Post # 1
On my wedding day I’m obviously getting my hair and make-up done but what about my maid of honor/bridesmaids – there are 6 in total – I just got pricing and its definitely pricey – I was thinking perhaps I would just pay for them all to get their hair done, but not make-up? Is there a way this usually works? I don’t want to be cheap, but I’m not sure if getting make-up done is also the norm…
Post # 3
You don’t have to pay for either. Your bridesmaids will be very grateful if you pay for their hair.
Post # 4
I think the thoughtful thing to do is to give them the option of having their hair and make up professionally done and they can pay for it. Or they can do it themselves. If you require them to get it done, (like some brides I know), you should definitely pay for it. But I don’t think any of them expect you to pay for either if it’s not required.
Post # 5
Yeah, definitely don’t require it…just thought offering one or the other would be a nice gesture! Good to hear I don’t have to do both!
Post # 6
For my wedding party I’m paying for their hair but they are responsible for the tip. Also, they are on their own for make up. I’m not hiring a make up artist (DIY, baby!) and I trust my girls know how to put their faces on. You definitely don’t have to pay for either of these services, but it definitely is a nice gesture.
Post # 7
Yes, I agree with Meowkers. As far as I know, you should pay if you’re forcing them to get their hair/makeup done by a pro. If you’re fine with them doing it by themselves, it’s not your obligation to pay for a pro.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2010 - The Mountain Terrace, Woodside, CA
For 6 ladies I can see how that would be expensive. Maybe ask them if they’d be willing to pay for it, as a present to you, if it’s really important to you that they get it done by a pro? Or I think the just paying for their hair is a good compromise too, I’m sure they’ll appreciate it! We’re paying for my BMs, since I only have three, but it’s still $150 for hair + makeup each. It’s one my presents to them, especially since they’re all out of state and having to pay for flights and hotel to be in the wedding. Also, I’m asking that they wear updos, since I’ve been growing out my hair for 4 years and want to show it off, and updos will be a nice contrast to my half up half down look.
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I’m (hopefully) paying for the girls’ hair, but not make-up… although if they want to get pro make-up done, I’ll be happy to hook them up with an appointment. 😉 Most of them are pretty good with that kind of thing on their own, though, and I think they’ll be willing to help each other out if necessary.
Post # 10
I have had a completely different experience. Every wedding that I have ever been in (wether Maid/Matron of Honor or bridesmaid), or been a close part of, the Bride (or Bride’s family) has always paid for all of our hair and make-up – especially if some of the girls aren’t from the area and may not know where to get it done. I don’t think I have ever known of a wedding where it wasn’t paid for. I just booked a make-up artist and a hair stylist to take care of my 7 bridesmaids, Mom and Mother-In-Law – while the price was steep ($75 per girl just for the make-up) I realize that almost everyone in my party is traveling in from out of state, so they will have to pay for airfare/trainfare, hotel rooms, rental car, misc. food, etc – not to mention paying for their dress (which I am keeping to below $200). Given the huge expense I am already asking them to pay for, I felt it wasn’t fair not to pay for their hair and make-up. I want them to feel as beautiful as me on my wedding day, and feel special as they stand beside me to support my marriage.
I don’t think it is “wrong” if you ask them to pay, but I would certainly keep in mind the other expenses you are asking them to incur.
Post # 11
I think you should take into account what your BM’s are already paying for. Most of mine are relatively local (no airfare) and their dresses are relatively cheap ($135 including tax). Some of the girls may need a $20 hem. We are going to try to find matching shoes at payless or something under $20. I think up until now, we have kept costs rather low. I am not sure about showers and/or bachelorette parties yet.
I think there is a big risk if you just ask your girls to go on their own to get their hair done. Are you going to look at and approve the styles before they go to the salon? What if they are from Out of Town and don’t know a good salon? I think coordinating the hair is the easiest.
I think the girls can handle their makeup on their own. One wedding I was in, the bride bought a bunch of MAC makeup and then her sister did all of our makeup. We used our own eyeliner and mascara but sharing shadows etc allowed for us all to match.
I am hoping to basically “gift” the hair style to my 6 BMs as their gift. They all agreed they don’t really need another tote or anything like that, but having less to pay for the wedding would be helpful.
Post # 12
I think it’s kind of a grey area. I mean, it’s always a nice gesture to pay, but if you are leaving it up to them if they want to get their hair done, then you don’t have to pay for it. But if you are requiring it or strongly encouraging it, you might want to think about paying. If you are requiring it AND choosing the stylist and therefore price, I think you should think about paying unless you know for sure the BM’s are well off financially and really don’t mind or prefer that situation.
My sister required her BM’s to get their hair done, but when she realized they were all going to their own stylists that morning and she would be getting ready alone (b/c her stylist was charging about 2X the normal price) she offered to cover the difference so everyone could be together. So it was a compromise.
I am going to wait and see for my wedding. I know two of the BM’s are just getting blowouts and both of them would be doing that anyway if they were just guests so I don’t feel as obligated to pay, but still might. The other 3 will be getting formal styles, but I’ve chosen a reasonably priced stylist so I think I can go either way. I would obviously love to pay but just don’t know if I’ll be able to..
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
I agree you should just assess their current financial commitment to the wedding and decide from there. I’m paying to get my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses made and providing the hotel rooms, so I decided to let them choose to get their hair done or not. I’ll gift them with a mani the day before though!
Post # 14
I’m paying for them to get their hair/makeup done b/c the package I choose with my hairstylist included a certain number of services, and I felt odd having someone come to my parents home (where we’ll all be getting ready) but only working on me!
If you’re getting ready at a salon, I think its a nice gesture but not required at all.
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
I paid for my bridesmaids to have their hair done, and they did their own make-up, even though I got mine done professionally. Honestly, it’s all optional. If you don’t want to pay for any of it, you can give them the option of getting hair/make-up done and tell them the price, or you can tell them they can do it themselves if they don’t feel like paying for it.
Post # 16
I offered to pay for hair in leau of a gift and FI’s mom offered to do makeup and all my BMs thought that was a great idea!