(Closed) Half Venting/Half Requesting Advice – Dress/Shoes

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Bee, after reading all of this:

    You ARE being a whiny brat. Just suck it up.

    I get your concerns, and I've got some suggestions below. Read on.

    I've been in your shoes, and suffered because it's my wedding day. Sorry, but it'll be okay.

    I like turtles.

  • Post # 2
    9519 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    If you are not used to it this can all be physically overwhelming. As a seamstress, a costumer really so I have dealt with corsets and big poofy dress for a while now. Here are some hints. I hope they help you

    1. I assume the corset has ties. put it on, but before someone cinches it take a big breath in to your diaphragm. I have seen a few ladies faint trying to breath after the corset is cinched. They suck it all in so they can be small but then the corset is tied too tight. If you have a ball gown, that’s how I took your post, you don’t need shapewear and a corset. Just one or the other and I don’t see why you would need spanks? Shapewear tends to have plastic boning, it contours to the body. Corsets tend to have steal bones, although the more flexible kind. It may not be as comfortable to wear the entire day.

    and if you are worried about heat, have plenty of water while outside and a fan under the table during the reception. It will make a huge difference

    2. Standing in the same position can make your knees lock and losing balance or fainting possible. If you have a second fitting stretch first. I know it sounds silly. Say something if you need a break. Walk around the room a bit, just move. Can you put insoles in your shoes? That can really help with comfort walking around all day. The seamstress is right, do practice in them as much as you can. It will break in the shoes, make you more confident and easier to walk in them

    3. Changing to flats will affect the length. Not sure about another solution. Maybe wear a long dress, wear heels half the day then switch to flats to see how you feel.

    good luck!

    Post # 4
    9519 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    That would work

    Post # 5
    2251 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I knew that my shoes are going to be too uncomfortable for the whole day,  so i bought a very tall platform flip flop for the latter part of the evening. It’s from Guess, silvery gray with rhinestone edges for sparkle.  Very pretty and super comfy.  Do try to break in your wedding shoes before the big day.  I’m gonna do the same. 

    Post # 7
    400 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Regarding the shoes, unless your body is used to wearing 4″ heels, having the platform won’t matter. The platform may offset the stress on your feet but the height difference may throw off your balance.

    Since the dress is big and has a lot of volume, that will also create physical stress as you navigate around.

    Here’s a potential solution. When I took dancing lessons, I had to wear a huge comforter around my waist to simulate the wedding dress conditions. I also wore heels that were similar to my wedding shoes. If you can practice wearing that with your special undergarments, your body will have a head start of what to expect on your wedding day.

    Have fun and enjoy your wedding day! You are marrying the love of your life: don’t worry about the other stuff 🙂

    Post # 9
    533 posts
    Busy bee

    Previous posters have great suggestions. I am going to add the suggestion that you also look for other wedding high heels. There are so many differences that impact comfort besides size and heel height.

    Good luck.

    Post # 11
    47430 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    LemonColoredLamps:  Also remember that standing in one position likely contibuted to how you were feeling. Your blood pools in your legs and isn’t pumped around as it normally is ny the muscle movements in your legs.

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