it was a drunken ass move.  I would be bothered by it to and I probably would have flipped on him.  I think you did the right thing and I also think you should remember how much your husband loves you.  He has respect for you and it seems his friend, when drinking, doesn’t have much respect for others.  *hugs*

Post # 6
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1325 posts
Bumble bee

Wow. Well, if I were to use the phrase “marrying up” or “marrying down” it would mean marrying out of my supposed class or social status in said direction. It can be looks, or money, or achievements or just social class.

I’m really sorry your husband’s friend said that. Be assured it has NOTHING to do with you. I’m a little shocked that someone would actually say that…. alcohol perhaps?

Why was he bragging about “marrying up”? Does that make them a happier couple or something. Ugh.. absurd.

Perhaps your husband should quietly take his friend aside and say something to him. He shouldn’t tolerate someone saying that his wife is a second class citizen.

 

Post # 7
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5497 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

His friend is rude…don’t let it get to you! your hubby loves you! = ) That’s all that matters!

Post # 9
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617 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

@twocatcupcake:I’m so sorry about this…it sounds really hard but strong and remember that people that usually say these things are immature and have no class.  I mean it.  I would try my best to take it with a grain of salt (although I know how hard that can be!).

Post # 10
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5095 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

That’s a horrible thing to say to anyone. Regardless of what it’s referring to (money, looks, baking ability…) it’s rude, shallow, and intentionally cruel. I don’t konw what kind of friend this is, but if anyone told me that I was “marrying down” – in front of my fiance, no less! – we would no longer be friends.

Post # 11
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1325 posts
Bumble bee

🙁

I’m sorry you’re still upset. Hmmm, I understand about being emotionally sensitive and taking everything personally, I really don’t know how I grew out of it.

Does it make you feel a little better if you allow yourself to get mad? I think it’s healthy to allow oneself to get indignant, get pissed off. How DARE his friend say something like that! You just have to make sure you still conduct yourself appropriately. 🙂

Perhaps get mad and go blow off some steam. Some people say that a calm will follow.

Post # 12
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I used to get really upset with what people thought about me but I don’t anymore.  Maybe it’s something that comes with age?  Just realize that you are a gorgeous beautiful woman and you deserve the wonderful man you have (who should tell his friend that he is an idiot and to never insult his future wife again).

Post # 13
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2561 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would have told your husbands “friend” to shove it straight up his ass. What a piece of shit thing to say. If you husband cares about you, he should be setting this jerk straight and quick. Saying something like that is not a joke. Period. He or you should definitely have shut that kind of talk down, because by not saying anything he now thinks it is an okay thing to say. Your hubby should definitely have a talk with his so called friend, and you are owed a major apology.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I really think your husband should have a talk with his “friend” and have his friend apologize. That was not a very nice thing to say, under any circumstance.

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