(Closed) hair trial from hell

posted 6 years ago in Beauty
Post # 3
Member
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

For about the past month, I’ve been avoiding breaking it off w/ my hair and makeup person, who’s also my friend. Anyway, I have to do it! I’ve even seen someone else who I’ll probably also use for my wedding. The thing is, my friend is way too slow and has overall time management issues. She does a great job with makeup, but I’ve never once been happy with how she’s done my hair. It is time to say bye. I’ll be calling her tomorrow to tell her. I hate this sort of thing.

Post # 4
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43 posts
Newbee

If you tell her that you just don’t want her to do your hair, it’s probably going to upset her a little, no matter how tactful you are. If it was me, I would tell her that the bridesmaids have decided to get their hair done at the spa, since it’s less than half the price (Yes, blame the bridesmaids- they won’t have to deal with the friendship fallout!), so now you’re thinking it might just make everything easier for you get your hair done at the spa, too. Make sure to be gracious, tell her you love what she did with your cut and brows, and thank her for doing the trial. As long as you make sure to let her know that your decision to change is not based on not how talented (or not talented) she is, it should be fine! Good luck. 🙂 

Post # 5
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5668 posts
Bee Keeper

She’s a friend and she’s charging you $250 for an updo? Some friend. I agree with constellation but I don’t know if you need to blame the bridesmaids. Just say you can’t afford it.

Post # 7
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120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m not sure where you live but I work in an upscale salon and we charge 120 for an up style. She might be overcharging you..l

Post # 9
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2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m sorry, but I would never pay even half that much for an updo, even in SoCal!  I agree with Aure, just tell her you can’t afford that and will be getting your hair done at the hotel salon.  

Post # 10
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533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Normally I wouldn’t say to lie, but in this case if it was spare hurt feelings and awkards moments at the wedding…. lie!

I actually had to do this as well because I didn’t want a friend to do my makeup for my wedding.  So I talked to Fiance and we agreed to tell her that my future Mother-In-Law gave me a bridal make up session at a local salon.  I felt bad lying, but at the same time I knew I wouldn’t be happy with the make up my friend did and I didn’t want to hurt her feelings.

Post # 11
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2699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’d be honest and say you can’t afford her prices! You presumed she would be similar to your other quotes but now you know she’s more expensive, you have to go elsewhere. Then it’s her fault, not yours!

Post # 12
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913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

If you tell her you can’t afford it she may offer to drop the price to match what the spa is charging. Then it’ll look really bad if you back out anyway.

Just tell her that you talked it over with your bridesmaids and didn’t realize it before but they were really looking forward to getting their hair done at the spa. I agree a little white lie is acceptable to spare her feelings, but make sure your excuse is something she can’t argue her way out of.

Post # 13
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148 posts
Blushing bee

Unless your hair is about 8 ft. long, $250 is highway robbery! Some friend, indeed! She must have been charging for the time it took, which was her fault, not yours. I’ve never had an updo more than $120 or that took longer than an hour & a half, even when I had hair to the middle of my back.

I agree w/the others. Just tell her that’s way too steep for you! Hopefully, she doesn’t say, “Well, I’ll give you 50% off.” Ha If she does, well… I suppose you could use the “My mom (or whoever) got me a package to a salon” excuse.

Good luck!

Post # 14
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2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Wow. I’ve never paid more that $125 (including tip) for an updo, even when my hair was fairly long. Moreover, I live in a pretty pricy area, and the one $250 quote I got covered hair AND airbrush makeup AND falsies.

If you’re OK with a white lie, just tell her a friend is covering you somewhere else. Or that you got a great price break through your makeup person. She can’t argue with free.

Post # 15
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679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Ok, I can’t believe someone would actually quote $250 just for hair!  I have never paid more than $60 for an updo!  That’s taking advantage of the “wedding” angle!  She may be a friend but you were also considering her for a professional job.  Treat it as if it were a stranger, just be straight with her.  First, it’s way out of your (and BMs) budget, second, it wasn’t what you envisioned.  Thank her for her time and book a trial elsewhere. 

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