(Closed) Halfsies on an E-ring? Thoughts?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you go halfsies on an engagement ring?
    Yes! If you both love it, why not practice team work?! : (155 votes)
    69 %
    No! It should be the SO's job to pay for it. If he can't afford it, reel in your tastes!! : (58 votes)
    26 %
    Other! I will explain below! Maybe! : (12 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    2450 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    when you get married, you are most likely going to be combining your finances anyway… so in the long run, you will have both paid for it no matter who pays for it now. go ahead and chip in.

    Post # 4
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    292 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Well in a few years when you finally tie the knot, the money will be much less his money vs your money and much more our money. If this is the only way to get the ring that you want, do it! I would keep receipts around so you can keep record of what each of you paid just in case things go wrong. 

    Post # 5
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    10289 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    DH and I had combined income before we were engaged so when it came to buying my ering, it was done so with OUR money. I don’t really see what the big deal is by purchasing the ring together if both parties are cool with it. 

    Post # 6
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    2578 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I don’t see any issue with going halves.

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    263 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I am contributing to the cost of my ring. SO had a set budget he wanted to stay within, and my dream ring was slightly over it. So I offered to pay the difference so I could get the ring I really wanted. If it’s the perfect ring for you, and you’re willing to help out with the cost, go for it! Don’t settle for a ring you don’t like as much just so he can pay for the whole thing.

    Post # 8
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    246 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    I want to justify my answer of it’s his job to pay for the ring.  My fiance and I each have an engagement ring.  Because we needed two rings, we each bought each other’s ring.  We each had to set a budget though that fit our needs.  Obviously, my fiance who has a full time job and had been out of college for two years had a little bit more money to spend then me who had been in college for the last two years working part time and having unpaid part time internships.

    Post # 9
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    1403 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I don’t see anything wrong with it.  Like PPs have said, you guys will combine finances after you get married.  As long as you guys are both on board with it, it’s no big deal!

    Post # 10
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    5065 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I would love to, but my SO won’t let me he’s traditonal.

    But, I pay the mortage and the food bills so it means he save so I guess I’m helping.

    Post # 11
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    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I think it’s practical and a great idea!

    Post # 12
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    3627 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It doesn’t work for me. FI and I discussed marriage during college, but got engaged once he was able to work to save up for the engagement ring, which was a year after graduation.

    ETA – I’m non-traditional in a lot of ways, but I just can’t get on board with this one, and I can’t put my finger on why not.

    Post # 13
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    1816 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    It’s 2012, we make decisions as couples! If he wants to treat it like a gift that’s fine, but if it works out that both pay a little to get what they both want – who cares! This is the first official stage as a partnership, it’s ok to work as partners on it. 🙂

    Post # 14
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    4961 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Once you’re married, you’ll most likely combine banking accounts, so you’ll both be paying it off anyway. Go for it.

    Post # 15
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    9567 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2018

    I don’t see a problem going halves at all! I put a little bit of money towards my ring/helping FI out cos he was saving for the ring, and it worked out great, i got the ring of my dreams and he could still afford to buy his family great christmas presents 🙂

    Post # 16
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    2117 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    When my boyfriend and I started ring shopping, I fell in LOVE with one that was a bit out of his price range and BEGGED for him to let me help him pay for it LOL!

     

    To me, it’s an investment for life…and I see no problem with both people paying for it 🙂

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