Post # 1
This last year has been riddled with unemployment, living with my Future In-Laws and paying solo for the wedding. Our wedding went past our budget and is pushing $2000. We have half of it paid for and last night my Fiance sat down with me while I was having a meltdown and let me know that he loved me too much to see me stress over a pricey honeymoon when all he really wants is to take time off work and spend it together after such a rough year and a half. We could afford our modest cruise to the Bahamas if we scrapped every single penny not going to bills over the next 2.5months. The problem comes down to having absolutely no savings left over after all is said and done and having a new apartment to move into and furnish right before the wedding. Living with my in laws is not an option, I’d much rather get the apartment and wait to honeymoon in the spring/summer.
He is talking about getting another job to help build our savings back up while he waits to hear about whether he can get a position with the local PD…I don’t want him to think I am ungrateful or selfish, I just don’t want us to be like both our parents, regretting not having a wedding or honeymoon and being depressed about it even after 23+ years of marriage. I think I will be fine once I get passed the social “norm” of leaving on the red eye flight to a beach for a week or two after the wedding.
Anyone else out there who has postponed or skipped the honeymoon all together? Did you end up feeling like you missed out?
I know it’ll be beneficial and mean more once we do end up going abroad together, especially knowing we didn’t rob ourselves to get there.
Post # 2
That is super hard. I know how you feel. I can relate so much! It will get better! sending hugs.
Post # 3
I’m sorry about your financial struggles. You don’t need to have a honeymoon to be married to each other, but I know it’s hard to feel that now. Why do you have to go to the Bahamas? Why do you have to spend two weeks on vacation?
I agree with saving money to afford your trip, but you could save for a smaller scale honeymoon within driving distance or something. It can still be memorable even though you’re not thousands of miles away from home.
Post # 4
We’re going to a little B&B for a couple nights after the honeymoon, and hopefully doing a bigger trip next year. I’m not upset about it.
Post # 5
I know a couple that waited a year to take their honeymoon due to finances. Don’t stress it. It’s not in your control, so why not focus on the positives? Sounds like you have a fantastic husband to be who loves you who you get to spend the rest of your life with, you’re moving out to your own place, and you’re going to have your wedding soon! I’m almost at my one year mark (next week!) and I would be just as excited to go on a honeymoon now as I was when we first got married. Maybe even more if I had waited.
Post # 6
It was for the beach since we are land locked, 7days because it cost just as much as the 3-5 day cruises we found online.
Yeah, I am looking into a hotel for a night or two but I don’t think we can even do that.
I think I’m just bummed because the year and a half has been so rough and we have sacraficed everything to even have the wedding so I wanted to be able to celebrate with a vacation to “get away from life”. It’s not life or death, just a let down.
Post # 7
I’m sorry you’re going through such a rough time, but as someone on the other side of things (we did have a honeymoon and travel a lot)… I really didn’t see the honeymoon as anything all that special. It was really just another trip to us, and in fact had less effort put into it than anything else. I think people really hype it up and see it as some magical vacation when in fact, it’s just anothe vacation that happens to be after your wedding. Get married, have a wonderful wedding.. there will be plenty of time later for amazing trips once finances look better. And don’t worry too much about getting your new apartment furnished right away either, that takes time too as long as you have the basics, just go with it and furnish when you have the cash to do so. Took us over 6 months just to buy a sofa, and 2 years to finally furnish the dining room!
Post # 8
We are skipping ours also, due to money. It sucks, so much butt. I have the entire week off after to just stay home. It’ll get better though. In my eyes, I’d rather go a couple years down the line to something magical, then do a flimsy, rushed one at a place I really didn’t enjoy.
Post # 9
We didn’t take a honeymoon. We’re still alive and happily married. A honeymoon is an extra, it’s not necessary to travel somewhere extravagant for it be considered a honeymoon.
We’re not planning a big ‘honeymoon-like’ trip for another few years.. I don’t feel like I missed out at all, it will come eventually and it doesn’t have to be traveling abroad or some expensive trip to be special.
Post # 10
I think what pp meant was that Bahamas is expensive. Mexico can be done for quite cheap. Something to look into! Puerto Vallarta and cancun often have great deals.
Post # 11
We never went on a honeymoon and I don’t regret it at all.
Post # 12
FI and I are waiting a year to do a “honeymoon”. With the wedding and every other bill, there is no way we could afford to take one right now. We’re taking a few days off after the wedding off and just hanging around home. This winter we’ll save up alot of our plowing money so that we can take a honeymoon/1st anniversary trip next year. Who knows, we may decide to not that the trip at all and keep the money in the bank.
Post # 13
I understood :). I didn’t take offense. We found a trip that is super cheap and the same price as a short trip to Mexico, just not feasible. Even Mexico is $1500 after airfare.
Thank you everyone, it sucks but I guess there are more people who don’t do the hyped up honeymoon or wait for an anniversary trip than I realized.
Post # 14
We had a delayed honeymoon. Really no big deal. We’re finally going this month, 5 months after the wedding. Money wasn’t the issue but we both had work and school and it just wasn’t conducive to a trip. Doesn’t bother me at all, and I’ve actually started just calling it a vacation because I really don’t care if we go on a “honeymoon” or not
plenty of people don’t have a honeymoon at all or have a delayed honeymoon. Be glad you can take some time off to relax and enjoy your husband.
a honeymoon is just a poorly timed vacation you leave on the day after a tiring expensive wedding when you’re often already broke. Doesn’t sound fun or relaxing to me. You have the rest of your life to take vacations with your husband. What does it matter if one of them started the day after your wedding or not.
Post # 15
I never had a honeymoon because I got pregnant right before my wedding and since i had transferred jobs and lost all of my vacation I couldn’t afford to burn what vacation I had for a honeymoon. And then I was breastfeeding and not comfortable leaving my baby for a week. We’re also putting lots of $$ into my husbands business. So it will be two years+ for us and no honeymoon. We’re finally going to try and figure something out this fall or winter- but it will just be a normal trip. It’s just a vacation, I don’t see how someone can be depressed about not having a honeymoon for 23 years+ WTF. So no, I don’t really feel like I missed out. I moved on with my life. I can understand being disappointed (I was briefly) but being depressed about it for 23+ years…come on! Sorry OP, if you’re a reasonable person just know that it sucks at the moment but you’ll take one eventually!