(Closed) Had my first 'second thoughts' freak out

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yup! Still happens to me about once a week πŸ™‚ I usually don’t have a full-on freak out, but sometimes I make myself stop and think about how everything will change and it starts to get to me. I think questioning yourself is normal. If it’s not, then we’re all insane!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

You’re not alone πŸ™‚  I already AM pregnant, and every now and then I wonder, “Can I really do this?” but I am blessed with a very supportive partner & lovely friends, as well as my crazy Bee-pals.  We remind each other that yes, we might be a little cray-cray, but we’re not alone in our insanity.  We embrace it, and each other, and know that when the time comes hopefully mother nature will kick in and everything will fall into place.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We’re just starting our second cycle of trying and I definitely have doubts about whether it’s the right time or if I’m even cut out to be a mom at all. I greeted my first AF with a mixture of disappointment and relief. But I just think about how much my Darling Husband wants to be a father and how excited our families will be, and how I’m going to love the crap out of any babies we have and then it’s all ok.

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

This makes me nervous. We are going to start trying next month and I am getting nervous that I will drive myself crazy every month until the seed is planted. πŸ™ 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I completely get it. We have been trying for a year. We got pg on our first round of clomid and ended up having a mc this spring. We are Ttc again after a slight hiatus. I am on clomid and I completely freaked out a few days ago. Kind of a be careful what u wish for feeling. I started imagining that I would get pg with anywhere from 3-8 babies! And I panicked. It is te first time that’s happened to me. Ttc is a roller coaster no matter what  .

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m already pregnant, and I’ve still had a few moments like this! I was thrilled when I got my first positive test, and then later on that day I was standing in the shower fighting off a panic attack, like “OMG, this is actually happening. Life is going to change so much. What have we done?!?”

I think it’s totally normal when you make this decision, and normal again when it actually happens and you realize “Okay, I’m going to be somebody’s mom. I’m going to have a three-month old baby at this time next year. Whoa.”

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@DiamondsandLace: Yep – agreed! It is hugely scary! But also wonderful & exciting etc! I have been on an emotional whirlwind since getting pregnant with moments of doubt, like can I do this, can I be a great mum?

But I think the love you have for your baby overshadows all those worries!! So don’t worry about worrrying, OP πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@dramabean:  Yep. Totally normal, I think. We’ve been trying for a year and I say to dh all the time that I totally needed to be the one who gets ku by surprise just so I don’t drive myself crash with all the overthinking about the changes, and the money and “what if one of us dies.  I don’t want to be a single parent”. And then I’ll be sobbing because the fact that it’s taking so long is clearly a SIGN that we’re not meant to have kids…. Bat shit crazy right here. 

Assuming you’re a kindperson who has their basic affairs in order and will love the kid, I’m sure you’ll be just fine!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@DiamondsandLace:  Ditto to the tee. I’m 14 weeks pregnant and still have these freak out moments!

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