- Miss Sparkle
- 10 years ago
Preface: My entire family is from Poland, but I was born in America. My Fiance is …an "All-American" boy.
As we’ve been planning the wedding, we’ve come across a few minor bumps in the road…nothing too major, but mostly cultural clashes.
The major issue that included door slamming and yelling was the reception music. My finace’s family is generously paying for majority of the wedding, and we (they and I–I am sort of ‘American-ized’) decided on a band that plays typical wedding songs. Just a good ol’ regular band. Now when my mom went to hear them play, she came back sobbing and said she would be embarrassed to have all of our side of the family at the wedding listening to that "crap." My mom’s idea of wedding music is MUCH different than mine (…think bouncy polka style music) and firmly believes that the wedding is for the couple, and the reception is for the guests. That being said, she thinks that even though we don’t like it, it is necessary to please the guests.
–HALF the guests, that is. She has a friend who’s band wants to play at the wedding. I’ve tried to compromise and play her music along with our band (who’s already booked), but two bands?? They would each have to set up their own equipment and essentially, they would be in competition. Not really a comfortable situation for either. She’s not willing to compromise on having a CD of her music play while the band takes breaks…she doesn’t believe it does the music justice.
(Sorry this is getting long) We’re havnig a Polish priest come do the ceremony in both English and Polish, but I’m not sure how we divide that up. Has anyone been in a situation where you want to incorporate your heritage/culture (especially if it means making the family happy), but don’t know how? HELP!