Post # 1
The girl has been doing my hair for 2 years now and does a good job, so I asked her several months ago if she’d do my hair for the wedding. She agreed, she booked the day and that was that. I’ve had three hair trials with her since November because I really had no idea how I wanted my hair to be done. She never asked me to pay her for the trials, but I always gave her money for taking time to do it since we had to meet at the salon after hours.
Fast forward to today. She sends me a message on Facebook telling me she can’t do the wedding anymore because they’ve scheduled a family reunion the day of my wedding. She said she’s obligated to cut all of her cousin’s hair and fix her grandmother’s hair that day. Then she says I can pay her for all of the hair trials whenever I have the cash and the time, but sorry, family comes first.
What about the appointment I made with her months ago and all of the money I’ve already paid her for my hair trials?
I have to say that I’m currently pretty angry about this. Family is important, but she messages me, tells me I have to pay her more money for all of my hair trials and then basically signs off with, “sorry you’re screwed”. I asked her for any suggestions for someone else who’d be able to do it on such short notice and she said she didn’t know anyone that would do it with only about a week until the big day. Awesome, thanks so much for leaving me high and dry this close to my wedding when I have no one else that can do my hair.
I haven’t been stressed much at all about this wedding and now, I’m livid and stressed out. I spent the rest of the afternoon calling any salon with decent reviews in a 50 mile radius and have had no luck finding anyone.
Post # 2
Holy shitballs I am sorry that happened. I would be leaving bad reviews asap because that is extremelly unprofessional! For fixing your problem I would try calling beauty schools even, travelling teams that don’t own a salon (weddingwire may have some suggestions), salons that are chains instead of fancy independent ones ANYWHERE that may have someone who can do it OR know someone on their staff that would take a side job (like if the salon is booked but a staff member is off and would come to the venue/hotel/house)
Post # 3
excitedtobeMRSF: There’s one beauty school here that may have someone, but I don’t know if they’d be willing to travel to my wedding location. If this had happened two years ago, it wouldn’t have been a problem at all. I know one other stylist in my hometown who might be able to do it, but she has a newborn and I’d feel bad even asking her. My mind is going 90 to nothing trying to figure out some ideas. I’m sure I could think more clearly if I were well rested and not angry, but that doesn’t seem to be working very well for me right now.
Post # 4
That is HORRIBLE! I’m so sorry that happened to you. I really don’t know what to say about her asking for payment for the trials, I’m guessing she assumed the money you gave her was a tip. If you have a good relationship with her, maybe you can ask how much she was expecting to be paid, but I mean, most work isn’t free, and that is her profession.
As for your hair, do you feel confident in doing it yourself? Maybe wearing it in a way that is easier to do? Or have a friend or family member that can step in and do your hair? Even if it isn’t professional, it’s better than nothing. You can always take a trip to the salon and purchase some professional style hairsprays/setting sprays.
Post # 5
SouthernGirl: this is so messed up! I’m sorry 🙁 Is there anyone else at the salon that you go to that can do your hair?
Post # 6
No way in hell would she get a cent from me if she cancelled a week before the wedding, especially because you already gave her money. She should have asked you for money at the time of the trials, or at the very least told you how much the trials would be.
Maybe you could ask around on Facebook? Surely your friends must know someone who could help you out. Would you be able to do your own hair if all else fails?
That really sucks! I hope you find someone who can help you out.
Post # 7
Wow… I can’t believe she would do such a thing. I get that family is a big deal, but she is a professional and she’s had you booked. And seriously, there is no way she wouldn’t have known about this reunion for before – big reunions don’t get scheduled only a week ahead!
I’m so sorry, OP. What a tough spot. I don’t have any advice other than what’s already been given. Best of luck and keep us updated. It will work out in the end no matter what happens. If this is the worst thing concerning the wedding, then you’re in good shape. 🙂
Post # 8
Good grief, that’s so unprofessional! I don’t know that I would continue to go to that stylist after this, but anyway, onto more important things. If you know anyone–sister, mom, aunt, friend, whoever–who is even remotely decent at doing hair (and I mean, knowing how to use a curling iron is sufficient) there are a ton of how-to videos online. Check YouTube. My Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t have the money to pay to have her hair done, so she found a video she liked and practiced it a few times. It came out awesome–her hair looked just as good or better than mine and I had just paid a professional to do it. Just a thought. I’m sorry this happened to you.
Post # 9
Wow that’s awful! I don’t believe they only planned this giant reunion a week in advance. Even if they did, she’s a professional and had an appointment with you that needed to come first. I’d never be going back to her after this and I wouldn’t be too bothered about giving her any money either. I hope you can find someone else!!
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
SouthernGirl: That really does suck. I would not be going to that stylist again. She should have discussed how much the trials would be, so I think that is a jerk move. I am also pretty sure that you pay at the time of the trial(in fact, had you discussed even how much her services would be for the day of?). I would be so mad because a reunion does not suddenly just happen, it usually happens well before. I cannot believe that she did not make any reccommendations at all for a different stylist to take over her gig either. Do you remember how much you gave her each time? If you gave her a decent amount of money as a tip ($40-50+) then I would tell her that most of that you are now considering payment for the services already rendered, especially since this was not discussed and she has left you in the lurch. Oh, and while family is important, did she not think that your wedding was super important to you and that she is doing something not only unproffessional but immoral (I would feel guilty doing something like that). The whole thing makes me mad!
There is not much you can do other than try your hardest to find someone. I am sorry that she did this to you. Good luck, I know that you will find someone, though!
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
Wow that is horrible! I would be so upset! The stylist for my hair and make up actually left the state and moved away so I had to get someone else but it was nothing like this and I still have 2 months to go! Even that kind of made me upset, but we’re just going to my usual salon so we have a contract for the day of wedding hair/makeup and they were able to just switch me to someone else. But if they had just told me too bad, you’re screwed…I’d be pissed. No way would I want to pay that woman one dime! She didn’t even try to work something out for you or offer suggestions. So unprofessional and just horrible.
I really hope you’re able to get someone else who can do a great job.
Post # 13
- Wedding: February 2014 - Windstar on Naples bay
Mine cancelled 9 days before my wedding but left me a contract with someone else so in the end everything worked out. first breath, second if she worked in a salon then surely there are other people there maybe someone else can do it? Post to face book or craigslist and just keep looking. None of your friends know anyone? There a solution somewhere.
Post # 12
Wow that’s crazy! I think you’re handling it very well because I would have bitten her head off by now. Sure, family comes first, but can’t she cut the cousins hair in the days prior? That seems like a huge bull shit excuse (pardon my language, I’m livid for you!). No way in hell would she be seeing another cent from me. She can consider that her penalty for screwing you over.
In the meantime, as I’m sure you are doing, call EVERYBODY. If you explain your situation, somebody may be able to help. You may not be able to get on-location service, but going to a salon is better than having to worry about doing it yourself. So sorry you’re dealing with this!
Post # 14
Wow. That girl sounds like an ass. So sorry to hear this happened. Please don’t give her any more money.
Post # 15
Yeaaaahhhh, she wouldn’t get a damn dime from me and I would not do business with her ever again. I know that seems harsh, but she is being very unprofessional and has put you in a very bad position. It’s not like she couldn’t do her cousin’s hair a couple days early and the grandma’s hair can’t take that damn long to do. She had a prior obligation to you and now she’s backing out. That’s just not ok.
I would call every salon near by and ask if anyone is available. If you explain your situation I’m sure someone will at least try to fit you in. Assuming that the hair style you want isn’t something crazy complicated, any professional should be easy to handle it.