Post # 1
So little background we did a unexpected courthouse wedding 8 years ago. We have been wanting to calibrate our marriage but no one but my mom was able to come so we cancelled it. We live in Wy and our family is in CA. My side had two weddings this year and my cousin recently bought my grandparents property and are having a house warming party two weeks before our renewal and my family is going to that instead. On my husbands side my sister in law is very sick and she probably will not make it very long. So I can deffanatly see where everyone is coming from. We were thinking maybe we could try again on our 10 year anniversary but I dont know if that would come off as me being desperate.
Post # 2
I don’t think so, plus 10 years is a good time for a vow renewal. Celebration of love and a decade of marriage.
Post # 3
Honestly, I think 10 year is far more appropriate and less desperate looking (if you wanted to label a vow renewal desperate) than 8 years. I think most people tend to wait for big anniversaries ending in -0 or -5 (20, 25, 30) and would probably find one at 8 years odd in the first place.
However, you should also be prepared for the fact that everyone is going to have something going on in their lives. In two years, different family members may be getting married, or the just married (or not married) folks may be preparing for a baby and unable to travel, or someone else will buy some property or have financial troubles or there may be a graduation or what have you. At a certain point, you need to just plan the event, hope for the best, and celebrate with those who can make it instead of constantly changing for others. I think more people will likely make an effort for a renewal at a more numerically significant anniversary like 10 instead of 8 though. Also, were you planning to get married in WY or in CA? Because you may have difficulties coordinating such an event if everyone has to travel to you whether it’s at 8 years or 10 years. Truthfully, I might travel for a vow renewal at like 25+ years, but probably wouldn’t for less than that unless it just so happens to already fit in with vacation plans.
Post # 4
I like the idea of a 10 year vow renewal. Plenty of time!
Post # 5
10 years is better! A decade is a real milestone whereas 8 is a slightly random number.
Post # 7
I agree that 10 years is a better idea anyway. But I also agree that people will always have things going on, and it is likely that a wedding or graduation or other event will trump a vow renewal for many people. I think you and your DH should plan what you want for the two of you – maybe a romantic trip with a vow renewal during it? It is just hard to get people on a plane for what would essentially be an anniversary party.