- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
Please excuse this long rant! I have all this on my mind & it’s something only another bride could understand. Here’s the situation…
I was supposed to have my wedding on Saturday, April 30, 2011 in Huntsville, AL but tornadoes came through & devestated my area! The day before our wedding there was no electricity so EVERYTHING closed plus officials put a dusk til dawn curfew in effect in my area (& were strictly enforcing it due to looting). Our food the caterer bought had ruined (bc she had no electricity to keep it cold) so we couldnt have any food, flowers, electricity, tuxedoes (bc mens wearhouse closed when power went out & stayed closed until power came bk on a week later). Also, when tornadoes struck my dress was at Davids Bridal being steamed & DB closed/didnt reopen until electricity came bk on week later so couldnt get my dress too. Bc of the curfew the only way venue would let us have wedding is if we moved it up to 2pm that day (& with no way to contact our guests) the day before our wedding we had no other choice but to postpone it until a later date.
To make matters worse, all the landline phones in our area were down & cell service went out too so couldnt make any calls, there was no power for internet, no texting, or emailing! I feel so bad that we couldnt contact everyone but since we had just experienced the most deadly outbreak of tornadoes in US history, I doubt many of our guests (if any) showed up. Also, there was no way to get gas & if they had been seen out driving after sun went down they would have been pulled over by police. The airport didnt close so we were able to go on our honeymoon (& it was GREAT!) but now we’re back in town & having to deal with wedding stuff. Also, we didnt want to go on our honeymoon & not be married so we had our minister come to our house & marry us the day before we left. Now, I’m worried it wont be the same & guests wont come since we’re already married. We rescheduled the wedding for Friday, July 22nd & thankfully, all of our vendors are able to do everything for us again on new date (at no extra cost) so that has worked out well.
I guess now we need to send out some type of announcement card & do rsvp cards again so we can get a new a head count for the July date. We are serving dinner so it’s important we have a fairly accurate head count (& I know there will be some guests that rsvp’d yes to original date that may not be able to come in July & vice versa). Another thing is my new mil is insisting we have a “vow renewal” & wanting me (& our minister) to “be sure to word everything as a vow renewal” instead of just doing it the way it would’ve been done on our original date. I’m not sure what the difference is but we’ve never been married before or had a wedding so I was hoping we could do ceremony & reception exactly like it would’ve been done on original wedding day. Yesterday, my mil kept saying “people have vows renewed all the time, just usually it’s not 3 months after getting married”…she said it at least 4 x’s in a 2 hour span. Also, one of my bridesmaids was hosting a lingerie/spa shower (the day before 4/30 wedding that also had to be canceled due to storm) & she sent me a text saying that since we were already married that she would just cancel the lingerie shower & give me her gift the next time she sees me. She was not required to put down a deposit or anything at spa & we were only having mimosas/ chocolate dipped strawberries for 11 people so no big money loss or anything to explain cancelation. That made me even more upset because again, I thought everything would be exactly the same but just moved to a later date. Now I’m just really sad about it all & wishing we could cancel everything. My mom worked so hard & spent a ton of her hard earned money to give me the wedding of my dreams & it breaks my heart for her too that things have turned out this way (she was incredibly sad for me & the situation too). We’ve already paid all our vendors (in full) so even if we did cancel July date, I’m sure they wouldnt refund all the money.
Their were a ton of people that lost their lives during recent tornado outbreak in AL so I know postponing a wedding is trivial compared to what those families are going through. I feel incredibly fortunate bc all of our family & friends are ok & we had very little damage to our home (just few shingles off & fence down) but I’m still really sad about the wedding. We planned for over a year & got so excited counting down the days so when the big day came & we were in middle of huge diaster it was heartbreaking. I never expected my wedding to be perfect & we were prepared for minor mishaps but never expected it to not happen at all!
What do you guys think about all this? Any advice on how to handle everything? Any others that experienced situation similar to this? I remember reading about brides whose weddings were canceled when hurricane Katrina hit & thinking how horrible that must be…I never imagined that’s how my big day would be too.