Post # 1
I am getting married in August and am finally in the details stage. I just had my makeup trial done last week and are making arrangements for my hair trial in mid July.
We are stumped on what to do for our ladies. My hair and makeup lady will be coming to me to do my hair and makeup. Do I get the same lady to do all the hair and makeup for my girls or let them find a place they want?
If I do have them get it done by the same lady, is it our responsibility to pay for the hair and make up for them or do they pay for that?
Thanks for your input!
Post # 3
I only have 2 girls in my bridal party and they will each be assigned their own hair dresser. I’ve been going to this salon for years, and the stylists that will be doing their hair are really good. I don’t have a preference as to how they should wear their hair (up, down, half up, etc). As long as they are happy, that’s all I care about. Being that they both live in different states, it was better for me to go ahead and book the appointment at the salon that I go to rather than have them figure out where to get their hair done. How many bridesmaid’s do you have? Depending on how many bridesmaids, it might be really time consuming for your stylist to do their hair and makeup. I don’t think you are obligated to pay, and they should also never assume that either. All of the weddings I participated in, I had to pay for my hair. There are cases where a bride will pay for their BM’s hair as part of their gift.
Post # 4
I’m not requiring hair and makeup for my 5 BMs. If they want it, they will pay for their own. However, to me, if you require it of your BMs and especially if it has to be a certain place/person, then I think you should cover the expenses.
Post # 5
Yup. If you are going to require your BMs to get their hair, makeup, nails, etc. done then you need to cover the expenses. Otherwise, you can present it as an option to them and see how many are interested in getting X, Y, Z done, and that way, they can cover it. Or, you can cover it for them as their Bridesmaid or Best Man gift.
Post # 6
I have 3 Bridesmaid or Best Man in my wedding party plus my step daughter. I am really not picky about what they do with their hair and makeup. I was just not sure if it would be expected for me to get that worked out for them.
I guess the best option is to talk to them and see what they want. Overall I have let them make decisions about how they will “look” for themselves. I have them in convertible dresses that are the same colour, but they will be able to style it however they want. And I wanted them to wear the same colour shoe.
I have had a hard time figuring out how much is ok for them to pay for themselves for the wedding…
Post # 7
I’m paying for their hair because I wanted us all to go to the salon together and make it a special bonding moment – I am giving them the option of whether to have their makeup done there or do it themselves, so if they choose to have it done, they are paying for it on their own. I generally agree with PP who said if you’re “requiring” them to get it done, you should pay, but if you’re fine if they opt out, then I think its fine to have those who choose to do it pay themselves…
Post # 8
I also agree with PP. If you’re requesting that they have their hair and makeup done, you should pay for it. If you don’t care and you’re making it an option, your BMs will pay for whatever services they choose to get done.
As for having 1 lady to work on everyone’s hair and makeup…It really depends on how many girls you have and what time you need to be ready by. I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man for my friend’s wedding a few months ago. There was 1 person to do both hair and makeup for 4 people (bride, MOB, Maid/Matron of Honor, me). We started at 8am and was super rushed to finish at 1pm.
Post # 9
My gf is actually doing my hair and everyone else’s hair. We all know each other and she is fabulous! She insists that she does not want to get paid, I’m still going to give her something for her help. As for my make-up girl, well she is my Bridesmaid or Best Man, I guess I’m lucky that I have them so close by.
Post # 10
I told mine to do whatever they’d like… but they kept asking me about hair, so I’m having the lady doing mine do theirs as well. I’m paying, but decided that would be my only gift to them.
Budgets and to be honest, general suckiness on their parts led me to decide that would be find.
I’m doing my own makeup but would have offered those services to them at their cost if we brought someone in.
I feel like if you ask them to style it a certain way or use stylists your providing for their hair, you need to pay.