(Closed) Had been acting distant – wow, I'm dumb!

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

zippy85:  So….he was being distant because you said you found a pro-athlete attractive? 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Yeah I’m not seeing how your comments connect with his being distant.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I’m confused…. 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Awe, that’s good news. Yeah, men are also capable of occasionally going thru bouts of having sensitive egos. For my hubs, he’s particularly fragile about Edward Norton. I think he’s hot, but if I say he is then hubs gets this look and I can tell I’ve bruised his ego. Not sure why Edward Norton, but it is what it is. Now, I can say Hugh Jackman is hot til the cows come home and nothing. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

mildlybookish:  daisybee90:  weatherbug:  I assume she means he was acting distant/not being intimate because he felt unattractive due to her making multiple comments about hot sportsmen and that once she realised this and explained to him that she does still fancy him etc he felt less insecure and therefore they had some great sex. It’s fair enough really as it’s hard to get naked and feel sexy if you think your partner finds you unattractive

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

zippy85:  It’s true – men get selfconsious about their bodies as well.  We don’t like being compared to cheerleaders and being told that we should doesn’t usually get us in the mood.  men can react the same way if they’re feeling unattractive.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

zippy85:  …nobody said he was insecure.  your post was extremely difficult to dissect is all.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Wait, I don’t understand. You talk about this whole incident:

“We watched a movie and he kept commenting how hot the actress was. Devastated, I went to bed angry and eventually had a blow out with him, asking why he wasn’t touching me and asking if he was even attracted to me anymore.”

And then you say that after that, you went on to “fawn over” athletes like you “usually do”? Isn’t that kind of the pot calling the kettle black here? After that whole incident you described, it didn’t occur to you that talking about how hot NFL players are might insult your SO in the same way talking about how hot actresses are insulted you…?

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Women are definitely not the only ones who suffer with body image issues. Glad to hear that this resolved itself! =)

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t get it either. If he didn’t like you making those comments about the athletes, why didn’t he tell you it bothered him? Are you saying that he commented on the hot actress because he was trying to retaliate for your comments? I think both of you need to work on your communication with each other.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

TheGridMonster:  I thought she was offended because he said the actress was hot yet gave op no attention… I think. 

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper

atreyu547:  Yeah, that’s clear. What’s not so clear is that after she got so upset and hurt about it, she proceeds to talk about how hot athletes are and seems surprised that her SO isn’t thrilled.

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

TheGridMonster:  she’s not surprised, the girl is reflecting and sharing on a “duh, why didn’t I realize that”  moment. 

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