- 5 years ago
Hey ladies, I need your help!
My brother is getting married in October. We absolutely love his fiance, and cannot wait for her to (officially) be a part of our family. She asked me to be a bridesmaid in the wedding, which I’m very excited about. She has requested that all of us bridesmaids (5 total) wear our hair up. I’m not a huge fan of having my hair up, but I have agreed – it is her day. But now, she is dictating exactly how our updo’s will look. I’m not impressed with the style she has picked out, and feel that it wont look good on me. I am a larger girl, and have a very round face. I also have very thick curly hair, while the rest of the bridesmaids have straight. I’ve never been in this situation. The other weddings I’ve been in, the brides never said anything about hairstyles, so this is uncharted territory for me.
My question is this – is there a way to broach the subject without becoming the “difficult bridesmaid” or the “difficult sister in law”? I’m not sure at this time how the other bridesmaids feel about the specific hair style. I do know that her sister/MOH is also not impressed with the fact that we have to wear our hair up, but has also agreed. And her mother also made the comment to her “you’re telling them how they have to wear their hair?” So I feel like I’m not completely alone. But I feel like I’m in a tough spot. Any insight would be a great help!! Thank you!
P.S. We (the bridesmaids) are footing the bill for our hairstyles, which is part of the other reason I feel we should have some say in hour our hair looks.