(Closed) Hair and makeup for MOH… My responsibility or hers?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
824 posts
Busy bee

I think the custom (in the US in my experience) is that if you are asking her to have her hair and makeup done, then you should pay. If you are leaving it up to her, and don’t mind if she does her own hair and makeup, then she can decide if she wants to spend the money herself or not.

Post # 3
1250 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

If you’re requiring it then you should pay. Otherwise let her know that you’re having a hair and makeup artist come out for you, the cost will be $$ to get her own HMU done and to let you know if she wants to join in as well. 

Post # 4
2593 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Personally, for a destination wedding where you’re already asking her to shell out thousands of dollars to be in your wedding, I would definitely pay for hair and makeup. But that’s just me.

Post # 5
14030 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Ultimately, personal grooming is up to your attendants, at their own discretion, and their own responsibility.

You can, of course, generously offer to pay and provide, but you can’t politely require anyone to participate in professional services at all or to use your choice of vendors. 

Post # 6
1736 posts
Bumble bee

If you want it for your wedding you pay for it. Like most destination weddings I’d assume she has bought a dress, shoes, jewelry, she has paid for flights, hotel, spending money, meals as well as using vacation days. Pay for her hair and makeup to get done. It’s the least you can do!

Post # 7
508 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I think it differs a lot. My mom picked up the bill for all hair/makeup the day of the wedding, but our bridal party was small (Just DH and I’s sisters and mothers, and my niece) 

Everyone bought their own dresses/shoes. I gifted jewelry the day of the wedding, and of course we paid for flowers etc. 

Post # 8
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

My best friend paid for mine when I was in her wedding, and I plan on paying for my bridesmaids’ hair and makeup (but I only have two). I gave them the choice if they wanted to do it or not.

Post # 9
7584 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Your wedding = you pay. She wouldn’t need the fancy hairdo and makeup if it wasn’t for your wedding.


Post # 10
1011 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Are your requiring it? Your responsibility. If you’re not requiring it then it is a nice extra since she is flying to wherever your wedding is. 

Post # 11
180 posts
Blushing bee

I have been a Bridesmaid or Best Man and I had to pay for my hair and make up. But for my wedding I’m footing the bill for the BM’s

Post # 12
9385 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

I paid for my MOH’s make-up.. but I had no bridesmaids so it was only an extra $75 + tax and tip.  If I had had a bigger bridal party I’d have let whoever wants makeup pay for their own.  Especially since I assume if I had other bridesmaids I’d have felt obligated to offer hair as well (my Maid/Matron of Honor does not have hair that can be “styled”.. it’s a very short cut) and phew, that’d have hadded up quickly!

Post # 13
1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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ashclayy :  I told her the costs, gave her the option to get her hair done or do it herself. Did this for all bridesmaids. 

Post # 14
1889 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

We paid for our bridal party’s hair and makeup and for their manicure and pedicure

Post # 15
4232 posts
Honey bee

Depends- do you want her to have her hair and makeup done? If you want her to use the services you booked, you need to pay for it. If she decides on her own she wants her hair/makeup done and you’re fine either way, then I think it’s on her to pay.

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