Post # 1
Hey Bees, Please don’t take this the wrong way. I’m really not a greedy person. But, my fiance and I don’t own a house yet – we’re in an apartment. We had our shower two weeks ago and got tons of amazing stuff – dishes, serving platters, towels, etc. But 80 percent of it is at my parents house until we figure out if we’re going to buy a house, rent, move etc.
Since we got so much stuff (more than we need right now), I really don’t want/need to get more physical gifts at the wedding so (this is the part that sounds horrible) I’d rather get cash!
There are a few things left on the registry (small stuff like kitchen tools, a down comforter and $300 pots and pan set) that I want to delete because I don’t want people to think “oh, they didn’t get it, so I should buy it for the wedding gift.” I’d rather just buy them later when we’re ready, because we could use the money now since we’re paying a lot for the wedding. Plus we got a fair amount of money in gift cards that we can use to buy those remaining items.
But, do you think if I delete the stuff off the registry and leave nothing, that some pople will still want to buy physical gifts and will end up getting me something THEY think I want/ need? Would it be safer just to leave a few things on the registry for the people who like to buy physical gifts? (Because I’m assuming there are still people out there like that. Me, personally, I always give cash at a wedding.)
Post # 3
I am not sure it will make a huge difference, but go ahead and delete some.
If someone usually gives money they will give money and an unfulfilled registry won’t change that.
IF someone usually gives a gift and there is nothing they want to get on the registry they will likely pick something out.
Post # 4
After my two showers were over, I deleted most of the remaining items from our registry in hopes of getting cash. At that point, we had received so much ‘stuff’ and same as you – we were living in a small 1 bedroom apartment, our gifts actually lived at my parents house for over a year. Also, we were paying for the entire honeymoon and 1/2 of the Rehearsal Dinner ourselves, so cash was really needed at this point way more than any of the gifts left on the registry. I left anythign that needed to be completed (like cutlery, silverware, dishes) but deleted things like appliances, misc. cooking/baking items, towels, any home decor items, etc.
It must have worked, because our remianing registries were completed by the wedding and we got a ton of cash. People may have been planning on giving us cash regarless of my little scheme, but I like to think I was smart and avoided getting more ‘stuff’.
I will say though, that the registry gifts we received, even a year later (now that we finally have space for them!) are beyond amazing to have. It’s all really nice stuff I wouldn’t have bought us if we had only received cash and it helps make our apartment a real home where two adults live instead of the post college stuff we had before upgrading everything.
Post # 5
I would leave them on the registry. Most places give you a completion discount so when you are ready to buy it, you will get a discount.
Just don’t add anything else to it. You have three types of wedding guests. Those who will buy from the registry no matter what. Those who don’t even bother with it and just give cash/gift cards. Those who look at the registry but get you something else instead (frames and other stuff like that)
Post # 6
if you delete everything off your registry, the people who refuse to give money will likely go rougue and buy you crap you didn’t want at all. Leave some moderately priced stuff on the registry – people will still give you money as well.
Post # 7
I would leave it. I think people that were going to give cash will likely give cash anyways. And people who want to buy *something* physical will have options, otherwise I think you will end up with random stuff you didnt even want.
Post # 8
What type of stuff would you suggest leaving on there? We got a bunch of appliances already, 8 place settings, linens, bakewear, etc. Sooo much. I dont even know what else to leave.
Post # 9
I would leave them on the registry. Some people aren’t comfortable with monetary gifts, and would rather actually give you something you want. Some folks may still give you cash, and others may not. But free stuff is free stuff. Besides, it’ll save you a lot of money later when you do get a house.
Post # 10
I would leave them. I fall into the category of people who are not comfortable giving monetary gifts so no matter what you do, I would not give you cash. I would rather be able to purchase you something that I know you want than have to try to guess what you might still need.
Post # 11
I think people who are going to give cash will do so no matter what is or isn’t on the registry. Does your registry have a cash fund? Mine is right on my registry (you can do it at http://www.myregistry.com) as a subtle reminder that it’s what we really want!
Either way, yay for what sounds like a fab shower 🙂
Post # 12
Depending on where you are registered i would leave it. Bed Bath & Beyond allows you to return items for CASH. I would just let folks give me gifts and then return everything when it’s over.
Post # 13
I’m glad you asked this question! Fiance and I have lived together for 4 years, he bought his first place when he was 21 and he and I bought a place together 2 years ago, so needless to say we don’t need a whole lot. My shower is coming up in a couple weeks, but I was wondering if I should delete some stuff that I don’t get off it after that. I’ll follow the advice of PP and leave some moderately priced items on, but take the big ticket stuff off. Our registry only has like 40 items anyway, the lady at the store told me I needed to add way more, but we don’t NEED way more.
Post # 14
If you registered at Bed Bath and Beyond, DO NOT delete anything. I did this thinking it was ok, apparently its an insurance policy of sorts. Through their store you have up to 2 years after the wedding date to return ANYTHING you want, whether it is used or not. They will take it back and give you a refund. How cool is that?!?!?! I LOVE Bed Bath and Beyond! haha =)
Post # 15
@brady3537: really?? because i returned a few duplicates the other day and they gave me store credit. I can’t remember, but maybe they asked me if I wanted the store credit and I said yes. I would have rathered cash because we already have a bunch of BBB gift cards! Unfortunately, I deleted items before I posted this, so now I think I will go back and add them.
@Ryansgirl: i thought the same thing — we don’t NEED stuff. But, instead we just registered for stuff that we have, but got it brand new so when we move into a house we dont have to repack crappy old stuff. Or use this as a chance to upgrade — order yourself nice dishes or 400 threadcount sheets, or that $500 dyson vacuum you’ve always wanted!
Post # 16
leave it up! You never know!