- 6 years ago
I have a sincere question. Fiance and I are extremely happy together; blissfully so. We don’t argue, or have heated discussions…we work things out by talking through them.
But, this has nothing to do with my question. I’ve already posted once about a situation somewhat similar to this, but this one raises more of a red flag in my mind. His ex (high school girlfriend; longest relationship besides myself, etc) recently messaged him on FB. Now, I’ve never talked to her and I could be getting worried over NOTHING. I wanted to preface that. But still; she messaged him and asked if he could meet her to give him some old pictures of him and another girl that she had? from years ago, before she threw them out. This was totally fine by me; I know he has a past, I don’t mind, I love him, trust him, and all that. However…when he mentioned to her that I’d be coming with him to get these mysterious pictures, she suddenly needs to reschedule for a different date. Um…..? I don’t understand. She’s married (just recently, I believe) and seems to be happy. But they haven’t talked since HIGH SCHOOL. Fiance and I just recently got engaged; and this is just now happening why? I understand if she just now rummaged through old memory boxes and found the pictures; I completely get that. And she seems to be doing him a favor by politely asking if he wanted the pictures back before she got rid of them. But why would it all of a sudden be an issue, as soon as she knows he isn’t coming alone? Is there basis behind my worry? She’s never tried to talk to him before this….that’s why I’m not too concerned. But it still triggered a little warning sign in my head anyway, since she WAS his longest relationship prior to me, and I’m sure they’ve had plenty of memories. He was rational about everything; he let me know IMMEDIETELY after he got the message, and he didn’t try to keep any of the details from me. I trust him. But should I be worried about her? Or am I doing my typical “over-analyze-and-assume-the-worst” thing again?