(Closed) Had to cancel our honeymoon, struggling

posted 5 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

That is super hard. I know how you feel. I can relate so much! It will get better! sending hugs.

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’m sorry about your financial struggles. You don’t need to have a honeymoon to be married to each other, but I know it’s hard to feel that now. Why do you have to go to the Bahamas? Why do you have to spend two weeks on vacation?

I agree with saving money to afford your trip, but you could save for a smaller scale honeymoon within driving distance or something. It can still be memorable even though you’re not thousands of miles away from home. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee

We’re going to a little B&B for a couple nights after the honeymoon, and hopefully doing a bigger trip next year. I’m not upset about it.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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dk121915:  I know a couple that waited a year to take their honeymoon due to finances. Don’t stress it. It’s not in your control, so why not focus on the positives? Sounds like you have a fantastic husband to be who loves you who you get to spend the rest of your life with, you’re moving out to your own place, and you’re going to have your wedding soon! I’m almost at my one year mark (next week!) and I would be just as excited to go on a honeymoon now as I was when we first got married. Maybe even more if I had waited. 

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m sorry you’re going through such a rough time, but as someone on the other side of things (we did have a honeymoon and travel a lot)… I really didn’t see the honeymoon as anything all that special.  It was really just another trip to us, and in fact had less effort put into it than anything else.  I think people really hype it up and see it as some magical vacation when in fact, it’s just anothe vacation that happens to be after your wedding.  Get married, have a wonderful wedding.. there will be plenty of time later for amazing trips once finances look better.  And don’t worry too much about getting your new apartment furnished right away either, that takes time too as long as you have the basics, just go with it and furnish when you have the cash to do so.  Took us over 6 months just to buy a sofa, and 2 years to finally furnish the dining room!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

We are skipping ours also, due to money. It sucks, so much butt. I have the entire week off after to just stay home. It’ll get better though. In my eyes, I’d rather go a couple years down the line to something magical, then do a flimsy, rushed one at a place I really didn’t enjoy.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We didn’t take a honeymoon. We’re still alive and happily married. A honeymoon is an extra, it’s not necessary to travel somewhere extravagant for it be considered a honeymoon.

We’re not planning a big ‘honeymoon-like’ trip for another few years.. I don’t feel like I missed out at all, it will come eventually and it doesn’t have to be traveling abroad or some expensive trip to be special.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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dk121915:  I think what pp meant was that Bahamas is expensive. Mexico can be done for quite cheap. Something to look into! Puerto Vallarta and cancun often have great deals. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We never went on a honeymoon and I don’t regret it at all. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

 

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dk121915:  FI and I are waiting a year to do a “honeymoon”. With the wedding and every other bill, there is no way we could afford to take one right now. We’re taking a few days off after the wedding off and just hanging around home. This winter we’ll save up alot of our plowing money so that we can take a honeymoon/1st anniversary trip next year. Who knows, we may decide to not that the trip at all and keep the money in the bank.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

We had a delayed honeymoon. Really no big deal. We’re finally going this month, 5 months after the wedding. Money wasn’t the issue but we both had work and school and it just wasn’t conducive to a trip. Doesn’t bother me at all, and I’ve actually started just calling it a vacation because I really don’t care if we go on a “honeymoon” or not

plenty of people don’t have a honeymoon at all or have a delayed honeymoon. Be glad you can take some time off to relax and enjoy your husband.

a honeymoon is just a poorly timed vacation you leave on the day after a tiring expensive wedding when you’re often already broke. Doesn’t sound fun or relaxing to me. You have the rest of your life to take vacations with your husband. What does it matter if one of them started the day after your wedding or not.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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dk121915:  I never had a honeymoon because I got pregnant right before my wedding and since i had transferred jobs and lost all of my vacation I couldn’t afford to burn what vacation I had for a honeymoon.  And then I was breastfeeding and not comfortable leaving my baby for a week.  We’re also putting lots of $$ into my husbands business. So it will be two years+ for us and no honeymoon.  We’re finally going to try and figure something out this fall or winter- but it will just be a normal trip.  It’s just a vacation, I don’t see how someone can be depressed about not having a honeymoon for 23 years+ WTF.  So no, I don’t really feel like I missed out.  I moved on with my life.  I can understand being disappointed (I was briefly) but being depressed about it for 23+ years…come on!   Sorry OP, if you’re a reasonable person just know that it sucks at the moment but you’ll take one eventually!

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