Haircut anxiety

posted 3 months ago in Wellness
Post # 2
189 posts
Blushing bee

No you’re not weird at all! I think many people get nervous about hair cuts. It’s such a large part of your overall look and is expensive/time consuming to fix if something goes wrong. 

Do you have a trusted stylist? I find that helps me a lot. I trust her and will let her do her own thing because she always makes me look good lol. I’ve found that when I go to other people I need to be very specific and even then it doesnt turn out how I wanted. So I try to stick with the same gal. 

eta – Just re-read its a new salon. Find out who your appointment is with and see if you can stalk them on insta! A lot of salons will have their own page and tag their stylist. 

Post # 3
1361 posts
Bumble bee

I hate going to the salon. For the past couple years I can NEVER get what I want and yes the whole thing is anxiety filled and emotionally draining.  I am sometimes really down for multiple days following a trip to the salon.

 I really like my stylist on a personal level though and enjoy the chit chat. This is an exception to the rule though, I’ve never felt this way about another stylist or manicurist, etc. 

Post # 4
270 posts
Helper bee

Finding a new hairdresser can be kind of nerve wracking – I get it with the small talk thing. It takes me about 5 hours to get my hair done and if I didn’t get along with my hairdresser, this would be brutal. Fortunately I found one I hit it off super well with so it’s more like a fun girls day whenever i go see her. To me, finding someone you trust and really click with is so important and i would keep searching until you find someone that you feel comfortable with. 

as for styles, I also have a hard time and I worry that things I like may not necessarily look great on me – for that reason, I’ve stuck to keeping it vague (I want to keep my hair long, go blonder etc) and let my hairdresser tell me what she thinks would look best (mind you I keep the same style and just change my color slightly for the seasons). I personally believe that a skilled hairdresser has a better idea of what looks good on someone due to skin tones, face shape etc so I trust them more than I trust myself – it hasn’t steered me wrong but i am very selective about who I let touch my hair. If someone doesn’t have the same style as me, they won’t be going near my hair.

i found my hairdresser in a local fb group then looked up her insta – her cuts, color and styles were exactly my style. I remember being nervous the first time I met her but she’s been amazing!

Post # 6
270 posts
Helper bee

Happy to hear that looking up her Insta made you feel better! Short hair takes far more skill to master IMO so you definitely want someone who specializes in the styles you like and won’t be afraid of going for it. Sounds positive so far so fingers crossed that you two click and you’ve found someone you can trust! 

Post # 7
442 posts
Helper bee

I definitely get haircut anxiety. I have very long, thick hair and I’m always worried about someone messing up (I’ve had a stylist cut my ear before…so much blood)

Checking the IG pages of hairstylists I’m interested in – specifically looking to see if they do the kind of cut I want – has been very helpful for me in the past. I think it’s totally normal to be nervous though, it can be a big change to your appearance if they don’t do a good job.

Post # 8
2595 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - County courthouse

I have curly hair. So every cut, I’m nervous. Most beauty schools don’t teach ppl how to properly cut curly hair. It’s usually additional training required. Most of the time its the same boring stuff, long layers and thinning. How boring. 1 cut for curly hair??? 2 years ago I went from shoulder length hair to a curly pixie. I was completely nervous. My stylist did well and I loved my pixie so much that I still have one. I also found a place that specializes in pixie cuts. They do a good job everytime and I no longer have mild anxiety about hair cuts

Post # 9
10699 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

ivyfall :  

I have found that good old fashioned word of mouth can be another good way to find a great stylist.

When we relocated from SoCal, my stylist anxiety levels were pretty high.  I’d had a long relationship with my former stylist who was great with color.  I don’t jump stylists if I find one I like. And I didn’t know a single person in the new city.

I have found a couple of really good stylists over the years by just asking around.  

Quite a few times, random women have stopped me on the street to ask me who did my color. It’s quite flattering and I am always happy to promote my stylist.  If you’re not super shy, you could try talking to women with hair that you like.

My saga has a happy ending.  By asking around, I found the best stylist of my entire very long lifetime. And, the person who made the referral gave me a referral card that was good for $20 off the first services.

Sometimes it’s just worthwhile to ask.



Post # 10
4844 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Stylist here. Don’t ever feel pressured into talking! Believe me, it’s amazing for us when a client doesn’t want to talk through the entire appointment and we get a mental break. We can tell who wants to talk which client prefers to have their hair done in silence. Bring your inspo pics, show them, tell the hairdresser what you like /don’t like during the consultand then just say that you’re so happy that you can finally relax and have some nice quiet time during the cut. Stick your nose In some magazines, check emails or just close your eyes and enjoy. I agree with you that there is NOTHING worse than forced small talk. 

Post # 11
270 posts
Helper bee

sassy411 :  same! I get anything off my hairdresser, manicurist or lash girl referrals but they are all such awesome people who happen to be the very best at what they do, so i LOVE when strangers ask! It gives me a boost that people ask and I love to refer them. I live in the suburbs bordering on country, they all have home businesses which i love to support, although they are all masters at their craft anyway I feel like i get a certain level of personal service beyond going to a salon (I was skeptical about home salons a few years ago, the best in my area work for themselves and started working for themselves)

Post # 12
741 posts
Busy bee



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