(Closed) Hair and make-up…. Who pays?????

posted 6 years ago in Beauty
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

B.

It would be rude to make them get their hair done if you aren’t paying for it.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am not MAKING them get their hair done, but all 4 of them want their hair done, so they are paying for it.  I am actually gifting them their makeup for making me a shower.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Option B

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

B.

Unfortunately, you can’t make them get their hair done if you aren’t paying for it. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

The general rule is that if it’s mandatory you have to pay for it

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What about offering to pay 50% of the cost for each as a token gesture?

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You should be paying for it. If you are having a fancy wedding and want them to have a certain look, you need to foot the bill.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

It sounds like you already know that option B is the way to go- “I also understand if they can’t afford it.”  You should also respect that even if they *could* afford it, they may not want to pay the extra expense.  Chances are, they are already spending a fair amount to be in your wedding.  They will obviously want to look their best, but if you require them to have their hair done professionally, you should pay for it. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t care what my bridesmaids do with their hair, so they have the option of paying for themselves or doing their own hair. In your situation, as PPs have said, if you are making it mandatory, you need to pay for at least part of it. I am gifting my girls manis and pedis the day before, along with their Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m having my girls pay for all of their own stuff (minus jewelry which i am using as gifts). If I were a bridesmaid I would automatically assume I was paying for nails, make-up, and hair. I feel like that’s just what you do when you agree to be a bridesmaid.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You can’t make them pay for it.  You chose to have 8 bridesmaids and you said you want a fancy wedding. Which means you either be content with them doing their own hair or you pay for it to be professionally done.  I’m sure some will decide to get it done because they want to, but others may not be able to afford it. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

If you make it mandatory, YOU have to pay for it. If you offer it as an option, but in no way pressure them, then they can pay.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I wanted all my girls to have their hair done, so I paid for that. I told them make-up was optional and it was for them to pay for if they wanted it. All of them got their make-up done.

I agree with PP, if it’s mandatory, you have to pay.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If you are going to require them to get their hair & make-up done you should pay for it. Otherwise I would just give them the option of doing it themselves or having it professionally done. If they chose to have a pro do it, they can pay.

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