Post # 1
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Worker bee
So, my SO and I have been discussing engagement. (SQUEEE!! I’m very excited, mmkay.)
So far we’ve decided that marriage shall be in the super future (over three years) so we don’t have to try and have a tiny, college student type wedding. And anyway, we’re kind of both really looking forward to being eachother’s OFFICIAL intended so a long engagement isn’t to turrible. Plus we’re procrastinators so we’ll NEED a long engagement. 😉
ANYWAY. Now that you have the back story, let’s get on topic.
Because of the engagement talk, we decided to look at some rings online and both are super loving a semi expensive ring.
And by semi expensive, I mean: too expensive for college students type of ring.
After talking about it and both of us having a moment of wishful thinking, I’m sitting here now and realizing that if we both super like it, going halfsies will make it much more doable.
Now I need opinions. What do y’all think about going halfsies on an engagement ring?
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
when you get married, you are most likely going to be combining your finances anyway… so in the long run, you will have both paid for it no matter who pays for it now. go ahead and chip in.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
Well in a few years when you finally tie the knot, the money will be much less his money vs your money and much more our money. If this is the only way to get the ring that you want, do it! I would keep receipts around so you can keep record of what each of you paid just in case things go wrong.
Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
DH and I had combined income before we were engaged so when it came to buying my ering, it was done so with OUR money. I don’t really see what the big deal is by purchasing the ring together if both parties are cool with it.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
I don’t see any issue with going halves.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
I am contributing to the cost of my ring. SO had a set budget he wanted to stay within, and my dream ring was slightly over it. So I offered to pay the difference so I could get the ring I really wanted. If it’s the perfect ring for you, and you’re willing to help out with the cost, go for it! Don’t settle for a ring you don’t like as much just so he can pay for the whole thing.
Post # 8
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Helper bee
I want to justify my answer of it’s his job to pay for the ring. My fiance and I each have an engagement ring. Because we needed two rings, we each bought each other’s ring. We each had to set a budget though that fit our needs. Obviously, my fiance who has a full time job and had been out of college for two years had a little bit more money to spend then me who had been in college for the last two years working part time and having unpaid part time internships.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
I don’t see anything wrong with it. Like PPs have said, you guys will combine finances after you get married. As long as you guys are both on board with it, it’s no big deal!
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
I would love to, but my SO won’t let me he’s traditonal.
But, I pay the mortage and the food bills so it means he save so I guess I’m helping.
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
I think it’s practical and a great idea!
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
It doesn’t work for me. FI and I discussed marriage during college, but got engaged once he was able to work to save up for the engagement ring, which was a year after graduation.
ETA – I’m non-traditional in a lot of ways, but I just can’t get on board with this one, and I can’t put my finger on why not.
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
It’s 2012, we make decisions as couples! If he wants to treat it like a gift that’s fine, but if it works out that both pay a little to get what they both want – who cares! This is the first official stage as a partnership, it’s ok to work as partners on it. 🙂
Post # 14
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Honey bee
Once you’re married, you’ll most likely combine banking accounts, so you’ll both be paying it off anyway. Go for it.
Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I don’t see a problem going halves at all! I put a little bit of money towards my ring/helping FI out cos he was saving for the ring, and it worked out great, i got the ring of my dreams and he could still afford to buy his family great christmas presents 🙂
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
When my boyfriend and I started ring shopping, I fell in LOVE with one that was a bit out of his price range and BEGGED for him to let me help him pay for it LOL!
To me, it’s an investment for life…and I see no problem with both people paying for it 🙂
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