Post # 1
First time poster but need some advice!! Basically, I’ve been engaged for a few months now, we originally set out a year for our engagement but were both so excited we got stuck into our wedding planning, fell in love & they had a May date available which we just felt was right for us as opposed to September. We were going to save and get a little loan to fill the gaps so I went dress shopping, found my dress & it’ll be ready in February for a fitting. I’ve just started a new job & on a 6 month probation and the thought of getting a loan scares the both of us. My OH suggested we could afford it ourselves if we get married in May 2017 as we both like that month & love the venue but something inside me is a little disappointed that we are putting it back a year but the sensible side thinks it’s the right thing to do, especially as the lending money side of things really unsettled me…
One of the strangest things I’m worrying about now is my dress! Should I cancel my dress and go shopping nearer the time?! Do I keep it on order and go for my fitting?
Also, is 18 months too long? That’d mean our engagement was about 22 months long? I don’t know, 2017 seems so far away!!
Post # 2
You’re doing the responsible thing by putting it off a year and saving up. In the grand scheme of life 22 months isn’t long at all.
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
We got engaged in September this year and are getting married April 30th 2017 which makes our engagement a little over 19 months.
I officially ordered my dress on Saturday 🙂
If you love the dress, don’t worry that you’ve got it super early. A lot of stores will hold it for you, or you could ask your parents to look after it at their house maybe?
2017 isn’t as far away as you think. There are only 36 days left of 2015 and then you can say “we’re getting married next year!” if that puts it into perspective at all 🙂
I would save up so that you don’t need to get a loan at all (if possible) and then you can enjoy your day without having to worry about paying it back 🙂
Post # 4
Thanks for your advice ladies 🙂 a lot of people have been commenting on us putting it off a year and speculating so it’s nice to hear that it isn’t the worst thing to do 🙂 xx
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2017 - Vineyard on Long Island
My engagement will be 26 months and I’ve been loving dress shopping. I’m 90% sure I know the dress I want, but haven’t jumped and bought it yet — but I am planning to soon! On the bright side for you, you’ve ordered your dress and will have received it (which can be a major source of stress during shorter engagements if the dress gets delayed somehow) and you’ll have tons of time for alterations if you choose to do more than one or two dress fitting sessions!
Also, I love @stephisaur’s post about soon being able to say “we’re getting married next year”!!!! excellent point.
Post # 6
It’s not too long! We are having a 17 month engagement and our friends who got engaged early this summer are getting married April 2017. She’s going shopping for her dress in a couple of weeks, so I wouldn’t worry about ordering it too early. Good luck bee!
Post # 7
I think it’s waaay too long, but who cares? It’s YOUR wedding and YOU and your Fiance gotta be happy with the date. you shouldn’t care what others think! 🙂
Edit: forgot to answer… I got my dress 11 months before the wedding and I found that super early! But now I am happy because it’s out of the way and the pressure is gone. However in more than a year your style,shape and opinion could change!
Post # 8
I’m April 22, 2017 and I have my dress 🙂 Go ahead and buy it if you love it, but don’t get it fitted till closer to the wedding.
Post # 9
If money is the issue I say wait until May 2017. There is nothing wrong with having a long engagement. My DH and I were short of a week of being engaged for 2 years before we got married. At first I hated the fact that we were going to have such a long engagement but in the end it worked out and I am so grateful. We saved money for our home and for the wedding. In the end we had no stress. As for your dress keep it, pay it off and just watch your weight. I think you will be fine. Just make sure not to browse for other dresses as you may end up with dress regret.
Post # 10
Our engagement will be just shy of 2 years, engaged 5/27/15 and married 5/6/17… I bought my dress in July, it came in last month and I just got to put it on again last night! I was a little worried about buying it so early but I just loved it too much not to get it!
Post # 11
I would buy the dress now, but don’t do any fitting/alterations until 3 months before the wedding. Just pick it up and store it at home for safekeeping (you know how those little boutiques like to suddenly close sometimes :-p )
Post # 12
Got engaged in June, was supposed to have the wedding june/july of 2016. but because of the current situation at work, Fi is making about 200 less than what he usually does so we are pushing back the wedding until early 2017, maybe April 1. I already got my dress too but I won’t have alterations done until a few months before the wedding
Post # 13
The same happened to us. We have bought everything we needed (suit and shoes, dress and accessories, we had even booked our venue for August 2015), but then life happened.
My fiancé went back to university to pursue a B.Sc. degree and it made saving more stressful to me. I decided to quit university (ph.D. at the time) and I started job hunting to support us. It took over 6 months to find a job in my field, which was unexpected. Then in August 2014, FI’s dad died in a car accident. 2014 was a shitty year all around, and we didn’t feel like planning a wedding was our priority anymore. We decided to cancel our plans and to allow ourselves to recover both emotionally and financially.
A year later, we’re still happily engaged, and life goes on. We haven’t set a date yet, but are now considering eloping once Fiance is done with his degree. It doesn’t change our day to day life, and our family has been respectful enough not to pressure us with questions about our wedding. If anything, we’re showing we’re ready for marriage by tackling these issues together as a team and being able to make tough, but responsible decisions when necessary.
Sometimes I try on my dress to keep up the excitement, lol!