Post # 1
Does the bride typically take on the costs for getting her Maid/Matron of Honor hair and makeup done? I am having a makeup artist and hair team come to my hotel room for the destination wedding I am planning and feel bad to leave out my Maid/Matron of Honor. I am not sure if it is up to me to pay or if it is her responsibility. Thoughts?
Post # 2
I think the custom (in the US in my experience) is that if you are asking her to have her hair and makeup done, then you should pay. If you are leaving it up to her, and don’t mind if she does her own hair and makeup, then she can decide if she wants to spend the money herself or not.
Post # 3
If you’re requiring it then you should pay. Otherwise let her know that you’re having a hair and makeup artist come out for you, the cost will be $$ to get her own HMU done and to let you know if she wants to join in as well.
Post # 4
Personally, for a destination wedding where you’re already asking her to shell out thousands of dollars to be in your wedding, I would definitely pay for hair and makeup. But that’s just me.
Post # 5
Ultimately, personal grooming is up to your attendants, at their own discretion, and their own responsibility.
You can, of course, generously offer to pay and provide, but you can’t politely require anyone to participate in professional services at all or to use your choice of vendors.
Post # 6
If you want it for your wedding you pay for it. Like most destination weddings I’d assume she has bought a dress, shoes, jewelry, she has paid for flights, hotel, spending money, meals as well as using vacation days. Pay for her hair and makeup to get done. It’s the least you can do!
Post # 7
I think it differs a lot. My mom picked up the bill for all hair/makeup the day of the wedding, but our bridal party was small (Just DH and I’s sisters and mothers, and my niece)
Everyone bought their own dresses/shoes. I gifted jewelry the day of the wedding, and of course we paid for flowers etc.
Post # 8
My best friend paid for mine when I was in her wedding, and I plan on paying for my bridesmaids’ hair and makeup (but I only have two). I gave them the choice if they wanted to do it or not.
Post # 9
Your wedding = you pay. She wouldn’t need the fancy hairdo and makeup if it wasn’t for your wedding.
Post # 10
Are your requiring it? Your responsibility. If you’re not requiring it then it is a nice extra since she is flying to wherever your wedding is.
Post # 11
I have been a Bridesmaid or Best Man and I had to pay for my hair and make up. But for my wedding I’m footing the bill for the BM’s
Post # 12
I paid for my MOH’s make-up.. but I had no bridesmaids so it was only an extra $75 + tax and tip. If I had had a bigger bridal party I’d have let whoever wants makeup pay for their own. Especially since I assume if I had other bridesmaids I’d have felt obligated to offer hair as well (my Maid/Matron of Honor does not have hair that can be “styled”.. it’s a very short cut) and phew, that’d have hadded up quickly!
Post # 13
I told her the costs, gave her the option to get her hair done or do it herself. Did this for all bridesmaids.
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
We paid for our bridal party’s hair and makeup and for their manicure and pedicure
Post # 15
Depends- do you want her to have her hair and makeup done? If you want her to use the services you booked, you need to pay for it. If she decides on her own she wants her hair/makeup done and you’re fine either way, then I think it’s on her to pay.