Post # 1
I’m actually quite proud of myself for it! I’ve been engaged for a week and boyoboy, my mother and one of my sisters have been driving me UP THE WALL. Moreso the mother. My sister had declared herself as my Maid/Matron of Honor and I shut that down pretty quick-only for my mom to continously bring it up. “Hey you know that (Sister’s name) is telling people she’s Maid/Matron of Honor.” “You should just make her Maid/Matron of Honor.” “I think its awesome that she’s MOH” Finally I snapped (which is incredibly rare 😉 ) “Stop.” cue my mom still rambling about it and I told her; “To stop encouraging something that’s not happening and that’s incredibly selfish for you to do so! Especially when its obviously you telling people that she’s the MOH!” She suddenly had to take a different phone call. Uh huh. Riiiight. BUT I am happy although a bit annoyed. Anyone (that may or may not be usually passive like myself) have any bridezilla wins that you’re quite proud of? SHARE EM.
Post # 2
Oh I feel you. I’m super relaxed and easy going but family can bring out the worst in a person. My sister. Sigh. She’s VERY dissapointed that she’s not being included in the wedding as anything other than a guest ( lots of reasons for this ) and announced that she’d be choosing the music for us. Ummm no…
She just shook her head and said it’s your wedding but I’d do a much better job than you lol. I said I’d muddle through but thanks…
Post # 3
I’ve had only had one bridezilla moment so far, (at least, that I’m aware of? I guess it’s in the real of possibility that I’ve had more that I didn’t register as bridezilla, and other’s did. O.o), and yeah, I’m actually really glad I did! My mother was really, really upset about my bridal party, too! It’s been exhausting.
For one, I’m having a man of honor instead of a maid of honor, which she thinks is ruining tradition. And for two, I’m having my ex-girlfriend as one of my bridesmaids. (I know how it sounds! But she’s been my best friend since diapers, literally. And we only dated for a few months when we were 16, like 7/8 years ago, and broke up because our relationship was more always platonic and we only really dated because we were the only lesbian/bisexual girls in our tiny Southern high school. And she’s happily married, and I was a witness at her wedding. And I’ve gone on a whole spiel because I’ve had to defend my choice to everyone. Whoops! Sorry.) Which my mother thinks is disrespectful to my Fiance, even though he has zero problems with it.
Anyway, I put my foot down, told my mother that it’s mine and my FI’s wedding, and we will do what makes us happy, not what makes her happy. That was that, and she’s stopped harping about it.
Post # 4
Ha-HAH! I am too having a man of honor~ Plus did my mother really expect me to choose between my two sisters? That would be asking for trouble! Also all of my bridesmaids are called my ‘ladies o’ honor’ No one is more special than the other except for the man of honor lmao
Lol “So since I’m not a bridesmaid-I’m picking out your music!” Do we share the same sister?! Except mine wants to buy my dress (I was like WTF, love you but no), make up, hair done….yeah no. I’m the oldest! I can take of myself dammit XD
Post # 5
I noticed a couple of days ago that I’m definitely on the path to be a bridezilla. Not the TV version lol but definitely my own version of it. I never thought that I would be but now that I’ve started to realize more how type A I am, it’s hard to not be one. I’ve had one too many arguments with my Fiance over how “I” want the wedding to be vs what he or his family (who hasn’t contributed to the wedding as of yet) to be.
Not to mention that I REFUSE to give in to letting the bridesmaids pick their own dresses given the color and fabric. This has actually made my life a lot tougher. I have one bridesmaid with a very large bust size and she refuses to wear anything that will require her to wear a strapless bra or clear straps. (Showed me an article saying that they don’t make them in her size). Anyways, that’s highly limited the dresses we could get in combination with low budgets. I’ve had to “settle” for what I would have loved them to wear.
Post # 6
I’m pretty chill when it comes to most details, I hired professionals and told them what I want and they will figure it out.
But the guest list is another story: no one is allowed to make suggestions or ask me for invites. I will cut you
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
I wouldn’t call that a bridezilla moment…I’d call that a YOU GO GIRL moment! Kudos for putting your foot down and nipping that in the bud!
Post # 8
ha, my grandmother just threw an absolute fit because I didn’t invite her church minister or her siblings (my great aunts and uncles). I’m going to have to do it because she’s capable of boycotting the wedding and causing a huge family rift but… ugh
Post # 9
I’m kind of not surprised that you have had a lot more trouble/stress by refusing to let bms pick own dresses given colour length fabric etc. Esp the one with the really big boobs not wanting a strapless .
Of course you can do more or less what you like in this area, but its bound to be a problem , at some level or other.Well done you at least for ‘settling ‘.
You know they will actually look better in dresses they like and are comfortable in than ones that are your vision and they hate, don’t you?
Post # 10
I respect that but I just really don’t like the look of different dresses. Every bride is free to chose her own vision for the dress. I have seen tons of weddings where women of different shapes and styles wore the same dress and still looked great in it. I think it comes from my days of dance and the uniform look. And no not all the dancers were skinny minnies.
They only have to wear the dresses for a few hours and then they can change. I’m sure they can be comfortable in the dress for a few hours. Also I gave everyone a say in the dresses. I didn’t put my foot down and say “wear this” which I know some brides do. I took the time to especially cater to the Bridesmaid or Best Man for the larger frame and in the end let them vote on dresses. Everyone said they liked the dresses that we chose so it was a democracy in the choice, even if it wouldn’t have been their personal top pick. I was actually the swing vote, since I have 6 BMs. I let them collectively choose which dress they liked the most.