- 5 years ago
This is my first post on Weddingbee! Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to all of you. Okay, I’ll keep this short as possible but I seriously need to vent a little and get some advice before I ruin my own Christmas for myself.
Long of it trying to make it concise: Boyfriend or Best Friend has my ring. I picked it out and it was bought last month- he picked it up a week ago and it is in his possession. He chose to have me in on these details because he wanted me to have the ring I wants and because of our finances. He asked my parents for my hand in marriage about a week and a half ago. Besides the obvious of Christmas, New Years, and Valentine’s Day, my 30th birthday is in March and then we are flying out for his brother’s wedding in California in June, which he claims he wants us to be engaged before we go. ( We had planned on getting engaged around our 2 year early this summer but his younger brother was getting married at the end of the summer and then his older brother proposed to his gf after 5 months of dating and decided to get married this upcoming June when we had considered, so Boyfriend or Best Friend didn’t want to step on any toed and we needed are finances to be in order). Well, fast forward to this fall, we move to a state that we can actually afford, start paying down our debts and save money- planning a wedding for summer 2014 on our own terms.
It was our first Christmas spent together in the 3 we’ve been together for. His family is in CA, mine is in FL and NY, and we are having an amazing Eve and Day in our new place in NC. No proposal. So many opportunities, none taken. Now, we have discussed that we want a date special to us not on a holiday, but why the wait? I try so hard to not get my hopes up and he knows I’m disappointed, especially when my best friend’s sister whom I’ve known since she was a toddler and 10 years younger than me, got engaged by her bf of a year and is celebrating at my parents’ house ( our parents are best friends too). He is mad because I’m disappointed (its natural, isn’t it to be slightly disappointed?) and told me that if I mention the proposal one more time, he’s taking my ring back to the jewelers. He doesn’t get it. He claims I will never let him surprise me and I need to not mention it/”forget” it….but how can I when I have been so involved and have friends and family calling and texting, asking if it happened yet???
I want it to be on his terms, but I want it to be special and memorable, with effort put in. I’ve been more than patient but how do I drop this completely, not be a “baby” about it, and not show any disapppointment or start an arguement? I don’t want to be proposed like that.
Sorry so long! Thanks for reading! And congrats to you who actually did get engaged today, haha!