(Closed) Talking to the BM's about hair & makeup

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
9681 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@MsGinkgo:  Just ask them casually when it comes up. “I have booked with x for hair and make-up. What do you girls plan to do?” Then they will either ask you more about it or say they want to do it themselves. Then you will know and no one is pressured because they decided on their own. If you don’t see them regularly, maybe an email could work.

Post # 18
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

If you are worried about expectations than you should communicate to them as soon as possible.  It’s never too early to let them know the plan especially when they will need to make sure it’s in their budget if they choose.  You simply send them an e-mail with exactly what you said in the opening post. 


It be along the lines of “Hey ladies, I am planning on finding someone to come to the hotel to do hair.  It’s completely up to you if you want to get your hair done or if you want to do it yourself.  I am not sure how much it will cost you yet as I have not booked someone, but let me know if you’re interested in getting your hair done or not and that way I can let you know how much it will cost you as soon as I can.  Plus this will allow me to better coordinate with the hair people if we know how many people want their hair done.  Thanks”. 

Post # 19
1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I found hair and makeup people, then emailed my girls and said “here’s the cost, let me know if you’re interested” and booked from there.

Just a word of warning, though – if you want to spend fun “getting ready” time with your sister, you might not want her to do everyone’s makeup. It can take a while, and if she’s doing everyone’s makeup, she’s not getting to have fun with you. My MUA said she was just in her sister’s wedding and did all the BM’s makeup and she said she hated it – it was like she was working, not having fun and celebrating her sister’s wedding day.

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