Post # 1
So I got a call from my mom last night, my parents are snowbirding in Arizona. She called to let me know that 4 of my dads extended (very extended) family had booked their hotel rooms already and asked if they could come to the wedding! We had made a cut off line on this side of the family because there are an extra 30 people if we invited the “next line” of family. Basically we did our invites in family rings, if we invited one sibling they all got invited, one cousin they all got invited, etc. My dad’s family is pretty newly introduced, so we took the grand momma (my dad’s aunt), and her eldest daughter (the only one I’ve ever met) who cares for her as she has health issues. We spoke to them about it, and they agreed that as inviting anyone else would mean we had to add an extra 30 people, we would leave it at that. These 2 (Aunt and daughter) have been very involved since we met them several years ago, sending cards, chatting via email/facebook several visits to them in Utah and they to us in Canada including 1 other family wedding and a family reunion. Our guest list is at 233 people right now, and we can ony afford 150…so we are having to cull several other friends/aquaintences off the list anyhow. I felt really bad saying no, but we just can’t do it! The worst part…they said they will keep their hotel reservations just in case we have the space! WHich sucks becasue we have a limited block of rooms reserved, and that means someone who IS invited may not be able to get a room. I fear this will be the first of many such people in our wedding journey:(
Post # 3
i guess they assumed that since they stay in contact and try to be closer familiy members (despite which ring they are in) that they would be invited the wedding. Isn’t it nice to see people genuinely excited to see you get married.
Thankfully u know ur budget constraints, otherwise you could be extending invites to everyone who wanted to be there.
I am sure there will be more guest list drama as your date quickly approaches! 🙂
Post # 4
I would say to make a hard and fast line and stick to it!
Post # 5
@Miss Beacon: Yeah, You are right, it is nice that they want to come, I am flattered that so many people genuinely want to be there. The hard part, these 4 people I don’t know. At all. I have never personally met them, and my parents don’t keep in touch with them either. It’s their aunt and great aunt that we know. If I invited them, it’d cause huge greif with the rest of the family and I’d have to invite all them too! Sigh, I hated saying no, in fact I feel like a right bitch, but there has to be an end!
Post # 6
i just have to ask- what is snowbirding? lol
Post # 7
@Take The Reins: you are right! i am glad u stuck to your guns!
Post # 8
@Take The Reins: In regards to the hotel – can you call the hotel and ask that they be taken off the room block group? Explain that they aren’t invited to the wedding and you need all of the rooms in the room block. As long as the hotel has rooms available, they should be able to switch it.
Post # 9
@Miss Beacon: Agreed. It’s tough, but when it comes to 30+ additions, you just have to stand firm on the line. Good luck, @Take The Reins:! I agree with @Crabbabs: as well, the hotel may be able to pull them out of the block and just give them other rooms until they decide to cancel them on their own.
@Mrs. Meowerson: When folks from the Northern/colder climates spend the winters in Southern/warmer climates. Many of them eventually buy a place down in their preferred location, but others just rent each winter or have an RV or something of that nature.
Post # 10
@Crabbabs: Didn’t consider that…good idea!
@indibee: My folks have a travel trailer that they tow down for about 8-12 weeks every winter. They won’t buy because they love exploring, so they spend a few weeks travelling all over the southern US from Cali, Arizona, New Mexico, Nevada etc. They love it. They are very active people so settling into an RV park would make them crazy!