Post # 1
I dreamed that my wedding was one big flop of an event where I was left crying and the guests were left wishing they hadn’t come! It took place after-hours at our local supermarket, next to the hummus case, with the lights dimmed, and all the guests were late to the ceremony. Then we didn’t have enough seats. I had never asked anyone but my MOH to be bridesmaids and ended up trying to do it at the last minute, which was hectic and insane and obviously didn’t work. The flower girls were there, but had nothing to toss, so we ripped open some bags of potpurri in the supermarket and put a paltry amount in little metal buckets from the Home and Garden section. I walked down the aisle sans music because apparently we didn’t have any. The man who escorted me down the aisle was not my father but some strange man I didn’t know, which I was thoroughly displeased about, and when I looked at my father in the crowd, he was obviously sad too.
When I got to the top of the aisle, I realized that I hadn’t hired a photographer and yelled out in sadness about it, hoping that someone would take some decent pics in the crowd. Next thing I knew, the ceremony was over–and my groom wasn’t there. There had been no exchange of vows. But someone HAD located this really cheesy, obnoxious amateur photographer who was super-invasive and shouted orders at everyone there. The guests were angry that my wedding had sucked big time (there wasn’t even a reception), and I was bawling my eyes out. My dad came up to me after the ceremony ended and expressed shock that I hadn’t even exchanged vows. I said to him that my wedding was a catastrophe and a joke, and that I wanted to do it over next year. I told all my guests, and they just groaned and told me they wouldn’t come!
What the heck? I woke up from this dream feeling pretty awful. My wedding is still a year and a half away! I don’t want anther year and a half of these crappy dreams. I don’t even know why I had this one!
Post # 3
HUGS! I know exactly how you feel, I had a similar dream where I forgot to send out invitations and nobody came. 🙁 I’ve been engaged since Nov 09 (wedding this October) and I have only had 1 bad dream. Try and take a break from planning, I did that and it helped a TON!
Post # 4
Oh man! What a horrible dream! I never had any quite like that, but I did have my share of bad dreams (but mine were in the last few months/weeks before the weddding). Hope you don’t have any more like that. 🙂
Post # 5
I was TORTURED by wedding nightmares. I had at least five vivid ones that I can remember that were similar to yours. And you know what? My wedding day was flawless! So I made a new rule of life: the more wedding nightmares one has…the more amazing their day will be! 🙂
Post # 6
Thanks ladies…Edina, I hope you’re right about this (and congratulations on your wedding by the way)! I haven’t even been doing much planning recently. I’ve barely been on the bee, too. This dream just came out of nowhere (though it did tap into my fears that my wedding will be some chaotic disaster…boo).
Post # 7
I had a week of dreams like this during my busiest/most stressful planning time. I had married the wrong groom, had a BM cancel on me the day of due to allergies (which she doesn’t have), and had my bridal party make me wear a veil that was terrycloth. The whole time I was like “This isn’t how it’s supposed to be!”. Rest assured that these will pass. I haven’t had any since 🙂
I agree with speulie, take a break from planning if you can.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant
That does sound terrible!! If it makes you feel any better, I have HORRIBLE wedding nightmares all.the.time. I always forget stuff in the dreams, things don’t go right, there are too many people, and I’ve even had a dream where no one recognized me at my own wedding–not even my mom!!
I hope they don’t become frequent for you. Try to do something other than look at wedding blogs right before bed! Maybe that’ll help clear your mind!
Post # 9
At least the bright side is after all the horrible wedding dreams you’re wedding will seem perfect. Maybe their you’re brain’s way of preparing you for the worst – that way even the most minor problem on your actual day seems like nothing. 🙂
I had one last night where we didn’t have our rings (cause we’re wedding band shopping now) so first we tried to use twisty ties but that didn’t work so we used rings we already owned because we figured who would know the difference.
Then, as we’re standing in the back of the church I turned to my FI and said “Oh my gosh! We forgot to decorate the tables!” We ended up getting married anyway and there was a huge crowd and it was fine.
Plus Martha Stewart showed up with a GIGANTIC bottle of champagne.
Post # 10
Offbeat Bride did an awesome video advice response to this topic.
Basically, Ariel (the site’s founder) says that as long as you wind up married at the end of the day…. your wedding was a success. I like her thinking.
I’ve had a couple wedding nightmares as well. In one, my wedding was in the food court in the mall. Ick. No thanks.
Post # 11
- Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House
Don’t worry lady – most of us have some wedding nightmares 🙂
Lamster actually got the first one – that his groomsman got stuck in Japan and couldn’t make the wedding (he travels there for work). A few weeks later, I had my nightmare – that everyone came a month early and forced me to have the wedding that day even though I kept telling them that they were a month too early.
I promise that it’ll all be ok!
Post # 12
veganglam – be glad all the crap wedding stuff is in your dreams only 🙂 Think of the funny things – like, why did your mind have you get married next to the hummus? Maybe you need to hit the grocery store? heehee
Post # 13
@camrie: “Plus Martha Stewart showed up with a GIGANTIC bottle of champagne.” Hysterical. Reading about all of you ladies’ dreams is making me laugh and feel much better. About the hummus case–I think it may have been because I looked into the fridge last night right before going to bed and guiltily saw like four containers of uneaten hummus going to waste. So the dip wormed its way in. Oops. And I DID visit weddingbee immediately after that; it was the last thing I looked at before falling asleep. Bad idea I guess, and I won’t do it again. Hummus guilt + wedding blogs=bad wedding in a supermarket. Thanks for helping me figure this out guys. 😛
Post # 14
Years before I met my fiance, I had a dream that I had a Care Bears themed wedding. I hate the Care Bears. Hummus is good. Care Bears–not so much!
Post # 15
I’ve been having nightmares basically nightly. Sometimes its about a bad wedding but mostly of my FI changing his mind about wanting to get married to me.