Post # 1
I went a few months back to get my hair cut by my friend at works wife. she did a great job. her salon was small and dated nothing fancy.
I called her to aske her if she would be free to do the hair for my wedding thinking I may have 5 girsl neddeing haor done. she said yes and we would schedule something in Jan for a trial. so she called me to set up a trial and said for hair and makeup and I said no just hair.
so today I went in, told her it would be like 8 girls and that they only needed hair. she was like the package is 150 for hair and make up and because I didnt want makeup that she would have to talk to the girl working with her. I even told her I had someone already doing my makeup.
so we started with a cut and eye brow wax. went fine.
then the hair trial we were there from 4-10:15 and I took my ipad with pictures on it. she never once did nayting that looked like what I asked for and we were there all night. towards the end I liked a style but when she was talking prices she said mine would be 250. and the girls would be 150 each. I think 250 is steep for a updo. espically when I was 100% happy.
I feel bad because we were there for hours and she is my firends wife and I invited them to the wedding. but how do I tell her I dont want her doing my hair.
at one point she mentioned she norally has contract and ask for a deposti but today was the first time she ever brought up prices. so I dont want to tell her I am going with someone else and her expect me to pay her something.
I gave her $100 today. the hair cut was 45 and the waxing was 20. so because she is a friend and we were there so long I gave her a bigger tip then I would normally.
I asked about prices on the phone when I asked her if she could be free for our date but she never mentioned anything… bah
I dont know how to approach this.
I guess I just be honest and tell her all the girls need is there hair done and no make up and that the price is to high for them.
I checked into it the hotel we are staying at the spa charges 55-70 for an updo.
so how do I tell her I dont need her services?
Post # 3
For about the past month, I’ve been avoiding breaking it off w/ my hair and makeup person, who’s also my friend. Anyway, I have to do it! I’ve even seen someone else who I’ll probably also use for my wedding. The thing is, my friend is way too slow and has overall time management issues. She does a great job with makeup, but I’ve never once been happy with how she’s done my hair. It is time to say bye. I’ll be calling her tomorrow to tell her. I hate this sort of thing.
Post # 4
If you tell her that you just don’t want her to do your hair, it’s probably going to upset her a little, no matter how tactful you are. If it was me, I would tell her that the bridesmaids have decided to get their hair done at the spa, since it’s less than half the price (Yes, blame the bridesmaids- they won’t have to deal with the friendship fallout!), so now you’re thinking it might just make everything easier for you get your hair done at the spa, too. Make sure to be gracious, tell her you love what she did with your cut and brows, and thank her for doing the trial. As long as you make sure to let her know that your decision to change is not based on not how talented (or not talented) she is, it should be fine! Good luck. 🙂
Post # 5
She’s a friend and she’s charging you $250 for an updo? Some friend. I agree with constellation but I don’t know if you need to blame the bridesmaids. Just say you can’t afford it.
Post # 6
It seems so easy to tell he no and give her the reasons I explained. But I am afraid it will make it awkward between her husband and I. But really when I told her I don’t need make up and that my girls don’t need makeup all she told me is that they do a package and it’s 150. I think it’s kinda strange that she was so insistent and kept trying multiple styles on me and wouldn’t let me leave. When she knew I didn’t like it and it didn’t look like the pictures I brought… Oh man I hate this stressed feeling I have. But to be honest 150 is too much to aak my girls to pay. I already have one flying in from japan I for sure don’t expect her to pay.
Post # 7
I’m not sure where you live but I work in an upscale salon and we charge 120 for an up style. She might be overcharging you..l
Post # 8
And i am most upset cause I always have ling hair. I went in with the picture if what I liked and she suggested trimming my hair for the look. So she seemed confidant when I first walked in so we cut my hair which was not planned. I figured she knew what she was doing. Then as she was doing my trial it seemed as if she shouldn’t have cut my hair. She even briefly mentioned it. That pissed me off the most…
Post # 9
I’m sorry, but I would never pay even half that much for an updo, even in SoCal! I agree with Aure, just tell her you can’t afford that and will be getting your hair done at the hotel salon.
Post # 10
Normally I wouldn’t say to lie, but in this case if it was spare hurt feelings and awkards moments at the wedding…. lie!
I actually had to do this as well because I didn’t want a friend to do my makeup for my wedding. So I talked to Fiance and we agreed to tell her that my future Mother-In-Law gave me a bridal make up session at a local salon. I felt bad lying, but at the same time I knew I wouldn’t be happy with the make up my friend did and I didn’t want to hurt her feelings.
Post # 11
I’d be honest and say you can’t afford her prices! You presumed she would be similar to your other quotes but now you know she’s more expensive, you have to go elsewhere. Then it’s her fault, not yours!
Post # 12
If you tell her you can’t afford it she may offer to drop the price to match what the spa is charging. Then it’ll look really bad if you back out anyway.
Just tell her that you talked it over with your bridesmaids and didn’t realize it before but they were really looking forward to getting their hair done at the spa. I agree a little white lie is acceptable to spare her feelings, but make sure your excuse is something she can’t argue her way out of.
Post # 13
Unless your hair is about 8 ft. long, $250 is highway robbery! Some friend, indeed! She must have been charging for the time it took, which was her fault, not yours. I’ve never had an updo more than $120 or that took longer than an hour & a half, even when I had hair to the middle of my back.
I agree w/the others. Just tell her that’s way too steep for you! Hopefully, she doesn’t say, “Well, I’ll give you 50% off.” Ha If she does, well… I suppose you could use the “My mom (or whoever) got me a package to a salon” excuse.
Post # 14
Wow. I’ve never paid more that $125 (including tip) for an updo, even when my hair was fairly long. Moreover, I live in a pretty pricy area, and the one $250 quote I got covered hair AND airbrush makeup AND falsies.
If you’re OK with a white lie, just tell her a friend is covering you somewhere else. Or that you got a great price break through your makeup person. She can’t argue with free.
Post # 15
Ok, I can’t believe someone would actually quote $250 just for hair! I have never paid more than $60 for an updo! That’s taking advantage of the “wedding” angle! She may be a friend but you were also considering her for a professional job. Treat it as if it were a stranger, just be straight with her. First, it’s way out of your (and BMs) budget, second, it wasn’t what you envisioned. Thank her for her time and book a trial elsewhere.
Post # 16
I have never hada updo cost more them likt 65 bucks. I have always just gone it told them what i want and walked out happy. but last night it was a six hour long struggle and I wish I had just left. but it was a weird place to be in.
I really wish she didnt cut my hair but she seememd like she knew what she was doing…
I think I am going to have to keep the phone call simple. AS I was there yesterday it seemed like she was trying to sell me on getting my makeup done by her when I told her I already booked a makeup artist. this whole sisuation is dumb. If she had just told me price when I fisrt contaced her like I had inquired about it all would have been better. Cause I could have told her from the start I couldnt afford that. I guess it may kinda be my fault. But I never thought it would ever be this pricey the salon she works out of is in a strip mall and it is nothing fancy it is very dated and for sure dose not warrent the steep prices.
There is no way I would pay 250 for just my hair. I am getting my makeup airbrushed by my grandmother firends daughter and she is only charging 50 bucks. so I dont see how this lady wants to charge 150 for each of my girls. blah… I just wish it wasnt so akward….