Post # 1
Just curious, if you are paying for your bridesmaids hair and make-up. I have 8 bridesmiads so that’s a big expense for me on top of everything else. Should I either A) ask them to pay for their own hair and hope that no one says no. Or B) should I tell them it’s not mandatory given that they have to pay for it on their own.
Im having a fancy wedding so I’d prefer they all get their hair done but I also understand if they can’t afford it.
I’d love your opinions!
Post # 3
It would be rude to make them get their hair done if you aren’t paying for it.
Post # 4
I am not MAKING them get their hair done, but all 4 of them want their hair done, so they are paying for it. I am actually gifting them their makeup for making me a shower.
Post # 6
Unfortunately, you can’t make them get their hair done if you aren’t paying for it.
Post # 7
The general rule is that if it’s mandatory you have to pay for it
Post # 8
What about offering to pay 50% of the cost for each as a token gesture?
Post # 9
You should be paying for it. If you are having a fancy wedding and want them to have a certain look, you need to foot the bill.
Post # 10
It sounds like you already know that option B is the way to go- “I also understand if they can’t afford it.” You should also respect that even if they *could* afford it, they may not want to pay the extra expense. Chances are, they are already spending a fair amount to be in your wedding. They will obviously want to look their best, but if you require them to have their hair done professionally, you should pay for it.
Post # 11
I don’t care what my bridesmaids do with their hair, so they have the option of paying for themselves or doing their own hair. In your situation, as PPs have said, if you are making it mandatory, you need to pay for at least part of it. I am gifting my girls manis and pedis the day before, along with their Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts.
Post # 12
I’m having my girls pay for all of their own stuff (minus jewelry which i am using as gifts). If I were a bridesmaid I would automatically assume I was paying for nails, make-up, and hair. I feel like that’s just what you do when you agree to be a bridesmaid.
Post # 13
You can’t make them pay for it. You chose to have 8 bridesmaids and you said you want a fancy wedding. Which means you either be content with them doing their own hair or you pay for it to be professionally done. I’m sure some will decide to get it done because they want to, but others may not be able to afford it.
Post # 14
If you make it mandatory, YOU have to pay for it. If you offer it as an option, but in no way pressure them, then they can pay.
Post # 15
I wanted all my girls to have their hair done, so I paid for that. I told them make-up was optional and it was for them to pay for if they wanted it. All of them got their make-up done.
I agree with PP, if it’s mandatory, you have to pay.
Post # 16
If you are going to require them to get their hair & make-up done you should pay for it. Otherwise I would just give them the option of doing it themselves or having it professionally done. If they chose to have a pro do it, they can pay.