- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
An abridged bit of background: my FMIL is a bit of a loner from what I’ve gathered over the years. She’s a tad bizarre (and that’s putting it nicely). As they are both single, my mom has extended the olive branch on many occasions to which she’s either been weird about, not accepted or over complicated for no good reason. It’s very obvious to me that FMIL does not want to “friends” with my mom, so I need to find a nice way to tell her this without hurting her feelings.
In addition, FMIL has made it clear she wanted to be more “involved” in the planning, since as the MOG, you don’t get to do as much girly fun stuff. I’ve tried to include her, but right now FI and I have just been having a lot of vendor meetings and paying deposits. She went dress shopping with me, at least…
That brings us to yesterday. Our venue owner just had an open house for a B&B that will be available to all 2014 brides come this spring so we decided to “invite” our moms even though we didn’t want to. We thought it’d be nice. But before the open house, FI and I had plans to meet a prospective caterer at the venue. It was a business meeting and though my mom said she wanted to come, I told her no. This is something FI and I wanted to do on our own. I made it extremely clear that this was not a social event, and that our moms were NOT to come to the barn. In that case, since all this was taking place an hour away, my mom offered to drive up to the open house with FMIL to which she said no b/c she “wouldn’t be ready and had things to do”.
So we’re at the venue having a discussion with our caterer/day of coordinator and in walks FMIL out of the blue. On time with the time my mom was at the open house. FI and I were in shock, I was seething. Not only did I make it perfectly clear that this was a MEETING, but OBVIOUSLY the whole thing about being late and having things to do was a lie. She proceeds to meander around the venue while we’re talking with our vendors, throwing in a word here and there. I couldn’t even bring myself to say hello I was so pissed. How sneaky is that?? She claims that she thought the open house event was “on the same property”, but she’s been there before and knows there is no B&B on our venue’s property!! Do you think I’m stupid??
I just thought it was completely disrespectful to us and sneaky how she went around lying to my mom about the drive up. So now we walk into the open house at the B&B and my mom was sitting there by herself with a very, “WTF” look b/c we all walked in together. I just said, “Don’t. I can’t even get into it now”.
I can’t talk to FI about how mad I am b/c he honestly thinks she was just “confused” and went to the wrong place. I can’t very well attack his mother b/c he’ll never see it the way I do. I just told him I was extremely pissed off and that when it comes to our business transactions with our vendors, no one is to be “invited” anymore. Oh! Here’s the best part! At our caterer meeting, since they don’t have a store per se, we’d have to do a tasting at an event they cater in the spring and the caterer said he’d get us VIP passes to it. FMIL says, “Oh that sounds like a great time I’d love to go…” At that point, red was all I could see.
Sorry bees, not looking for anything here but to vent!!! But if anyone has similar stories (which I KNOW you do!!) feel free to share! I’m not going to ask if I’m being over sensitive, b/c I know I’m not. I’m just…fed…up!