(Closed) Had my first (minor) bridezilla moment and………..

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

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random :  

Oh I feel you. I’m super relaxed and easy going but family can bring out the worst in a person. My sister. Sigh. She’s VERY dissapointed that she’s not being included in the wedding as anything other than a guest ( lots of reasons for this ) and announced that she’d be choosing the music for us. Ummm no…

She just shook her head and said it’s your wedding but I’d do a much better job than you lol. I said I’d muddle through but thanks…

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

I’ve had only had one bridezilla moment so far, (at least, that I’m aware of? I guess it’s in the real of possibility that I’ve had more that I didn’t register as bridezilla, and other’s did. O.o), and yeah, I’m actually really glad I did! My mother was really, really upset about my bridal party, too! It’s been exhausting.

For one, I’m having a man of honor instead of a maid of honor, which she thinks is ruining tradition. And for two, I’m having my ex-girlfriend as one of my bridesmaids. (I know how it sounds! But she’s been my best friend since diapers, literally. And we only dated for a few months when we were 16, like 7/8 years ago,  and broke up because our relationship was more always platonic and we only really dated because we were the only lesbian/bisexual girls in our tiny Southern high school. And she’s happily married, and I was a witness at her wedding. And I’ve gone on a whole spiel because I’ve had to defend my choice to everyone. Whoops! Sorry.) Which my mother thinks is disrespectful to my Fiance, even though he has zero problems with it. 

Anyway, I put my foot down, told my mother that it’s mine and my FI’s wedding, and we will do what makes us happy, not what makes her happy. That was that, and she’s stopped harping about it.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I noticed a couple of days ago that I’m definitely on the path to be a bridezilla.  Not the TV version lol but definitely my own version of it.  I never thought that I would be but now that I’ve started to realize more how type A I am, it’s hard to not be one.  I’ve had one too many arguments with my Fiance over how “I” want the wedding to be vs what he or his family (who hasn’t contributed to the wedding as of yet) to be. 

Not to mention that I REFUSE to give in to letting the bridesmaids pick their own dresses given the color and fabric.  This has actually made my life a lot tougher.  I have one bridesmaid with a very large bust size and she refuses to wear anything that will require her to wear a strapless bra or clear straps.  (Showed me an article saying that they don’t make them in her size).  Anyways, that’s highly limited the dresses we could get in combination with low budgets.  I’ve had to “settle” for what I would have loved them to wear.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I’m pretty chill when it comes to most details, I hired professionals and told them what I want and they will figure it out.

But the guest list is another story: no one is allowed to make suggestions or ask me for invites. I will cut you 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

I wouldn’t call that a bridezilla moment…I’d call that a YOU GO GIRL moment! Kudos for putting your foot down and nipping that in the bud!

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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meliboo :  ha, my grandmother just threw an absolute fit because I didn’t invite her church minister or her siblings (my great aunts and uncles). I’m going to have to do it because she’s capable of boycotting the wedding and causing a huge family rift but… ugh

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Sugar Beekeeper

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futuremrsferrell :  

I’m kind of not surprised that you have had a lot more trouble/stress by  refusing to let bms pick own dresses given colour length fabric etc.  Esp the one with the really big boobs not wanting a strapless . 

Of course you can do more or less what you like in this area, but its bound to be a problem , at  some level or other.Well done you at least for ‘settling ‘.

You know they will actually look better in dresses they like and  are comfortable  in than ones that are your vision and they hate, don’t you?

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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elderbee :  I respect that but I just really don’t like the look of different dresses.  Every bride is free to chose her own vision for the dress.  I have seen tons of weddings where women of different shapes and styles wore the same dress and still looked great in it.  I think it comes from my days of dance and the uniform look.  And no not all the dancers were skinny minnies. 

They only have to wear the dresses for a few hours and then they can change.  I’m sure they can be comfortable in the dress for a few hours.  Also I gave everyone a say in the dresses.  I didn’t put my foot down and say “wear this” which I know some brides do.  I took the time to especially cater to the Bridesmaid or Best Man for the larger frame and in the end let them vote on dresses.  Everyone said they liked the dresses that we chose so it was a democracy in the choice, even if it wouldn’t have been their personal top pick.  I was actually the swing vote, since I have 6 BMs.  I let them collectively choose which dress they liked the most.

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