Post # 1
Hi girls, I need your help!
my fiance and I plan to marry on August 17th 2013, I’m Haitian descent and my fiance is African-American. We plan to have the wedding in Maryland since he will leave everything behind to move here with me in Canada. So that was a small compromise to make as I also have family members in the states as well. So yes my immidiate family will have to travel 10 hours, find accomodations, hotels, etc. But we are willing to do so.
Now here is the problem. Since we want to rent a Hall and bring in our own food/caterer/wine in, we are stuck as to what kind of food to serve. My family in the States will bring some Haitian Food since they are closer to MD. But I have no clue what African American have for weddings. I want it bufet style and me and fiance are both foodies, but he loves mexican food and BBQ kind of food. Is it appropriate to have SOUL FOOD at a wedding? I mean like Fried Chicken, Mashed Potatoes, Greens, etc? Can you give me some ideas.
And how do you find a caterer that specializes in Soul Food. I mean we found some BBQ places that could cater, but come on now, I don’t want our wedding to feel like an outdoor BBQ, or an outdoor gathering. I want people to be able to serve themselves but I want it to be classy as well….
Ah man, planning a wedding from abroad is not easy let me tell you.
Please help me with menu ideas. You AA brides what did you serve for your buffet style wedding. We have members from our congregation who could help out as well for side dishes and the Sweet table. (Ideas for that too plzzz)
Post # 3
I’m not AA, but I think a Soul Food wedding would be delicious!! (As long as there are options for any vegetarian guests you might have.) And I’d bet there are Soul Food places near DC that would cater a MD wedding.
Post # 4
I’m not AA, but I think soul food sounds great (and I know lots of people in the South who’ve done really elegant weddings with fried chicken and bbq). If you search ‘soul food caterer MD’ or for DC, I’m certain you’ll find something. A lot of BBQ places that do caterer can make it as laid-back or as fancy as you want, and a lot of it is just presentation and how it’s set up.
And now I’m hungry.
Post # 5
@mightywombat: The only thing is that my fiance is in westminster, it’s not really culturally diverse in that area….I will see. Thanks for the advice girl!
Post # 6
Please tell me there will be pikliz!!
I’m not AA, so my input won’t be much help, but soul food sounds amazing to me. (Now I’m craving Amy Ruth’s!) hahaha
Post # 7
@kittyface: LOL I’m hungry too now!!!
Post # 8
@thegreeneyedkri: There will definately be PIKLIZ, I wouldn’t be a real haitian rep without my Pikliz on the table just in case the Soul Food is not HOT enough for my taste… It’s hard enough blending 2 cultures together, now we’re mixing our food…. Girl I’m telling you it’s hard!!! Gotto please everybody….it’s not easy
Post # 9
Salvating. OMG I need to go make some pikliz now that your mentioning it.
Post # 10
So we finaly agreed on the menu got a quote for the caterer too. Here is what we chose:
Dinner rolls and butter
Appetizers /Hors d’Oeuvres/ Sides
Green Beans, Fresh Garden Salad
Crab dip with veggies, Potato Salad, Haitian Meat Patties
Macaroni and Cheese, Haitian Potatos Salad, Haitian Rice with Lima Beans and Shrimp, Haitian Macaroni
Fried Chicken, Honey Ham, Haitian Turkey in Sauce
Post # 11
I’m Haitian as well. My Fiance is White (Irish). So I understand your dillema in blending two cultures. In our case, the caterer in our venue didn’t offer buffet style menu but allowed us to bring some outside food. So what we decided to do, for the cocktail hour we will have some typical Haitian finger foods (patés, banan pézés, grio, etc) and at our meal we’ll have the venue is offering but we’ll also add the typical red bean rice (ri poi kolé). And my mom is making pikliz to put on the tables as well! My FI LOVES pikliz.
I’ve been to a wedding where they served soul-food and let me tell you, it was a HUGE success! So if you can find the right caterer, I would definitely encourage you to do that. Depending on how it’s served, it won’t feel like you are eating BBQ food.
Best of luck with planning everything.
Now I gotta go eat!!!!!
Post # 12
As appetizers, I wish you had akra or marinade on it. Some fritay. But yes, soul food is a definite nice addition.
Post # 13
@sweetcocoanut: I wish I had marinade and accra too girl, but my family from Connecticut is bringing the food, so I won’t have nobody from the Haitian Side in Maryland to organize everything. I live in Canada but fiancé lives in Maryland, we are having the wedding in Maryland….With my side of the family being in Connecticut and in NY… Marinade are to be eating fresh, that’s how I like them…. Even bannan pezé… Awww man, têt chagé pitit…
Post # 14
@goodgenie: I forgot to mention we are actually having half baked and half friend chicken. My mom was really shocked when she read friend chicken…I was like it’s two people getting married, if it was MY wedding, I would only have haitian food! But I’m marrying an african-american and I have to respect his opinions too you know…
Post # 15
The food at your wedding sounds amazing!
Post # 16
Mmmm, your menu sounds awesome.